Life is finally good. Simon's first birthday today!

Veldrin

joshofalltrades wrote:

Fandyien wrote:

for reals though props to you for being stoic and awesome when your wife and kids need you the most

you are a better person then i could ever hope to be

My dad told me last night that we had probably done something wrong that offended God and are just reaping what we sow

But fuck him

Oh my goodness

What

What a freaking awfuldsfislhapifgjdfoia;kldfgadf

Just_Bri_Thanks

Shit like that would get me to disown my parents.

Stale

joshofalltrades wrote:

Fandyien wrote:

for reals though props to you for being stoic and awesome when your wife and kids need you the most

you are a better person then i could ever hope to be

My dad told me last night that we had probably done something wrong that offended God and are just reaping what we sow

But fuck him

Yeah

Fuck him, he's toxic.

Garlic Bread

with the taste of your lips I'm on a ride

Anialos

Stale wrote:

joshofalltrades wrote:

Fandyien wrote:

for reals though props to you for being stoic and awesome when your wife and kids need you the most

you are a better person then i could ever hope to be

My dad told me last night that we had probably done something wrong that offended God and are just reaping what we sow

But fuck him

Yeah

Fuck him, he's toxic.

Completely agree. My parents are about as far right as I can tolerate, but I still love them. Moment one of them said some shit like this though it would be over. No, Mom and Dad, you can't come visit your grandkids. Why? Because you are fucking retarded and I don't want it rubbing off on my kids.

joshofalltrades

Just_Bri_Thanks wrote:

Shit like that would get me to disown my parents.

I've already pretty much done this with my dad (my folks are divorced and remarried), since he basically has been an abusive turd my whole life and is more concerned with supporting his new wife's kids than his own. Also this prosperity gospel bullshit. This isn't the first time he's told us that bad things happen to us, and we aren't always in a good place with regard to money because we aren't good people.

EDIT

I actually wouldn't have even called him if my wife hadn't insisted.

Quoth

Well, now you know not to do that again, I am sorry your father is a heinous douchebag :-(

Oh man it is so scary for your wife and baby but medicine is pretty awesome now so they both have great odds

And this is probably terrible to say but... In the end, you can make another baby, but your wife... :-(

Henroid

joshofalltrades wrote:

Fandyien wrote:

for reals though props to you for being stoic and awesome when your wife and kids need you the most

you are a better person then i could ever hope to be

My dad told me last night that we had probably done something wrong that offended God and are just reaping what we sow

But fuck him

Huh, we must have the same father and not realize it.

(Don't listen to him)

Houn

You're right, Quoth, that was terrible to say. Not as terrible as that shit Josh's dad said, but man. Tact, dudette.

Also, Josh, get a punching bag and tape a picture of your dad to it. Should help when you need a stress release. Hell, I want to beat the shit out of him; as a father myself that kind of judgmental dismissal of your child bothers me on a very, very deep level.

I mad, bro.

Garlic Bread

Houn wrote:

You're right, Quoth, that was terrible to say. Not as terrible as that shit Josh's dad said, but man. Tact, dude.

Quoth is a new mom

so, you know,

Virgil_Leads_You

You have all of my prayers, sympathy, and well wishes man.

You might share your wife's situation with a religious leader. There's a great amount of religious volunteers who are seeking ways of helping folks and you might find some support and friendship there.

It's sad that your father has been so crappy with this. He'll need to find a way of redemption with you.

Kwoaru

Keith wrote:

Houn wrote:

You're right, Quoth, that was terrible to say. Not as terrible as that shit Josh's dad said, but man. Tact, dude.

Quoth is a new mom

so, you know,

still pretty bad

Houn

Kwoaru wrote:

Keith wrote:

Houn wrote:

You're right, Quoth, that was terrible to say. Not as terrible as that shit Josh's dad said, but man. Tact, dude.

Quoth is a new mom

so, you know,

still pretty bad

Tell you what, I'll go edit my post to say "dudette". ;-)

joshofalltrades

Virgil_Leads_You wrote:

You have all of my prayers, sympathy, and well wishes man.

You might share your wife's situation with a religious leader. There's a great amount of religious volunteers who are seeking ways of helping folks and you might find some support and friendship there.

It's sad that your father has been so crappy with this. He'll need to find a way of redemption with you.

He won't

He used to beat my mom! And he doesn't really give a shit or feel bad about it

Also he broke a 1x4 (edited: typo) over my back when I was in 6th grade, so

yeah

Not exactly in a very forgiving mood for this new fuckery

Edcrab

Yeah I'm sure josh doesn't need to hear it from me but that man is an abominable monster.

Kakodaimonos

joshofalltrades wrote:

Just_Bri_Thanks wrote:

Shit like that would get me to disown my parents.

I've already pretty much done this with my dad (my folks are divorced and remarried), since he basically has been an abusive turd my whole life and is more concerned with supporting his new wife's kids than his own. Also this prosperity gospel bullshit. This isn't the first time he's told us that bad things happen to us, and we aren't always in a good place with regard to money because we aren't good people.

EDIT

I actually wouldn't have even called him if my wife hadn't insisted.

Just cut him off. I know people always go on about "You shouldn't let family go", but that's bullshit. Things got so much better once I realized that I don't ever have to talk to my parents again if I don't want to. He's not worth all the piss in your urethra even if he was on fire. Let him go on with his worthless and empty life.

You've got a hard enough road ahead of you without having to deal with someone elses bullshit. Hang in there man.

joshofalltrades

Henroid wrote:

joshofalltrades wrote:

Fandyien wrote:

for reals though props to you for being stoic and awesome when your wife and kids need you the most

you are a better person then i could ever hope to be

My dad told me last night that we had probably done something wrong that offended God and are just reaping what we sow

But fuck him

Huh, we must have the same father and not realize it.

(Don't listen to him)

Well, we both live in Texas so we have obviously made a wrong decision somewhere in life

Tam

god damn it your father makes me angry, Josh
who says that to their own son
when his wife is pregnant and has cancer no less

Darmak

Tam wrote:

god damn it your father makes me angry, Josh
who says that to their own son
when his wife is pregnant and has cancer no less

His dad, obviously. What a piece of work

Vann Diras

oh geez.

i am so sorry.

Mortal Sky

Normally I'm not particularly responsive to people who claim daddy issues, because of how many people I have known who use it (or make it up) for attention whoring
but holy shit josh your dad is a cunt

joshofalltrades

Well I've mostly moved on and only talk to him when I'm obligated to

I don't really blame him for who I am because I'm nothing like him and I basically don't let my kids stay alone with him at family gatherings

Anyway I'm surrounded by sympathetic people who aren't twats and my dad is the only real outlier, so again, fuck him

Dux

joshofalltrades wrote:

Fandyien wrote:

for reals though props to you for being stoic and awesome when your wife and kids need you the most

you are a better person then i could ever hope to be

My dad told me last night that we had probably done something wrong that offended God and are just reaping what we sow

But fuck him

What the fuck?! That's a fucking despicable thing to say, especially in your situation, especially since you're his son. Yeah, fuck him and good on you for being a better father than he has ever been. Hope you and your lady get through this comfortably and without incident. Keep on being awesome. I'm sorry your dad is such a raging asshole.

JayKaos

Is it terrible of me that the main thing that stood out in the OP was "doesn't run in her family so much as drives NASCAR" because that is a very amusing turn of phrase.

Also I am terribly sorry for your situation and your father's insensitive douchebaggery in regards to it. Seriously, "my pregnant wife has cancer" just sounds like the absolute worst thing and I am completely incapable of comprehending what you're going through. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you get through this.

Tef

Hey yo Josh just know you, your wife and your kids are in my thoughts all the way from the other side of the world. Stay strong for your family (I've got no doubt this is already the case) and ride this shitstorm out

Iloveslimes

God damn. I hope everything goes well for you and your wife. I don't know what else to say, but know that you're in my thoughts.

Beasteh

this is absolutely terrible news

my mother had lymphoma and passed away when i was 4 years old so i definitely know the feel

Fencingsax

I'm sorry, I have trouble comprehending a father who is that shitty to their kids. Like, maliciously on purpose shitty.

Forar

I'm sorry to hear that Josh. Wishing you and your family all the best. Sounds like your wife is a fighter.

Romanian My Escutcheon

joshofalltrades wrote:

Fandyien wrote:

for reals though props to you for being stoic and awesome when your wife and kids need you the most

you are a better person then i could ever hope to be

My dad told me last night that we had probably done something wrong that offended God and are just reaping what we sow

But fuck him

Has the possibility of a baseball bat to the head been considered at some point?

Because that tends to fix shit right quick.

Not that I'd know, or anything.

Centipede Damascus

joshofalltrades wrote:

I mean I'm religious but the prosperity gospel can just fuck itself until it dies

for serious

you have to do some pretty big theological somersaults to believe that bullshit

Nightslyr

Just saw this link from your Let's Play....

Josh, you and your family are in my thoughts. I wish I could do more than well-wishes on an internet forum.

Skeith

joshofalltrades wrote:

My kids seem to be totally 100% fine and can't even tell that anything is wrong. We're putting on faces for them.

I'm not sure if 5 and 3 are the right ages to have the "Mommy has cancer" talk, at least until something happens that they can understand.

My mom had non-Hodgkins Lymphoma when I was... 7 or 8, I think it was (I'm almost 23 and she's still here, to put it in perspective), and yeah, unless your kids are triple their ages emotionally, they aren't feeling anything close to the full impact of this. Obviously they're gonna know something's up when Mom's in the hospital for a while, but just tell them that she's in the hospital because she's sick. More detail than that is probably lost on them.

Edcrab

My mum had (benign) tumours when I was a similar age, so yeah I can understand not talking to them about it. I certainly didn't resent my mum and dad for not telling me about it until several years later

joshofalltrades

Okay, so Medicaid is only covering my wife until six weeks after she delivers. I imagine getting further insurance is going to be a bitch, to put it mildly. I don't make enough money to pay for half a million dollars in cancer treatment. Does anybody have any advice here? My wife is friends with the Director of Operations for cancer services network here in Abilene and we're talking to her, but we won't know anything for a while and I figure it's better to do something sooner rather than later.

Henroid

Thanks Obama.

joshofalltrades

Henroid wrote:

Thanks Obama.

Ha! We were just looking at potential assistance in the new healthcare law with my staunchly republican in-laws and this is the exact same thing I said literally 30 seconds ago

Just_Bri_Thanks

But did you say it ironically?

joshofalltrades

Just_Bri_Thanks wrote:

But did you say it ironically?

I'm cleaning up the mess on the carpet from all the dripping sarcasm right now

Kane Red Robe

Shit Josh, sorry to hear about this. Best of luck to you and yours.