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Grandma, Cancer, One Month To Live
4rch3nemy
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..the thread title pretty much explains it all. We found out earlier today that my grandma is going to die in about a month or less due to cancer throughout her body.
Personally, I'm okay about all of it (still.. FUCKING SUCKS!
), except one thing and only one thing. It will be inevitable that I will either have to speak to her on the phone and/or over MSN (she used to use it lots.. haven't seen her in a while due to hospitalization). The problem lies in the fact that I just can't .. I just don't know what to say or how to say it.. I mean I wanna tell her that I love her but other than that, where can one go in the conversation. It's like fucking last goodbyes or something.. fuck it's heavy.
Help me out here.. plus, sorry about the rambling and tone and what not. I'm pretty shaken up.
Personally, I'm okay about all of it (still.. FUCKING SUCKS!
), except one thing and only one thing. It will be inevitable that I will either have to speak to her on the phone and/or over MSN (she used to use it lots.. haven't seen her in a while due to hospitalization). The problem lies in the fact that I just can't .. I just don't know what to say or how to say it.. I mean I wanna tell her that I love her but other than that, where can one go in the conversation. It's like fucking last goodbyes or something.. fuck it's heavy.Help me out here.. plus, sorry about the rambling and tone and what not. I'm pretty shaken up.
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Be strong, dude. Think how she feels.
She certainly doesn't want to be reminded of her death, and doesn't want you to be miserable trying to come up with words to express your sorrow. I am willing to bet money she would rather relish the time she has left and prefers that you do the same, and not spend your off-time trying to wright a eulogy for someone who's still alive.
TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL
You think it's awkward? Think about how awkward it is a year after she passes away and you're still feeling the pain of being too silly to do what you should have done.
I talked to her as much as I could, I absorbed as much of her wisdom as I could. At that point she wanted to share, she wanted to be remembered, and to make a difference in the lives of those she cared about.
I found myself changed as a person because of what she told me. Just talk to her, and find out how she feels about life, general advice and whatnot, because at that age they know way more about it than you could even perceive, they have so much experience.
Goodbyes are important, but really embrace what she shares with you, and prompt it, because I think it shows you value what they've done in their life, and in the end I can see where that would hold a lot of value.