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XOCentricXOCentric Registered User regular
edited September 2014 in Help / Advice Forum
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  • DemerdarDemerdar Registered User regular
    edited December 2010
    No, not at all.

    Don't sweat it, and don't tell her.

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  • KillgrimageKillgrimage Registered User regular
    edited December 2010
    I'm going to say super no, it was not cheating.

    The relationship was not defined, and it's normal for people to not be exclusive until they decide to be (i.e. talk about it like you both did). You weren't exclusive, now you are. That's it. This thing just happened to happen close to the end of non-exclusivity, but I would say there is no gray area here. There is a clear line.

    Furthermore, what you did before that line is none of her business. You past is in the past and so is hers, what is important now is what you do from this point on...and it sounds like you want to do good!

    The only thing I would say is now that you are exclusive, get both yourselves tested for STDs, so you can start with a clean slate (and conscience!).

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  • ZeonZeon Registered User
    edited December 2010
    Dont tell her. If you werent together, theres no expectation.

    Im literally in the exact same position as you (other than the travelling thing). I dont feel compelled to tell her about all the girls ive slept with since i met her. Why would i? I wouldnt expect her to tell me about any guys she may have slept with in that same time. We werent together.

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  • DeebaserDeebaser on my way to work in a suit and a tie Ahhhh...come on fucking guyRegistered User regular
    edited December 2010
    +1

    1. You aren't an asshole
    2. Don't tell her.

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  • ceresceres When the last moon is cast over the last star of morning And the future has past without even a last desperate warningRegistered User, Moderator mod
    edited December 2010
    It wasn't cheating because you weren't in a relationship. Cheating requires terms on which to cheat.

    Don't tell her. Not because you should feel bad or hide it from her, or because she'll be mad, but because it's not a big deal and no one cares.

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  • XOCentricXOCentric Registered User regular
    edited September 2014
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  • mrt144mrt144 King of the Numbernames Registered User regular
    edited December 2010
    I'll tell you one thing; Stop dipping your quill in company ink.

    (Althought I met my soon to be wife at work)

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  • MrMonroeMrMonroe Registered User regular
    edited December 2010
    Keep your mouth shut, you haven't done anything particularly terrible, and get over yourself. You're human just like the rest of us and chances are you'll end up getting drunk someday and making a mistake. If that does happen, it won't be because you're a cheater, it will be because you're human and humans do fucked up things all the time. So try to keep this in perspective and don't bother telling anyone about it.

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