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Hi all, anonymous for obvious reasons. xD
I'm 19 years old and I'm in the first relationship I've had where I'm comfortable physically with him. This means we've moved on to casual fooling around but not anything more than that. I would like to take it to the next level and go down on him. We talked about it and he's interested too (duh! lol). The thing is, I'm getting kind of nervous for a few reasons.
1. I'm 4'10, he's 6'4. His penis is average length but thicker than normal (at least from my small experience) and I'm worried about it fitting in my mouth because my mouth is super small. I can't even use soup spoon comfortably! 2. I've never given a blowjob before. 3. I have braces and years ago my friend would always joke to me that I could never go down on a guy because of it. She keeps on giving horror stories.
Obviously while it's happening he'll talk with me about it, but I don't want to start without some idea of what to expect, if that makes sense? So I'm not really concerned about the second problem listed above, as I know he'll be fine with helping me through it, but some tips on the first and third problem would be super helpful!
P.S. If this is inappropriate for this forum or whatever feel free to delete it. I've seen a few sexual type H/A threads but this may cross some line. If it does, no worries! I'm just panicking because it's going to be tomorrow night when he gets back in town and none of my friends are any help. xD
I'm 19 years old and I'm in the first relationship I've had where I'm comfortable physically with him. This means we've moved on to casual fooling around but not anything more than that. I would like to take it to the next level and go down on him. We talked about it and he's interested too (duh! lol). The thing is, I'm getting kind of nervous for a few reasons.
1. I'm 4'10, he's 6'4. His penis is average length but thicker than normal (at least from my small experience) and I'm worried about it fitting in my mouth because my mouth is super small. I can't even use soup spoon comfortably! 2. I've never given a blowjob before. 3. I have braces and years ago my friend would always joke to me that I could never go down on a guy because of it. She keeps on giving horror stories.
Obviously while it's happening he'll talk with me about it, but I don't want to start without some idea of what to expect, if that makes sense? So I'm not really concerned about the second problem listed above, as I know he'll be fine with helping me through it, but some tips on the first and third problem would be super helpful!
P.S. If this is inappropriate for this forum or whatever feel free to delete it. I've seen a few sexual type H/A threads but this may cross some line. If it does, no worries! I'm just panicking because it's going to be tomorrow night when he gets back in town and none of my friends are any help. xD
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As for #1, well, take it slow. If it's not fitting, don't force it.
Basically you just need a partner who is understanding that you've never done this before and that this is all new to you. Most guys are willing to help their lady make it work.
EDIT: By the way, if he doesn't fit for some strange reason (and I've never heard of this happening personally, but then I don't give blowjobs ever and I don't get them often), you can just use your tongue instead of your whole mouth. It still feels nice.
Also, and I really should have put this first in this post: be safe!
e: Even if you can't take him into your mouth, you can still give him a good licking.
take it slow at first. don't just try to shove him in. you'll hurt him and yourself and over all leave a bad impression.
but as with most things in a relationship, communication is going to be key.
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First, calm down. You have all the time in the world to gain mad blowjob skills. Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step and all that.
Don't think of it like a test you have to pass. Think of it as a fun new thing to explore. Your mouth+ his penis. He is gonna feel like he won the lottery just putting the two things together. And it can be fun for you too! It is a whole new taste and texture like nothing else in the world. Enjoy yourself!
Don't worry about the braces. Kids who make that joke are full of it. Number one rule of blowjobs- (really the only rule of blowjobs) is No Teeth. Unless he asks for teeth, I guess. Nobody Ever Does. Teeth get covered with lips and tongue and are a non-element.
Don't be afraid to slobber. Spit is lube. Lube is good. Have a towel handy if you don't like feeling it on your chin. Hell, have a towel handy anyway.
Don't worry if you can't get him to climax in your mouth. I made that mistake when I was younger. I thought I was a failure at the BJ if I couldn't do that. Turns out that dudes, like girls, are individuals, and there is no magic move that works for everyone all the time. A good blowjob is a blowjob you are both happy about. Like any other kind of sex.
So many fun things to do with a penis! You can put it in you mouth when soft and feel it grow hard on your tongue. You can tease it with your fingertips. You can lick it up and down. You can hold the head in your mouth while you move the skin of the snaft with your hands. You can say a sexy thing and watch it dance. Hilarious. Penises are fun.
It's okay to ask him for suggestions, and it's okay to talk about what you want to do. In fact that part can be really sexy too. Take your time, go slow if you need to, explore and have fun doing it.
Now I wish I had my boy here... he's missing out and doesn't even know. :P
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... through oral sex?
Note: yes, be safe if/when you choose to move onto penetrative sex, but without context this seems... excessively cautious.
Sperm are tenacious little suckers; it's entirely possible to get someone pregnant by going down on them after getting snowballed. Much the same way you can get pregnant from anal sex.
Basically, there's no such thing as too much caution in this regard, even if the probability is low—that one time you don't bother because you figure it won't ever happen to you is gonna be the one time it bites you in the ass; the universe's sense of humour demands it.
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Very true. After 13 years with husband I can not "finish him" I gag and it is really unpleasent for me. So he knows this and warns me so I can do the last few seconds by hand. I then clean him up as well that seems the nice thing to do!
I wasn't going to post here, because I think you guys got all of the bases covered. But this is the dumbest fucking shit posted on this forum on how so and so can get pregnant because of some ridiculous Rube Goldberg series of events.
It's not going to happen. She could take a pint of sperm in her mouth and try and spit it into her own vagina and it's not going to happen. He could do the same thing and it won't happen. She could wash her hands in sperm and then finger herself, it's not going to happen.
Sperm are not tenacious. Sperm die after a few minutes in a temperature two degrees Celsius above or below basal body temperature. This is why your testicles will raise and descend with temperature. Similarly, there have been studies that demonstrated nearly 95% loss of active sperm after submerging the testicles in a body of water 38 degrees Celsius.
I don't know who told you that a girl can get pregnant via anal sex, but they're a retard too.
I won't go over the details of why it's not going to happen (how the cervix and vagina prepare themselves to receive sperm safe), but do any real research into the science of procreation that isn't supported by any particular political group or abstinence only education institution and you'll see for yourself.
The stories that are perpetuated about such things happening are used as scare tactics to prevent people from exercising real safe sex or by individuals who want to cover up the fact they were actually having intercourse. It's much easier to claim "Oh my Goodness, I got pregnant by taking a facial and then scratching my cheek then accidentally grazing my vagina" than "Yup, I was having sex, which I was told not to do."
To the op: the use of your hands can not be over emphasized. Blowjobs are about 30% mouth/tongue and 70% hand job.
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Hey let's not underestimate the poor dear. I believe in her upcoming depravity!
Edit: Unless you bite down hard for some reason. That would be terrible. But what I am trying to say is "Don't worry too much because pretty much no matter what he'll be pretty happy about it."
I fixed that for you.
Also, OP, may I suggest experimenting with a bit of anal play, too? If you can get your boy to agree to partake, some proper anal stimulus can make penis play a whole lot more fun. It's worth the effort, in my opinion.
I don't mean to be contrarian, but bringing up anything to do with anuses at such an early stage of intimacy could be quite off-putting. Most guys I know (especially around that age) would be very uncomfortable with the notion of girls wanting to do things to their bums right out of the gate.
Yeah I guess that is kinda dumb.
Write it off as a suggestion for the future.
Also, for the first couple of times, alternating between using the hand and mouth so one of them is always resting will help with the tiring issue too, even if you paced yourself perfectly, your mouth and hand are going to get tired quickly simply because you're not used to using certain muscles in that way for that amount of time.
I really have to disagree with this. There's a few forumers, myself included, who have in past threads / discussions admitted to not really being that enticed by oral. Like, it's not a matter of unwilling to receive, but I recognize that it could take a lot of work for it to produce results.
That said.
lonelyahava wins the prize for being the first to mention communication. It should be two ways, generally speaking, without being like a full-on discussion (otherwise, things aren't actually happening). Ask him if he likes something you try, ask him what he does like, etc.
What?
One should never expect reciprocation for a sexual act. The whole point of sex is it's supposed to be fun, not a chore to be done whilst waiting for your own turn...
On this note, think of it like a massage
I think what EWom is mentioning is that a lot of guys are hesitant to perform oral sex on females, but still want to receive oral sex. I've known plenty of women who have complained about their boyfriends (or even random hookups) behaving this way.
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I mean in general, if he's not willing to eat a clam sandwich, he's not deserving of a bj. I can't believe how many guys I know who think that's "gross" but still want their gals to go down on them all the time.
Use of hands and mouth is key, not biting is also nice, but, I would also point out that sucking doesn't play as big a part as you would think. It's more just being in your mouth that feels nice, not feeling like your dick is the straw in a triple thick milk shake. I'm not saying don't do a little sucking, but please, only a little. A lot can feel very uncomfortable (I imagine for both of you).
And it can be improved upon. It took my lady quite a number of tries and communication from me about what does and doesn't feel good before she was able to take to the finish line with her mouth, but she is very good at it now.
We are a similarly sized couple to that mentioned in the OP and with her being small she did have an extra hard time keeping her teeth out of the action, but what really fixed it was when I was able to convince her that she just didn't have to work so damn hard. No need to bob up and down like a chicken pecking at grain, just having me in her mouth, moving gently, and doing fun things with her tongue at the tip and fun things with her fingers wrapped around the shaft is fantastic.
So OP don't worry too much about the first one. He'll enjoy the fact that you're trying it for him at all, and as long as you two communicate appropriately, what you're offering him is just going to get better and better and that's a great thing to look forward to.
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Especially since it's your first time at the rodeo, communication is key. Not only does this help you get your bearings, it also can serve as a stimulating part of the experience if you're comfortable with talking a little bit dirty. If you're not comfortable or certain about how to communicate, you would probably be well served by asking for advice from the ladies.
I'll spare you all the details, but OP you need to just talk to him. This doesn't mean a sit-down, serious "how do you like your oral sex?" conversation, but you're better served by asking for and acting on feedback than anything else. I can say that I, myself, seem to work "differently" than some of my male friends, and oral has never been a huge thing at the top of my list. That said, everyone is different and that ranges from gentle, slow oral to fast and furious, choking-on-my-cock type scenarios and everything in between and in piecemeal.
The basic tips are that you should, mostly, focus on the head (which makes the small mouth thing less daunting). Aside from that, a good deal of it is psychological and not even related, per se, to the physical.
Good luck in your head-giving endevours (man, I feel like I've been waiting to say that here), and I hope he's enough of a gentleman to reciprocate (and if he does, tell him what you like; a gentle guiding hand can help, too).
EDIT: 3k views? You all are perverts. I applaud you.
This... This is the best analogy ever. I would like to frame it and hang it on my wall, or maybe have a doormat made.
I daresay it's probably true though.
Not that I'd know.
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Where's that old shifty-eyes smiley we used to have, eh?