Send up the Signal Flare (ololz gurlz)

Reigner

Yes another one of "those" threads.

OK, I am absolute shit at being able to read female signals. (like most guys of course) There have been many a women who, in heinsight, probably wanted me to make a move or start a relationship but I was too oblivious to realize it at the time. I also have a tendancy to overanalyze and overthink things when it comes to women and as such I either miss miss my opportunity, or I overthink to the point that the woman isn't interested anymore. (hell I may even be overanalyzing the following just by making this thread)

Anyway, I'm sitting at work, and out of the blue (ie. months since I've even talked to her last) this girl that I've liked/pined for/etc for about 5+ years now sends me a text. Normal "hey how you doin" formalities go by and such, and I find out she's got a new job at the new Circuit City that opened up around here. She at one point says the following:

"I work tonight i fyou feel the urge to stop in and see me! Lol! Just kidding"

So I, putting foot in mouth as I like to do repond with "Only if you tell me when you go on break :P" (trying to be 'playful' here, lemme be) To which I get an "Lol!" and she goes on to ask an unrelated question about a friend of mine who started there as well (last name and when he starts working there). I answer, she says something else along the lines of "Oh ok, I know a kenny, but I'm not sure if it's him, Ill ask when I go in at 5"

I then move the conversation on and ask how everything else has been in life lately. And hadn't gotten anything back, which is what prompted this post.

While type this up I get her response:
"Nothing much, I had a boyfriend but he broke up with me recently. How are other things going with you"

TL;DR. Do I go in and see her tonight? Am I overthinking this and just being my normal stupid self? etc.

Serpent

You are overanalyzing heavily. but if you are free at 5, you should go see her anyways. You never know?

It's a text message, not a date.

EggyToast

Yep, overanalyzing. But that doesn't mean something isn't there. Think of it this way -- how many possible outcomes could there be if you go? Now, how many possible outcomes are there if you DON'T go?

Unfortunately, western cultures frown upon arranged marriages, so the vast majority of people have to take risks in order to get into relationships. The problem with risks is that you don't know how they're going to turn out, no matter how much you analyze the situation. Hindsight is 20/20 because it eliminates risk and just shows what happened. The saying really just means that the past is unchangeable, so learn what you can and move to the present/future.

If she's cute and you like her, go see her at, say, 6. Bum around the store, if you don't see her, ask the manager or something. Say "I'm a friend of so 'n so, she told me to stop by." Talk to her for a few minutes, and say "So when do you finish up tonight?" if it's not too late, ask her to coffee or something. If it is late, say "Wow, damn I bet you'll be tired. Hey, what are you doing this weekend?"

You know she's single now, so that part of the problem is already taken care of.

Was she giving you signals? Who knows. People are weird. Especially people who write it "Lol"

Reigner

While I realize it's just a text message, I'm not someone whose friends text them out of the blue, let alone womenz.

I also know, from experience even, that there are people out there who take the slightest bit of "soanso coming in to see them at work" as "ew omg he's creepy" regardless of whether they told me to or not. So I always tend to err on the side of caution in that regard.

Hindsight...dammit, I always go back and forth on the correct spelling of that :P

Theungry

EggyToast wrote:

Unfortunately, western cultures frown upon arranged marriages, so the vast majority of people have to take risks in order to get into relationships.

Sigged

Jimmy King

Reigner wrote:

Hindsight...dammit, I always go back and forth on the correct spelling of that :P

Not related to the main topic here, but I'm gonna help you out... I hope.

Just think about the meaning of the word. It's looking back after things are done which is where hind comes from, much like behind, etc.

Heinsight, on the other hand, is probably something like beer goggles caused specifically by drinking Heinekin.

Food?

Yeah, just relax. Chances are that she remembered you after breaking up with her boyfriend, and she wants something to do. Just go pay a visit, it wouldn't hurt.