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Housing Dilemma
nexuscrawler
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Ok so my lease on my apt is up in a couple of months.
Today my roommate drops a bombshell on me. He wants to move in with his girlfriend(not a huge surprise) The sucky part is he wants the apartment for them. He's strongly implying I should start looking fro another place.
Now I think it's kind of a dick move for me to turn my life upside down because of his decision. I don't have alot of cash and finding a new place that isn't a shithole is going to be a pain in the ass. This apartment was quite a find for the money.
To be fair to him though he was the one who found the apartment in the first place. He's also furnished most of the place too.
I don't want to be a dick but I still think since he's the one who wants the change he should have to sacrifice something for it.
Any ideas how to resolve something like this?
Today my roommate drops a bombshell on me. He wants to move in with his girlfriend(not a huge surprise) The sucky part is he wants the apartment for them. He's strongly implying I should start looking fro another place.
Now I think it's kind of a dick move for me to turn my life upside down because of his decision. I don't have alot of cash and finding a new place that isn't a shithole is going to be a pain in the ass. This apartment was quite a find for the money.
To be fair to him though he was the one who found the apartment in the first place. He's also furnished most of the place too.
I don't want to be a dick but I still think since he's the one who wants the change he should have to sacrifice something for it.
Any ideas how to resolve something like this?
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And I agree, that is a dick move. I'd honestly just re-sign the lease when the landlord comes around. If the guy wants to move in his girl, HE can go find another apartment. Whoever "furnished" the apartment doesn't matter, only the lease. He can take his stuff with him. Offer to help him move.
If he's being belligerent though, be aggressive and make sure you stake your claim.
And since I'm assuming you can't support the place on your own, and he won't stay there with you anymore, it doesn't really seem like it would do you much good to talk the landlord into letting you stay if your rommmate won't. All it will do is strain your friendship.
He found the place, he furnished most of it, if he's not a complete ass otherwise, I'd be inclined to let him have it. Yeah, it's kind of a dick move, but it's kind of reasonable, too.
How big is the apartment? Maybe big enough for all three of you? What do you think of the girlfriend? What does she think of you?
Obviously this would only work out if everybody gets along, but you might all stand to save a pretty penny on rent if it works out that way?
You have a point. It's more his attitude that's pissing me off. He basically assumed I would be the one to move out without even asking me what I thought.
However, as a relatively neutral observer, I can tell you that as much satisfaction as you'd gain from fucking with him, you're probably better off in the long run just going with it.
Not that I'd make the same decision, but it would be just as bad when I did it, too. :P
It's understandable that he would ask a roommate to move out in order to get a girlfriend in there, as for most living situations girlfriend trumps friend. It tends to be a much easier situation to manage as more things are shared, etc. So while it's shitty, use it as an excuse to have him help you.
Finding a place can be difficult, esp. if you have to scope everything out and move yourself. So at least ask him to help you move, and bring up that it would be swell if he could help you look by checking out resources that you may miss (for instance, if you take craigslist and a few websites, ask if he could check the paper).