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Angles of insertion

StayOnTargetStayOnTarget Registered User regular
edited June 2010 in Help / Advice Forum
Yeah,
So, I'm with this girl and we're doing great except for one minor issue. (I've been with other girls and never had this problem before) Basically, intercourse has become a little difficult because of insertion. She's angled differently and I'm definitely not used to it... I have NO idea how to approach this situation because I don't know how a girl would respond to that. It especially doesn't help with condoms because they're uncomfortable as it is. I know we're not all made the same, but I have no clue how to deal with it.

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    ForarForar #432 Toronto, Ontario, CanadaRegistered User regular
    edited June 2010
    I'm going to go out on a ledge and say you should talk to her. It might not be an easy conversation to broach, but if it's different enough that it's throwing you for a loop, it may be an issue she's had come up in the past with previous lovers. That said, it might also be something she's self conscious about, so obviously you'll need to approach the topic tactfully.

    I also assume that this is noticable enough an issue that various positions all present similar challenges, because switching things up is also something I'd look into in that case.

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    MetalbourneMetalbourne Inside a cluster b personalityRegistered User regular
    edited June 2010
    This had better be a case where the vaginal canal makes a left turn somewhere, because if it's a straight shot and you can't figure out a good angle, then you're just not horny enough. Likewise, if she takes offense to being asked to roll over or pur her legs up, then she's the worst kind of prude and sex with her is never going to be fun, ever.

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    adytumadytum The Inevitable Rise And FallRegistered User regular
    edited June 2010
    This had better be a case where the vaginal canal makes a left turn somewhere, because if it's a straight shot and you can't figure out a good angle, then you're just not horny enough.

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    RobmanRobman Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    Man what

    Are you saying her vag has a curve to the left or the right? Because I'm trying to envision the anatomical arrangement required to have it angled differently anterior/posterior and it isn't working.

    The other option is that you're not turning her on enough, the vagina doesn't just get lubricated when a woman becomes aroused, it also lengthens and the muscles prepare for the penis. If she's finding it uncomfortable slow down and maybe orate your desire to her until she orders your dick in here then. and. now.

    The second is more likely then the first.

    But yeah, I'm assuming you've tried both front and rear entry positions? You an also stick a pillow under various things to change the angle of her pelvis. Try having her lie on her front with a pillow under her hips, or on her back with a pillow under her lower back.

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    UsagiUsagi Nah Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    So maybe you should be talking to the owner of the vagina instead of the internet?

    I mean, yeah sex talks can be awkward, but having sex with somebody can be way more awkward and uncomfortable for both parties without the conversation part

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    StayOnTargetStayOnTarget Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    Usagi wrote: »
    So maybe you should be talking to the owner of the vagina instead of the internet?

    I mean, yeah sex talks can be awkward, but having sex with somebody can be way more awkward and uncomfortable for both parties without the conversation part

    No, it's not a left turn. Basically, other women have it, well I guess angle is a bad term, but it's higher/closer to the stomach but she's lower?

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    StayOnTargetStayOnTarget Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    Robman wrote: »
    Man what

    Are you saying her vag has a curve to the left or the right? Because I'm trying to envision the anatomical arrangement required to have it angled differently anterior/posterior and it isn't working.

    The other option is that you're not turning her on enough, the vagina doesn't just get lubricated when a woman becomes aroused, it also lengthens and the muscles prepare for the penis. If she's finding it uncomfortable slow down and maybe orate your desire to her until she orders your dick in here then. and. now.

    The second is more likely then the first.

    But yeah, I'm assuming you've tried both front and rear entry positions? You an also stick a pillow under various things to change the angle of her pelvis. Try having her lie on her front with a pillow under her hips, or on her back with a pillow under her lower back.


    No, she finds it enjoyable, I, on the other hand, find it difficult. There is no lubrication issue

    It is a frustrating issue to talk about and I don't know how to explain it. I mean, this is why I'm asking here, because I have NEVER dealt with this before. Like, usually, the women have had it more ventrally (stomach) than dorsally.

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    The Crowing OneThe Crowing One Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    Robman wrote: »
    Man what

    Are you saying her vag has a curve to the left or the right? Because I'm trying to envision the anatomical arrangement required to have it angled differently anterior/posterior and it isn't working.

    The other option is that you're not turning her on enough, the vagina doesn't just get lubricated when a woman becomes aroused, it also lengthens and the muscles prepare for the penis. If she's finding it uncomfortable slow down and maybe orate your desire to her until she orders your dick in here then. and. now.

    The second is more likely then the first.

    But yeah, I'm assuming you've tried both front and rear entry positions? You an also stick a pillow under various things to change the angle of her pelvis. Try having her lie on her front with a pillow under her hips, or on her back with a pillow under her lower back.


    No, she finds it enjoyable, I, on the other hand, find it difficult. There is no lubrication issue

    It is a frustrating issue to talk about and I don't know how to explain it. I mean, this is why I'm asking here, because I have NEVER dealt with this before. Like, usually, the women have had it more ventrally (stomach) than dorsally.

    Angles.

    Throw her on her stomach with a pillow under the belly or under the small of her back (front up).

    Or not "throw her", but have a conversation. Try every position. Frankly, I suspect that a sitting position could be best (you somewhat upright and her facing away and also sitting upright). Try everything.

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    MetalbourneMetalbourne Inside a cluster b personalityRegistered User regular
    edited June 2010
    It is a frustrating issue to talk about and I don't know how to explain it. I mean, this is why I'm asking here, because I have NEVER dealt with this before. Like, usually, the women have had it more ventrally (stomach) than dorsally.

    Your choice of words is constantly conjuring more bizarre mental images. Right now I'm under the impression that you're sleeping with a shark.

    Pictures would help, but uh, well, that seems like a recipe for an infraction.

    So talk to the lady. I'm sure that with her unique geometry she's had this problem before. ask her what's comfortable for her or what she likes the best. Then modify her position with a pillow or two to make yourself comfortable.

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    joshofalltradesjoshofalltrades Class Traitor Smoke-filled roomRegistered User regular
    edited June 2010
    If you're the one finding it difficult, might I suggest asking her to climb aboard

    If she doesn't seem to have trouble with it, she might be better suited to ride the tiger

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    StayOnTargetStayOnTarget Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    It is a frustrating issue to talk about and I don't know how to explain it. I mean, this is why I'm asking here, because I have NEVER dealt with this before. Like, usually, the women have had it more ventrally (stomach) than dorsally.

    Your choice of words is constantly conjuring more bizarre mental images. Right now I'm under the impression that you're sleeping with a shark.

    Pictures would help, but uh, well, that seems like a recipe for an infraction.

    So talk to the lady. I'm sure that with her unique geometry she's had this problem before. ask her what's comfortable for her or what she likes the best. Then modify her position with a pillow or two to make yourself comfortable.


    yeeep, seems like it. Just curious what my options were.

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    The Crowing OneThe Crowing One Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    Just curious what my options were.

    Pillows. Pillows and conversation and eventually a mind-blowing experience, if you're down.

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    joshofalltradesjoshofalltrades Class Traitor Smoke-filled roomRegistered User regular
    edited June 2010
    Also, having her on top may give you some idea of where it's supposed to go?

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    bowenbowen How you doin'? Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    This doesn't sound like an "I'm having issues getting aligned" more than "I've never had a lot of sex before and I have no idea how to maneuver properly to align with something 1 cm off my usual mark." Hips do bend for a reason, and there's a huge range of motion that there is to work with there to match up. Turn the lights on, maybe?

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    MetalbourneMetalbourne Inside a cluster b personalityRegistered User regular
    edited June 2010
    yeeep, seems like it. Just curious what my options were.

    Your options are to work something out or to try to get off with your wang bent at a wierd angle. Heck, try having her lay on her side and you get on your knees or something. There's no rule that says you have to be front to front or front to back.

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    NylonathetepNylonathetep Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    Try to arrive to a compromising position.

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    The Crowing OneThe Crowing One Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    Try to arrive to a compromising position.

    This is the goal for every relationship!

    Sorry.

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    ceresceres When the last moon is cast over the last star of morning And the future has past without even a last desperate warningRegistered User, Moderator mod
    edited June 2010
    This is not actually that uncommon. I can assure you there are no right-angle turns involved, and if the girl has ever tried to put in a tampon, she knows. Just tell her you'd like to try to find a more comfortable position.

    I mean, don't say "Hey your vagina is weird". You can just say that your current positioning is uncomfortable for you and you think it'd be fun to try a new one.

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    vonPoonBurGervonPoonBurGer Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    It is a frustrating issue to talk about and I don't know how to explain it. I mean, this is why I'm asking here, because I have NEVER dealt with this before. Like, usually, the women have had it more ventrally (stomach) than dorsally.
    Your choice of words is constantly conjuring more bizarre mental images. Right now I'm under the impression that you're sleeping with a shark.
    His choice of terms is actually perfect, they apply to way more than just aquatic animals.

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    TopiaTopia Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    It's called a tilted uterus (if my guess is correct), and my ex had it, and it can be a child-birth problem. My female anatomy isn't that great, but just imagine you are viewing the girl the the side in the following diagram (where the | is uterus):

    .|. <- normal
    .\. or ./. I don't know which.

    Different positions man, thats all you can do.

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    StayOnTargetStayOnTarget Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    Topia wrote: »
    It's called a tilted uterus (if my guess is correct), and my ex had it, and it can be a child-birth problem. My female anatomy isn't that great, but just imagine you are viewing the girl the the side in the following diagram (where the | is uterus):

    .|. <- normal
    .\. or ./. I don't know which.

    Different positions man, thats all you can do.

    Here -

    STOMACH
    ...
    l <---Higher

    o <--- Anus
    ...
    BACK


    STOMACH
    ...

    l <-- Lower
    o
    ...

    BACK



    *note - I'm not saying it's completely next to the anus.

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    DarkewolfeDarkewolfe Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    Sounds like she might, uh, come with less padding than women you've previously dallied with.

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    MetalbourneMetalbourne Inside a cluster b personalityRegistered User regular
    edited June 2010
    all I know is that you'd better keep an extra condom nearby in case your aim is a little low

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    bowenbowen How you doin'? Registered User regular
    edited June 2010
    Darkewolfe wrote: »
    Sounds like she might, uh, come with less padding than women you've previously dallied with.

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    adytumadytum The Inevitable Rise And FallRegistered User regular
    edited June 2010
    bowen wrote: »
    Darkewolfe wrote: »
    Sounds like she might, uh, come with less padding than women you've previously dallied with.

    Now that we're getting the full story, that's exactly what it's starting to sound like.

    You need a sex wedge, good sir.

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