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Baby supposedly being fussy for daycare provider?
phekno
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My three month old daughter spends days Monday through Wednesday with an unemployed friend of my wife, who we pay for doing that. My mom then takes her for Thursday and Fridays. Until recently, things were going pretty well. Occasionally I would come home and my wife's friend would complain that it was a particularly rough day, because my daughter was crying and fussy a lot and wouldn't sleep, etc.
This last Monday (8/30) I came home and the friend complained that she had had the day from hell because my daughter was screaming bloody murder for hours and couldn't be calmed. This happened again on Tuesday and she said that she even had to call her mom to see if there was something she could do. She suggested that we take her to the doctor because she's screaming like she's in pain.
It is now lunch time on Wednesday and she's saying the same thing (i.e. my daughter is screaming, there's something wrong with her, you need to take her to the doctor, etc.). I can't keep doing this, because I have a job and so does my wife...I don't have time to babysit my babysitter.
My mom has had no problems with my daughter when she takes her.
We recently switched from brand name formula to a store brand.
My wife's friend (who takes care of my daughter Monday - Wednesday) is a Certified Medical Assistant and is in her last year of nursing school.
On Monday, after my wife and I had returned home, my daughter was admittedly a little more fussy than usual (she usually is from about 7-9ish anyway), but last night wasn't a problem at all.
The wife's friend thinks that the "new" formula is causing my daughter excess gas and pain. I haven't noticed any changes when I'm home with her.
Those are the facts. Is my wife's friend doing it wrong? I feel like she is, because no one else seems to have problems with my daughter. When she's had bad days in the past, we've tried to gently explain some of the finer points of caring for an infant, but maybe she's just not getting it. She has no kids herself (probably a giant red flag). Any suggestions? At this point I'm tempted to tell her to not watch my daughter anymore and find a real daycare that knows what the hell they're doing.
This last Monday (8/30) I came home and the friend complained that she had had the day from hell because my daughter was screaming bloody murder for hours and couldn't be calmed. This happened again on Tuesday and she said that she even had to call her mom to see if there was something she could do. She suggested that we take her to the doctor because she's screaming like she's in pain.
It is now lunch time on Wednesday and she's saying the same thing (i.e. my daughter is screaming, there's something wrong with her, you need to take her to the doctor, etc.). I can't keep doing this, because I have a job and so does my wife...I don't have time to babysit my babysitter.
My mom has had no problems with my daughter when she takes her.
We recently switched from brand name formula to a store brand.
My wife's friend (who takes care of my daughter Monday - Wednesday) is a Certified Medical Assistant and is in her last year of nursing school.
On Monday, after my wife and I had returned home, my daughter was admittedly a little more fussy than usual (she usually is from about 7-9ish anyway), but last night wasn't a problem at all.
The wife's friend thinks that the "new" formula is causing my daughter excess gas and pain. I haven't noticed any changes when I'm home with her.
Those are the facts. Is my wife's friend doing it wrong? I feel like she is, because no one else seems to have problems with my daughter. When she's had bad days in the past, we've tried to gently explain some of the finer points of caring for an infant, but maybe she's just not getting it. She has no kids herself (probably a giant red flag). Any suggestions? At this point I'm tempted to tell her to not watch my daughter anymore and find a real daycare that knows what the hell they're doing.
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But anecdotally on childcare and the calming of fussy babies.
Swaddling is a god-send.
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Don't think they won't call you just the same though. Everyday licensed daycare I've ever used has called for the dumbest reasons.
If it's in your house, this might be an option, just to see how fussy baby is being. but if it's at her house... i don't really see this being an option.
My daughter is on soy formula now (a long story I don't want to tell). We switched from Enfamil to Target brand because it's about half price. The daycare provider seems to think that it got worse once we switched, and that she's gassier and fussier now. I think she's full of shit. It doesn't help that she's a hypochondriac (IMHO).
She is being cared for in my house, and, yes, I have thought of doing some kind of nanny cam. In fact, in light of this fiasco, my wife even suggested it.
Tomorrow my mom comes to take care of the kid, so we'll see how that goes. In thinking back, I think this started last Wednesday (with the wife's friend), and my mom came to take care of the kid on Thursday/Friday and didn't have any problems at all (I think her words were "She's been an angel"). We're going to keep her on her current (read: cheap) formula for the time being and see how my mom does with the kid. If I go home on Thursday and find my mom weeping in a corner with the bible and describing my child as the spawn of Satan, I will know something is wrong. Somehow I doubt that will be the case.
Edit: I don't doubt that she's being fussy...I doubt that the daycare provider (my wife's friend) knows how to properly care for an infant.
Also, we wrap her up like a burrito all the time. I'm so good at it I could work at Chipotle.
I would look into a licensed daycare provider, they will more likely know what is normal baby crying and what is to be worried about.
but they're listening to every word I say