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I think their might be something wrong.
th3thirdman
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In the last 3 years I have had 7 jobs. I was laid off from 1 the store closed. I quit 3, I quit the dollar tree because I hated the idea of having to get up at 6am on thanksgiving, and I quit the other two less then a month after staring because I got a job at a bank. I got fired from the bank because I kept forgetting to ask people to endorse their checks the same way they are made out. I was fired from my job as a door guard because I would move around the store I worked at and talk to people. The last job someone said something about me I don't know what because management would not tell me, I was suspended for three days then got fired by sms. So.. my question is what is wrong with me why can't I keep a job I am 28 shouldn't I be able to hold on to a job?
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Also, I have seen other posters with your speech patterns who fall somewhere on the autism spectrum disorder line. Do you have lots of friends? Do you live at home? Have you been diagnosed at all with behavioral or learning disabilities?
As for my writing skills, I would say they are my biggist weakness. I moved many times in the first 5 gades and really never had a early grounding in writing. Also my Father was next to illiterate. I was diagnosed with dyslexia when I was a child. Also when I am not working I have a hard time sleeping and lack of sleep does tend to make my typing sloppy in strange ways I will type the wrong word all togeather sometimes. Like my thought gets a head of my hand and I will type a word that I want to go in the next sentence.
The bolded parts sound like a work ethic issue, not a disorder. Plenty of people are lazy/don't give a shit about the parts of work they don't like, and those people tend to not keep jobs. And not counting the ones you quit/were laid off from you've only been forcibly removed from 3 jobs, which is kind of a lot but not some sort of crisis that must have a dramatic explanation.
I mean, you could have ADD or something, but we can't diagnose that and honestly this sounds to me like a discipline issue. Dressing nicely and caring won't make you good at your job; you actually need to focus. You cannot expect to keep a job otherwise.
Being laid off is a stroke of bad luck and usually has nothing to do with you.
Quitting because you hated coming in on a certain day is a personal option.
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If you aren't able to focus on your job and focus on talking to people at the same time, you need to make one of them your priority and ignore the other. I think you know which one you need to ignore.
This is important. This is discipline. If you want a day like Thanksgiving off, it's up to you to square that with your boss far enough in advance that s/he can find someone else. If you do that and s/he can't find anyone else, then you have to go if you want the job. If you don't want the job, that's your choice that you made as an adult. A lot of the things you're neglecting are part of being a responsible adult. If you had a job and decided you didn't want it, then that's why you don't have a job.
I realize that you're 28 and aren't a child anymore... but do you? It's harsh, but if you think you might have ADD or some other medical reason why you can't hold down a job, then you need to get that looked at ASAP, because right now you sound like kind of an irresponsible teenager. If you want employment and don't think you might have some sort of mental impairment, then you need to work on being a lot more responsible with your choices.
Yeah, I think there's something going on. I would investigate your local resources for getting a behavioral or mental health assessment.
I have suspected I have had add for years, but I have not had the balls to look into it. so thank you all I will take this all to heart. And I quit for alot of reasons that was just the tipping point.
Do you try to help the company as much as possible, or do you try to do the minimum amount of work that will get you payed? Do you absolutely hate working 40 hours a week?
Because yeah, my guess isn't ADD, it's just that in some way (as Ceres said) you maybe haven't learned good work-related skills yet.
Q: You're obviously a good student with a GPA like that; how do you handle lectures/classes/seminars? Do you constantly socialize there too, or sit quietly and pay attention to the speaker?
It also seems you've got a lot of unskilled jobs under your belt there. Which could be a detriment as you look unreliable and lack no motivation. Consider learning a trade, or going back to school. The obvious advantage of doing those things other than getting skills or a degree is that it shows motivation and a drive to do what needs to be done. A huge plus in the working world. I don't think you'd be happy working minimum wage jobs for the rest of your life, right?
Edit: Ahh you're still in school, scratch that last part.
"Not being late" is not 'good'. It's minimum expected behavior. We shouldn't be giving the OP a pat on the back for some stuff he's supposed to do!
Showing up on time, dressing appropriately, and learning the job are not things to be proud of - they are the basic things you're supposed to do all the time. For people with no cognitive or physical challenges, they are not things to be proud of. They are just the basic things expected of every working adult.
I will +1 ceres here - th3thirdman, talk to a doctor and see if you have some actual issues with focus and attention. If not, take the advice and reorient your priorities.
I meant it more in the sense of "it's all well and good," but I agree, it's part of your expected behavior.
Also, try talking less and concentrate in your work, you are not being hired to make friends or to do lectures.
not shutting up even when you're told to might be a strong sign of ADD though, yep
You also said that you got fired from your last job.
Okay, I'll bite. Just shut your mouth and stop talking.
I know it's hard. I was always the class clown in school. I was always the witty and funny kid that everyone loved to be around.
But here's a secret: most people don't like the sound of your voice as much as you do. I don't know your religious beliefs, but most people can agree that the book of Proverbs has...some good proverbs in it. So here you go:
"Even fools are thought wise when they keep silent; with their mouths shut, they seem intelligent." (Prov. 17:28)
and just a few verses later
"Fools find no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions." (Prov 18:2)
How I learned to shut up? I saw people that were very similar to me, and I saw how people avoided them and didn't want to be around them because they couldn't get in a word edgewise. I realized it was very selfish to talk all the time, and that I would be a better friend if I would shut up once in a while and let them talk. Although I think myself brilliant, every single one of my ideas is still not better than every single one of theirs.
Like, "Ha ha, you're great, I think I might follow you home."
You said you were suspended from that job before you were fired. Why were you suspended?
All we can do is identify the behaviors you mention. The really important thing here that we CAN tell you is that you behave incredibly irresponsibly in seemingly any job you are given, and you say whatever comes into your head as soon as it gets there. As long as you do these things you will not be able to keep a job. It's pretty much up to you from here to work to fix it and/or go to a doctor who may be able to give you medication or advice.
I had an issue where I couldn't sleep for a few months. I got a low-dose anti-depressant and I can literally sleep like a champ almost every night. It does wonders on everything you do.
ADHD has all the same symptoms of ADD only with the added outward hyperactivity in how you move. ADD is just an internal thing in the mind, but sometimes that can be much worse.
I found out recently I had Overfocused/rigid-thinking ADHD back in March; I had always been taking something for it since the 6th grade, but I had no idea there was more than one type. After trying many options, I discovered I needed to pair an anti-depressant with my adderal in order to become like everyone else, and man the difference has been life changing.
For the first time in my life I was able to think clearly for a change, not constantly be caught in a negative loop though cycle because of my overactive frontal lobes, and could actually start using common fucking sense. In short, slowing my brain down actually makes me quicker on my feet and better in pretty much every aspect of life. It's incredible.
The only sure-fire way to determine if you have ADD/ADHD is to get a SPECT scan to detect your brain activity. If you have the money i'd say go for it, it could be life changing.
IANAD, but none of this is backed by current medical research or data. It may be the front-running medical advance ADD patients are waiting for, but it isn't verified or recommended by the medical community yet.