dating someone with multiple sclerosis is really fucking difficult
You should watch The West Wing with them, and from time to time explain to them that you didn't "get it" before, but now you totally understand their pain. :rotate:
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MrMonroepassed outon the floor nowRegistered Userregular
edited July 2011
Well she's essentially asymptomatic from a superficial standpoint
It's more that her actual symptoms make it difficult to work and she worries about being a burden on me and so is uncommunicative when I am an asshole to her out of a fear that I'm going to bail because she's too difficult.
Also obviously there is that fear that I'm going to suddenly find myself dating someone who is confined to a wheelchair or utterly blind or unable to take pleasure in sex.
edit: Fyndir that is probably the most callous thing I have heard today and I've been listening to myself
maybe, unless she is the one that assumes four messages equates to dating
if that is the case...you know what to do
I do know what to do if that is the case!
Let's call that "the best-case scenario". I am not so full of myself that I think it is the most likely outcome, but I'm confident enough to acknowledge its possibility.
The secret to getting women is to be that full of yourself 24 hours a day.
I don't know how it works, but it absolutely does, even if you are like 50-75% kidding.
I just wanted to confirm the truth of this post.
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Metzger MeisterIt Gets Worsebefore it gets any better.Registered Userregular
edited July 2011
but...
but keith...
i don't wanna look like a slut or anything.
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FactorySquirrelMarceline's HenchmanLand of OooRegistered Userregular
edited July 2011
Okay, so I learned basically what I already knew, which is that she's got a dude now. I said "Hey cool. Awesome." (paraphrased) and left it at that.
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"That man is playing Galaga! He thought we wouldn't notice. But we did."
I went on a date last week, it was fairly mediocre mostly because of my inability to take control of a conversation. I hadn't mentioned to her that I'd been married until earlier this year though so apparently that freaked her out when I mentioned it, and I don't think we'll see each other again. I still don't know whether I should say anything about that in my profile or not, and if not, when to bring it up.
I'm not even sure I want to be full on dating yet, but I definitely need to start getting out and meeting new people because otherwise I'm going to end up a hermit.
It would probably be a good thing to at least say you are recently divorced, or y'know don't tell them anything. Secrets are fun, Ten!
I went on a date last week, it was fairly mediocre mostly because of my inability to take control of a conversation. I hadn't mentioned to her that I'd been married until earlier this year though so apparently that freaked her out when I mentioned it, and I don't think we'll see each other again. I still don't know whether I should say anything about that in my profile or not, and if not, when to bring it up.
I'm not even sure I want to be full on dating yet, but I definitely need to start getting out and meeting new people because otherwise I'm going to end up a hermit.
It would probably be a good thing to at least say you are recently divorced, or y'know don't tell them anything. Secrets are fun, Ten!
Whatever you do just don't come off as Ross from Friends.
naw, I think most of the people on these boards are genuinely good people
although it might be a good support group for people who think they are terrible but actually aren't
I sincerely hope I fall into that category
You're good people!
And speaking of support, have you and/or your lady looked into couples/individual relationship therapy for people with long-term diseases? It's a Big Deal that you're both going to have to live with and some facilitated conversations might help with the stuff you were talking about earlier.
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it was just... suprise!
thanks, site.
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In any magical unexpected ways, or just like, for the obvious reasons that people with MS are difficult to be around?
You should watch The West Wing with them, and from time to time explain to them that you didn't "get it" before, but now you totally understand their pain. :rotate:
It's more that her actual symptoms make it difficult to work and she worries about being a burden on me and so is uncommunicative when I am an asshole to her out of a fear that I'm going to bail because she's too difficult.
Also obviously there is that fear that I'm going to suddenly find myself dating someone who is confined to a wheelchair or utterly blind or unable to take pleasure in sex.
edit: Fyndir that is probably the most callous thing I have heard today and I've been listening to myself
i need to start setting up some more dates, but i never know what we should go do. there's never anything going on in this goddamn town.
That's because I'm a terrible person.
Sorry.
I just wanted to confirm the truth of this post.
but keith...
i don't wanna look like a slut or anything.
i'm okay with that, i think
It's ok, I am certainly a bit touchy about this, especially since my own callousness has exacerbated the situation.
I can sympathize. I, too, am a terrible person.
although it might be a good support group for people who think they are terrible but actually aren't
I sincerely hope I fall into that category
all gays are
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0J3vgcE5i2o
Gonna see if I can find her on okstupid
that describes like, 99% of support groups everywhere ever
It would probably be a good thing to at least say you are recently divorced, or y'know don't tell them anything. Secrets are fun, Ten!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rJ7Ww3rd06c
I seriously love this song
Whatever you do just don't come off as Ross from Friends.
I'm here to say this exact same thing
like half my law school is on j-date
I'm not really surprised
just amused
You're good people!
And speaking of support, have you and/or your lady looked into couples/individual relationship therapy for people with long-term diseases? It's a Big Deal that you're both going to have to live with and some facilitated conversations might help with the stuff you were talking about earlier.