I am so good at messaging. Since backwardsname sent me on this affirmative action quest, a girl fitting his qualifications looked at my profile 8 minutes ago and my message to her was sheer slam dunk.
Also, I'm a total gamer. Faced with an objective like "write 1,000 words in your profile to level up", I carefully copied and pasted everything I'd written so I could check the word count. Discovered I was about 400 words shy, added some bullshit and then decided that you know what, I'm not grinding that.
The thing I've never liked about the pay sites, and I've told my single friends as much when it comes up, is that if you have a system where it's free to create an account but it costs money to respond to a message, you end up with a lot of people who aren't going to pay money just to send a guy a response.
Pretty much this.
I membered up with eHarmony on one of their 3 months for $50 deals and that was the problem I ran into. Seemed none of the girls I liked were actual paying members.
So we get stiff once in a while. So we have a little fun. What’s wrong with that? This is a free country, isn’t it? I can take my panda any place I want to. And if I wanna buy it a drink, that’s my business.
Also, I'm a total gamer. Faced with an objective like "write 1,000 words in your profile to level up", I carefully copied and pasted everything I'd written so I could check the word count. Discovered I was about 400 words shy, added some bullshit and then decided that you know what, I'm not grinding that.
I like it, Legba! Also, as a fun fact, my family tree originates in Oslo, so you just scored some cool points by proxy.
The only thing I would do is maybe change the wording of "hooked up with some cool people" to "met up." It's nitpicky, but the connotation of "hook up" gnaws at me a little.
Also, I'm a total gamer. Faced with an objective like "write 1,000 words in your profile to level up", I carefully copied and pasted everything I'd written so I could check the word count. Discovered I was about 400 words shy, added some bullshit and then decided that you know what, I'm not grinding that.
I like it, Legba! Also, as a fun fact, my family tree originates in Oslo, so you just scored some cool points by proxy.
The only thing I would do is maybe change the wording of "hooked up with some cool people" to "met up." It's nitpicky, but the connotation of "hook up" gnaws at me a little.
I particularly like the funny face photos.
Haha, thanks. Those were the ones I could find on my netbook, and I figured if I was going to put up one of them, I might as well go all the way.
Good point about "hooked up". Thanks. I edited that bit.
Also, I think if your family originates in Oslo, that scores you some cool points by proxy, no? ;-)
The thing I've never liked about the pay sites, and I've told my single friends as much when it comes up, is that if you have a system where it's free to create an account but it costs money to respond to a message, you end up with a lot of people who aren't going to pay money just to send a guy a response.
Pretty much this.
I membered up with eHarmony on one of their 3 months for $50 deals and that was the problem I ran into. Seemed none of the girls I liked were actual paying members.
I kind of feel like paying for internet dating is like paying for internet porn. It's really not necessary
The thing I've never liked about the pay sites, and I've told my single friends as much when it comes up, is that if you have a system where it's free to create an account but it costs money to respond to a message, you end up with a lot of people who aren't going to pay money just to send a guy a response.
Pretty much this.
I membered up with eHarmony on one of their 3 months for $50 deals and that was the problem I ran into. Seemed none of the girls I liked were actual paying members.
I kind of feel like paying for internet dating is like paying for internet porn. It's really not necessary
The thing I've never liked about the pay sites, and I've told my single friends as much when it comes up, is that if you have a system where it's free to create an account but it costs money to respond to a message, you end up with a lot of people who aren't going to pay money just to send a guy a response.
Pretty much this.
I membered up with eHarmony on one of their 3 months for $50 deals and that was the problem I ran into. Seemed none of the girls I liked were actual paying members.
I kind of feel like paying for internet dating is like paying for internet porn. It's really not necessary
At least with internet porn you know you're going to get some later that evening.
so would i be right to assume there's some strategy involved with quickmatch? I keep getting emails when someone rates me well or whatever, people must realize that you get notified about it, right?
its looking like an even lamer way to get someone's attention than sending a wink and a hi. maybe its just me
seriously, this keeps happening. I usually just message them anyway. But what, are people that afraid of being rejected on the internet? what am i missing here
Also, I'm a total gamer. Faced with an objective like "write 1,000 words in your profile to level up", I carefully copied and pasted everything I'd written so I could check the word count. Discovered I was about 400 words shy, added some bullshit and then decided that you know what, I'm not grinding that.
use pictures from your trips dude, or at least pictures of you outside and with people. i'm not a big fan of long profiles and i doubt most people are, but it seems interesting enough.
shave your goatee and i'd date the fuck out of you bro
I took the goatee for my ex, and haven't replaced it after letting her go. I do need to get some more recent pictures up. Trip photos are a great idea.
EDIT: Added a couple of photos. I dunno about pictures of me with people though; I don't really like the idea of using other people's picture in my online dating profile.
EDIT 2: Also, a depressing number of my pictures from recent years also feature an ex.
Also, other than a couple of female visitors from when I put up my profile pictures, I find it funny that all my visitors have been straight males; I've got my eye on you guys.
Also, other than a couple of female visitors from when I put up my profile pictures, I find it funny that all my visitors have been straight males; I've got my eye on you guys.
So we get stiff once in a while. So we have a little fun. What’s wrong with that? This is a free country, isn’t it? I can take my panda any place I want to. And if I wanna buy it a drink, that’s my business.
The first thing I think of after coming home from a date is, "I can't wait to tell Penny Arcade!"
I went well, was a lot of fun, etc. She's moving in August to essentially the other side of the country, so long term is clearly out. But hey, we could have fun.
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I've taken to just randomly messaging girls on OKCupid who seem interesting, irrespective of whether they're anywhere close by or not. Heck, I travel. But even if nothing more than a conversation comes off it, it's taking the pressure off from making contact with the handful of girls in my area. You gain nothing by overthinking things and trying to build the perfect message to one or two girls. Much better to have fun with it and not worry so much.
improv-- man, misplaced filthy talk is SO awkward and hilarious; "so good". REALLY? is it?
but when dirty talk is good, it's fucking BOSS. i have an ex-boyfriend turned friend/hookup who's ruined me for life because he's so goddamn great at it.
The first thing I think of after coming home from a date is, "I can't wait to tell Penny Arcade!"
I went well, was a lot of fun, etc. She's moving in August to essentially the other side of the country, so long term is clearly out. But hey, we could have fun.
Coffee Date went well. She seemed pretty into me, laughing at all my stupid jokes and starwars references. She's really funny and smart and extra-cute. Pretty much the sweet, nerdy girlfriend I've always wanted. The Ramona flowers to my Scott Pilgrim, The Peach to my Mario, The...April O'Neil to my Leonardo (Did she hook up with the turtles or were they "Just Friends?". I can't remember if that was covered in the TV Show).
Only problem was there was the dreaded hug at the end of the date. I'm trying not to freak out, or come off desperate, but this is like the first real propable relationship I've gotten off of OKC, and I don't want to blow it. With that in mind, does it seem too soon to ask her to go see Toy Story 3 at the Drive in this weekend?
Maybe wait until tomorrow at least. Then you can call her up, say you had a really good time, and if she responds in kind, would she like to do something this weekend?
Don't take a no too hard, if it should come. Short notice means a) she may legitimately have other plans, or b) it might just be too soon afterwards for her.
However, just because it's short notice doesn't mean she won't want to. Really, there's no harm in asking.
Maybe wait until tomorrow at least. Then you can call her up, say you had a really good time, and if she responds in kind, would she like to do something this weekend?
Don't take a no too hard, if it should come. Short notice means a) she may legitimately have other plans, or b) it might just be too soon afterwards for her.
However, just because it's short notice doesn't mean she won't want to. Really, there's no harm in asking.
oh, hey, has anyone ever gotten that message from the OKC system about being rated as one of the more attractive people on the site, so you get matched somewhat with more attractive people?
Was that just bullshit that went out to everyone or did I get that because I am actually gorgeous (I am)
The first thing I think of after coming home from a date is, "I can't wait to tell Penny Arcade!"
I went well, was a lot of fun, etc. She's moving in August to essentially the other side of the country, so long term is clearly out. But hey, we could have fun.
Coffee Date went well. She seemed pretty into me, laughing at all my stupid jokes and starwars references. She's really funny and smart and extra-cute. Pretty much the sweet, nerdy girlfriend I've always wanted. The Ramona flowers to my Scott Pilgrim, The Peach to my Mario, The...April O'Neil to my Leonardo (Did she hook up with the turtles or were they "Just Friends?". I can't remember if that was covered in the TV Show).
Only problem was there was the dreaded hug at the end of the date. I'm trying not to freak out, or come off desperate, but this is like the first real propable relationship I've gotten off of OKC, and I don't want to blow it. With that in mind, does it seem too soon to ask her to go see Toy Story 3 at the Drive in this weekend?
The movie is awesome, of course you should ask her.
What was so dreaded about the hug? Hugs are great.
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Hey so I just saw this thread pop up and wanted to thank you guys for informing me of plentyoffish a few months ago. I met my current girlfriend through there (Even though we were acquaintances already, it's where we started actually talking) and we've been dating for almost three months now! So hurray!
The...April O'Neil to my Leonardo (Did she hook up with the turtles or were they "Just Friends?". I can't remember if that was covered in the TV Show).
They were just friends. As a rule of thumb, most children cartoons don't deal with mutant bestiality.
But that reminds me, after dinner my date and I walked around the neighbourhood, and we stumbled upon our town's only video arcade place. And there, among the DDR and Daytona USA machines, stood proud and alone
oh, hey, has anyone ever gotten that message from the OKC system about being rated as one of the more attractive people on the site, so you get matched somewhat with more attractive people?
Was that just bullshit that went out to everyone or did I get that because I am actually gorgeous (I am)
we should really change the subject to deal with this question before people ask it
oh, hey, has anyone ever gotten that message from the OKC system about being rated as one of the more attractive people on the site, so you get matched somewhat with more attractive people?
Was that just bullshit that went out to everyone or did I get that because I am actually gorgeous (I am)
we should really change the subject to deal with this question before people ask it
this, or at least we should compile a list in the OP of people who have gotten the message, until we end up with everyone in this thread having gotten the message.
also congrats to everyone with successful stories! i lost track after the third or fourth person - i'm happy for you guys!
oh and Jokerman - text her tonight and ask her. tell her you had a great time and you hope she did too. in my opinion (disclaimer: no guarantee she shares it) waiting several days to ask for a second date is just too damn long. my weekend schedule fills up FAST with fun friend activities (particularly in the summer) so the sooner you ask, the better. (er, well, waiting a day is probably good though) just text her tonight.
Legba - your profile looks great! needs more other people in your pictures though, imo. and goddamnit, THINK OF AN EMBARRASSING STORY. pet peeve is when people do stuff like the coy "well why don't you ask me?" or, "I'm just not comfortable...". it doesn't have to be your MOST embarrassing story, just needs to be a story.
heh, legba looked at my profile after i went to his....sorry.....norway is just too far for us to make it work!!!!!!!!
also, i come across so many profiles that i think MUST be fakes that i feel i may sometimes be passing over real people......this girl looked at my profile so i went to hers, turns out she's only 19 (i am 27) which basically disqualifies her, i felt i'd at least read over her profile though since i had some free time.....it read like a horoscope....lots of contradictory things but stuff that was general enough to apply to all people so you felt like "wow this sure does apply to me"....but also things in there that seemed like a person trolling, talking about how nasty an attitude she has and such...
so either way..what i'm getting at is do you ever feel like you pass people over just because you're EXPECTING fake accounts/trolls so you read too far into a profile?
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I take all the credit for this
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Blue_Legba
Thoughts?
Also, I'm a total gamer. Faced with an objective like "write 1,000 words in your profile to level up", I carefully copied and pasted everything I'd written so I could check the word count. Discovered I was about 400 words shy, added some bullshit and then decided that you know what, I'm not grinding that.
Pretty much this.
I membered up with eHarmony on one of their 3 months for $50 deals and that was the problem I ran into. Seemed none of the girls I liked were actual paying members.
The only thing I would do is maybe change the wording of "hooked up with some cool people" to "met up." It's nitpicky, but the connotation of "hook up" gnaws at me a little.
I particularly like the funny face photos.
Haha, thanks. Those were the ones I could find on my netbook, and I figured if I was going to put up one of them, I might as well go all the way.
Good point about "hooked up". Thanks. I edited that bit.
Also, I think if your family originates in Oslo, that scores you some cool points by proxy, no? ;-)
My cousin Maren still lives there. She has a band. She's pretty epic. She makes Oslo look flippin' sweet.
Anyway! Back on topic, I really think "my bumbling ways" was a very cute answer. Points for creativity.
I kind of feel like paying for internet dating is like paying for internet porn. It's really not necessary
:^:
At least with internet porn you know you're going to get some later that evening.
If by "some" you mean Ms Palm and her five sisters, then yes indeed.
use pictures from your trips dude, or at least pictures of you outside and with people. i'm not a big fan of long profiles and i doubt most people are, but it seems interesting enough.
shave your goatee and i'd date the fuck out of you bro
EDIT: Added a couple of photos. I dunno about pictures of me with people though; I don't really like the idea of using other people's picture in my online dating profile.
EDIT 2: Also, a depressing number of my pictures from recent years also feature an ex.
Also, other than a couple of female visitors from when I put up my profile pictures, I find it funny that all my visitors have been straight males; I've got my eye on you guys.
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I'm innocent I swear!
I went well, was a lot of fun, etc. She's moving in August to essentially the other side of the country, so long term is clearly out. But hey, we could have fun.
I've taken to just randomly messaging girls on OKCupid who seem interesting, irrespective of whether they're anywhere close by or not. Heck, I travel. But even if nothing more than a conversation comes off it, it's taking the pressure off from making contact with the handful of girls in my area. You gain nothing by overthinking things and trying to build the perfect message to one or two girls. Much better to have fun with it and not worry so much.
but when dirty talk is good, it's fucking BOSS. i have an ex-boyfriend turned friend/hookup who's ruined me for life because he's so goddamn great at it.
Coffee Date went well. She seemed pretty into me, laughing at all my stupid jokes and starwars references. She's really funny and smart and extra-cute. Pretty much the sweet, nerdy girlfriend I've always wanted. The Ramona flowers to my Scott Pilgrim, The Peach to my Mario, The...April O'Neil to my Leonardo (Did she hook up with the turtles or were they "Just Friends?". I can't remember if that was covered in the TV Show).
Only problem was there was the dreaded hug at the end of the date. I'm trying not to freak out, or come off desperate, but this is like the first real propable relationship I've gotten off of OKC, and I don't want to blow it. With that in mind, does it seem too soon to ask her to go see Toy Story 3 at the Drive in this weekend?
Don't take a no too hard, if it should come. Short notice means a) she may legitimately have other plans, or b) it might just be too soon afterwards for her.
However, just because it's short notice doesn't mean she won't want to. Really, there's no harm in asking.
But your picture jokingly suggested you were being shot I thought.
i know, that is what i am saying
after making some consultations, people were like
dude, that's not good
me:
I will beat them up.
Was that just bullshit that went out to everyone or did I get that because I am actually gorgeous (I am)
If everyone were as sexually explosive as I am it wouldn't be special
people like you make it so that we still appreciate the extraordinary
you're the beige background against which I pop. It's an important job! Good work!
I'm one of the guys in white keeping the cows company.
Important work!
The movie is awesome, of course you should ask her.
What was so dreaded about the hug? Hugs are great.
They were just friends. As a rule of thumb, most children cartoons don't deal with mutant bestiality.
But that reminds me, after dinner my date and I walked around the neighbourhood, and we stumbled upon our town's only video arcade place. And there, among the DDR and Daytona USA machines, stood proud and alone
Currently painting: Slowly [flickr]
If this thread can be classified as n, I met my ex on OKC at n-2 and broke up with her approximately 100 pages later at n-1.
also congrats to everyone with successful stories! i lost track after the third or fourth person - i'm happy for you guys!
oh and Jokerman - text her tonight and ask her. tell her you had a great time and you hope she did too. in my opinion (disclaimer: no guarantee she shares it) waiting several days to ask for a second date is just too damn long. my weekend schedule fills up FAST with fun friend activities (particularly in the summer) so the sooner you ask, the better. (er, well, waiting a day is probably good though) just text her tonight.
Legba - your profile looks great! needs more other people in your pictures though, imo. and goddamnit, THINK OF AN EMBARRASSING STORY. pet peeve is when people do stuff like the coy "well why don't you ask me?" or, "I'm just not comfortable...". it doesn't have to be your MOST embarrassing story, just needs to be a story.
Well, for me getting past the first date would be a measure of success. Good thing I am too stubborn to know when to quit.
Currently painting: Slowly [flickr]
also, i come across so many profiles that i think MUST be fakes that i feel i may sometimes be passing over real people......this girl looked at my profile so i went to hers, turns out she's only 19 (i am 27) which basically disqualifies her, i felt i'd at least read over her profile though since i had some free time.....it read like a horoscope....lots of contradictory things but stuff that was general enough to apply to all people so you felt like "wow this sure does apply to me"....but also things in there that seemed like a person trolling, talking about how nasty an attitude she has and such...
so either way..what i'm getting at is do you ever feel like you pass people over just because you're EXPECTING fake accounts/trolls so you read too far into a profile?