So my masters dissertation was due today and at about 6am my will broke and I couldn't continue. It wasn't a case of not being able to finish in time. Rather I had become physically and mentally exhausted, my heart was trying to escape from my chest and I just couldn't face another ten hours of frantic activity.
I emailed my course director to let him know what happened. I'm not sure if it is possible to get deferral on the day of submission and I didn't ask for one. I don't know if I could use it if I got one, even though I am only a few hours work away from completion, I just can't take it anymore.
I've slept for the past four hours or so but my body is still reeling from the stress.
I can't really face any of my university friends now, obviously they are going to be out celebrating. My best friend in the course knows anyway. My folks are sickeningly supportive as usual, the first thing I did was call them, and they are talking about me flying out to where they are on holiday at the moment or flying in to visit me. I don't know, I have no desire to do anything right now.
I've been lost in the woods for the past couple of years, trying to find a career path, a life path. This year has been really good for me in terms of showing me I'm a socially capable person, but I still face the hurdle of convincing myself I'm a professionally capable person, and you know, actually being successful in the wonderful job market with my super employable skill set.
I don't feel like the work I've done over the past few months was a waste. This sucks a whole bunch but its life experience, the world will keep turning.
But I don't know what to do with myself for the next few days and when I recover from this I have to get back to the real world and go on the job hunt, which is pretty much the most terrifying thing I can conceive of. A year and a half ago I was at a point where I would rather die than do that, and I got a mental health reprieve. So I guess the outcome today was also the product of slowly building up anxiety that I am approaching that hurdle again. I was at my most content a few years ago when I had a job in a warehouse just moving boxes around and didn't have to deal with any people. I just want to be back in a position like that, where I'm a functional person, but the idea of handing out my cv/resume and going for interviews is nightmare fuel. All I want to do is live, be person who stands on his own two feet, but it seems so impossible.
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You're a few hours of work away from having your dissertation in, and it feels like you can't do it anymore. But it's not the end. Finish your dissertation.
There is almost certainly something you can do. Take any deferral you can get, any reprieve you can manage, do absolutely everything you can to get through this. You can do it. Hell, you're almost done.
I would recommend talking to a counselor or a therapist about your anxiety.
A dissertation or thesis is a lot of mind-breaking work. Like most students who are under the gun here, you are going to 100% stress. Relax, there is likely a way to rectify this and complete your degree. Remember, the institution wants you to complete, as dropping out during your dissertation looks bad for accreditation.
but they're listening to every word I say
I do mean immediately too. Don't take a week off, don't even take a day off. Go in as soon as possible to see your advisor and find out what your options are. I'm not saying you need to finish your dissertation now or else; it may be best to take off a little bit of time and de-stress. But DO NOT just disappear from school for a week. Make sure your advisor knows exactly what is going on, and is ok with whatever time you are taking off.
You need to talk to your advisers about it, even if you perceive it as a fault on yourself. It's not, and it will help.
This. Your dad sounds awesome. I would have killed for supportive parents like that growing up.
Anyways, take a breath, relax, realize this isn't the end of the world, and finish it!
You're not in a unique situation. Plenty of other people have gone through this as well. You need to go approach your college's help line, and be sure that you do it formally. The administration will not share your information with anyone.
I am sure you can finish; you only have a few hours of work left! Talk to your prof! They'll likely be really cool about it and will do anything to make sure you finish school.
The worst thing you can do is hide from your responsibilities. If you tell your prof you're in trouble, she or he will be far more likely to come up with a plan to solve the problem than if you totally ignore them.
You're almost there, and I know how you feel, I really do. Don't let this fuck up your life.
Thirded, or whatever. I have an awesome Dad (although I didn't always realize it). Let yours come and help you get yourself sorted. Finish your dissertation; if you are this close you'll wonder for the rest of your life. If you are most of the way through the program, they want to help you. I had my own (undergrad) freak-out, throw it all away moment, and despite an awesome Dad and what could have been a supportive environment, I let my issues get the better of me. Don't do this. Let people help; even if all you can do for the next few days or more is roboticly go through the motions people program into you, do it. No matter what you end up doing with your life, you won't regret finishing this, but you may well end up regret not having done so deeply.
And I know all that sounds like pressure, which I'm sure is the last thing you need. I don't know how to avoid that --"don't make this unforced error" is a kind of pressure. But you clearly have support. Use it.
I don't have to do anything myself, it is all being sorted now. I'll be in the city for another couple of weeks to see off my friends who are moving away, sort out my new flatmate etc. After that I'll probably head home for a while, I suppose see my psychiatrist there. After that ???.
So yeah, 6 months. :shock:
Thanks again for the in-thread support folks, I showed my Dad the messages extolling his virtues.
Future anxiety advice:
If you have an iPhone or an iPad, there's an app you should download. It's called "take a break" and it really helps me with my anxiety. I have terrible stress management skills, I basically work myself into a frenzy and then explode. This app has done wonderful things for me. If you don't have an iPhone or iPad, there are alternatives on the Internet I'm sure. Worst case: turn off the lights, sit in a comfy chair, turn on music or sounds you find rhythmic and soothing and take 6 deep breaths focusing only on the breathing. Its been my personal therapy for a year now, try it!