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I have a bit of a man issue again so bear with me.
My ex has just come back to Ireland from England and previous to us breaking up he cheated on me, we met at my 18th birhday because i had it at a Wolfe Tones concert and i gave my dad an extra ticket to give his girlfriend but she couldnt go so he asked if he could bring the young lad that works with him because he loves the Wolfe Tones, cut a long story short i got drunk and so was he, my mam sat me down next to him and told him to mind me, we hit it off and a few hours later ended up snogging and thus started a 2 month relationship.
It ended with me catching him cheating with the fattest girl in my parish, who was also 14. I dont think he had sex with her but im not sure thats beside the point.
After i told my dad what he did he fired him and he ran away to England for work. Hes back now after a year and a half and he rang my friend who he's also friends with for my number telling her he had something important to ask me. She gave it because he made up with my dad and she assumed it was something about work. He has been haunting me sence. For 2 weeks solid he begged me to take him back saying how he changed and letting me get neither sleep nor work done. Then i got a text from him and i swear to god i cheered he got another better job in England his uncle got it for him, i thaught all i had to do was hold out until the day he was going which was a tuesday he told me on the previous wednesday.
Then he said when he was back from england after his months work was up (it was well paid construction work) would i go on a date with him? bearing in mind it was 4am his flight was at 5am and i said yeah fine i wanted to sleep. What did the fool do? HE CAME HOME FROM THE AIRPORT, LOOSEING A LUMP SUM OF A FEW GRAND AND THE PRICE OF HIS TRAVEL AND ACCOMODATION. I have sence submitted and agreed to giving him a second chance although i dont want to. Now im in too deep and i dont want to have sex with him and i keep putting him off and not tourning up for dates. He keeps pursueing me i cant put up with it. What do i do? i have tried takeing the hard line for 2 weeks solid and i cant stand this.
He lives just 5 miles from me so changeing my number wont work
HELP!!
My other ex also text me late lastnight supposidly looking to buy a dog off me, then he gave me the whole story of his new girlfriend being pregnant and she wanting an abbortion and he not wanting her to do it and how he lost his job because his boss went broke (hes a carpenter) now hes doing childcare and has moved to dublin to be near his girlfriend who is doing nurseing. I havent heard from him in 7 months why the hell is he telling me????? he also proceeded to explain what went wrong with me and him and that he did realy love me (his mother is what went wrong with us) and he asked me if i had his child would i keep it i mean god almighty!!!!!
What does he want from me?
My ex has just come back to Ireland from England and previous to us breaking up he cheated on me, we met at my 18th birhday because i had it at a Wolfe Tones concert and i gave my dad an extra ticket to give his girlfriend but she couldnt go so he asked if he could bring the young lad that works with him because he loves the Wolfe Tones, cut a long story short i got drunk and so was he, my mam sat me down next to him and told him to mind me, we hit it off and a few hours later ended up snogging and thus started a 2 month relationship.
It ended with me catching him cheating with the fattest girl in my parish, who was also 14. I dont think he had sex with her but im not sure thats beside the point.
After i told my dad what he did he fired him and he ran away to England for work. Hes back now after a year and a half and he rang my friend who he's also friends with for my number telling her he had something important to ask me. She gave it because he made up with my dad and she assumed it was something about work. He has been haunting me sence. For 2 weeks solid he begged me to take him back saying how he changed and letting me get neither sleep nor work done. Then i got a text from him and i swear to god i cheered he got another better job in England his uncle got it for him, i thaught all i had to do was hold out until the day he was going which was a tuesday he told me on the previous wednesday.
Then he said when he was back from england after his months work was up (it was well paid construction work) would i go on a date with him? bearing in mind it was 4am his flight was at 5am and i said yeah fine i wanted to sleep. What did the fool do? HE CAME HOME FROM THE AIRPORT, LOOSEING A LUMP SUM OF A FEW GRAND AND THE PRICE OF HIS TRAVEL AND ACCOMODATION. I have sence submitted and agreed to giving him a second chance although i dont want to. Now im in too deep and i dont want to have sex with him and i keep putting him off and not tourning up for dates. He keeps pursueing me i cant put up with it. What do i do? i have tried takeing the hard line for 2 weeks solid and i cant stand this.
He lives just 5 miles from me so changeing my number wont work
HELP!!
My other ex also text me late lastnight supposidly looking to buy a dog off me, then he gave me the whole story of his new girlfriend being pregnant and she wanting an abbortion and he not wanting her to do it and how he lost his job because his boss went broke (hes a carpenter) now hes doing childcare and has moved to dublin to be near his girlfriend who is doing nurseing. I havent heard from him in 7 months why the hell is he telling me????? he also proceeded to explain what went wrong with me and him and that he did realy love me (his mother is what went wrong with us) and he asked me if i had his child would i keep it i mean god almighty!!!!!
What does he want from me?
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If you don't like him or don't want to be with him....DON'T.
Have you talked to your folks about ANY of this? I'm sure they don't relish the idea of this guy chasing you and harassing you.
If you want to actually take a hard line then say "No," being evasive about it is not helping either of you.
If you want to know what ex number 2 wants, why not just ask him? Though likely what he wants is out of his current situation, or maybe a distraction?
Violence is a real possibility, and you should treat this situation as such. Get a restraining order.
Even if you think I'm over reacting to this, if I'm wrong all you have is a guy you don't want around in the first place deciding to leave you alone. If I'm right, you get to live in fear of this guy showing up at your school, workplace, or house at any time to try and "win you back."
You need to be honest with the first one. If you're not, then there's nothing we can do for you. He's behaving weirdly, and while that isn't your fault - you should have called him on it. If you genuinely want to end it, then just do it (there's no easy way here), and then don't speak to him again. And just because he finds you number, doesn't mean that you have to start communicating with him again.
Steer well clear of the second one. He doesn't want anything from you, because he's freaking out about his own situation.
If he ignores you and keeps trying, document all his attempts and call the police.
DO NOT DATE HIM. You don't want to, so DON'T.
I told my mother and shes affraid she thinks hes a stalker she told me a few "piss off" texts to send but they didnt work. in the end i decided to pacify him and thats not working out either.
Hes realy realy irratateing me now. He already text me a few times to tell me where i was "he was passing and saw me" supposidly i still cant figure out how i didnt see him, i am not the kind of person who has a routein i generaly roam an area in the space of a day of a bout 50 miles in the course of my daily business.
I am a bit frightened because i moved house monday and he already knows where the new house is. Fair enough i only moved to another local town but its still mad.
And hes a well liked local charictor so not many balieve me except my brothers buddies who read his texts and wanted to beat him up but one of them is under the care of the mental health services and the other is going trough his own crap at the min he has 6 men after him at the moment and an impending court case where my brother, myself, a taxi driver and the local pub landlord has to appear as witnesses. so i dont want them getting into more trouble.
And he also told me where my younger sister was on her lunch break. Fair enough she wasnt where she was supposed to be, or doing what she should have been doing lets say. So i gave out to her for what she was doing (back of the library smoking with the eastern european girls) but i mean its kind of freaky she didnt see him either and the descriptiveness of his text was kind of freaky.
I think something happened to him in england he left me as a quiet, hard working lad, who knew when he had outstayed his welcome and retourned a nucance who not only bothers me to meet up with him but sends me dirty texts and pictures of him topless (fair enough he has a 6 pack and nice pecs but i dont want to know) i mean he was still a virgin when we broke up
The ex with the pregnant girlfriend was always a coward and to be honest i wasnt mad about him while i was with him i was just bored and we had a not very physical relationship any way. For awhile he wanted to marry me but i didnt want to know about it and i am just in shock because honestly i didnt think he was up to it. Im just angry at him for talking to me and texting my friend when his girlfriend is pregnant. he told my friend he was single before and that was one month ago the gf is 5 months gone. So im here trying to coach him on his life and make him behave and recognise her choice is her choice even though he has always been in love with the idea of having kids. he has all his sons named sence he was 11 for gods sake hes like a scary broody woman in her 30s and hes only a bit older than me
And in the future please refrain from dating until you've grown up quite a bit more and reconsider the company you're keeping.
im not hanging around with gangsters or anything, mostly farmers actualy and the odd few business people, also people who are into dogs
i agree with you i dont think im emotionaly mature enough im not very mentaly and emotionaly stable i am bipolar. That and i generaly go for older guys (anything up to late 30's)
Reading your posts, they're so...Confusing. Just be clear with this guy.
Regarding a potential visit to the police station, visit them with your mum and dad if you feel you will not be taken seriously without them.
Just, don't answer when he calls. Ignore his texts. Delete any online connection you have to him. If he's still persistent and really aggravating, and, I'm not familiar with how the law would work for you in Ireland, but over here I'd recommend a restraining order if he really gets out of hand.
-Current W.I.P.
This. Tell him exactly these words, and no more. Actually, one more, say "Goodbye" at the end, and HANG UP. When he calls again (he will) simply dont pick up the phone. If he leaves crazy messages, go ahead and get a restraining order.
Keep it as direct and as simple as possible. Don't have conversations about the situation. TELL him what is happening, and hang up. He should have absolutely NO SAY in this - you dont want to go out with him, so there is nothing further to discuss.