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Alright peeps, I need some help.
I'm getting married Friday, and the dress code is not my own.
I will be wearing black pants, a white button-up, and a 2.5in black, white and silver tie.
To my own wedding.
Yes, I will be dressed like a middle-schooler at his first formal dance.
So anyway, I'm looking for ideas about how to splash it up a bit. I've got a watch I'm happy with (steel band, blackface, chronograph). I'm going with black and grey argyle socks. I'd like something else to make me feel like a bit less of an underdressed schmuck though. Oh, and I'll probably have a silver tie clip.
I'm getting married Friday, and the dress code is not my own.
I will be wearing black pants, a white button-up, and a 2.5in black, white and silver tie.
To my own wedding.
Yes, I will be dressed like a middle-schooler at his first formal dance.
So anyway, I'm looking for ideas about how to splash it up a bit. I've got a watch I'm happy with (steel band, blackface, chronograph). I'm going with black and grey argyle socks. I'd like something else to make me feel like a bit less of an underdressed schmuck though. Oh, and I'll probably have a silver tie clip.
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What? Do you mean she's incredibly controlling? Tell her you want to dress up a little bit more. You're getting married for God's sake.
:-p
No, I mean I am happily compromising on my attire for a jointly thrown occasion. I would however still like to snap things up in a few small ways.
--LeVar Burton
This doesn't make any sense. Are you doing a double wedding and the other groom doesn't want to wear a jacket or tux? Would you give is the details with what's going on so we can get a sense of things instead of being cryptic?
You can't wear a hat, don't even think about some sort of goofy suspenders or wallet chain. You could do cuff links to match the tie clip, but they'd look bizarre without a jacket.
If your partner is cool with it, you could do a nice hat as well, but that has a stronger impact than what it sounds like you're wanting.
You don't wear a hat to get married. Unless you've got some sort of theme going and ALL the groomsmen are wearing them as well.
Maybe a vest or a waist coat? A nice belt might dress it up a bit.
I don't know. It sounds like your pretty locked down to the black pants/white shirt/tie. If a jacket's out of the question, not much can be done to dress the outfit up without looking goofy.
Because I'm not looking for relationship advice here, I'm looking for sartorial advice.
I agree, links without a jacket would look wildly out of place, even of I was interested in adding a waistcoat, hats in church don't exactly fly, suspenders should either be invisible or proper braces which I'm ten years too young to pull off, and wallet chains are for nightclubs.
I wish I had an appropriate pocket for a square, or button hole for a buttonniere. Perhaps a monogram on my pocket or cuff in grey or silver thread?
--LeVar Burton
I'm not trying to offer you relationship advice. I'm curious as to the specifics of the occasion so that better advice can be offered as to what you can possibly do with your outfit.
Also, the tie clip is a good call. Or, if you can find one on short notice (good luck), a collar bar instead. Not only are they functional, they are super classy looking.
Edit: also, shine the fuck out of your shoes. If you can't see your reflection they're not shiny enough.
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hat: unless its outdoors, hats aren't for inside
pocket square: probbaly a good bet though you would need to clear it
vest: again, if you are already limited in what you will wear adding a vest won't fly
belt buckle: good though unless you are a belt buckle person, it might look weird
cufflinks: i disagree that it would look weird without a jacket so long as they weren't huge
tie clip: do it
watch: do it
though honestly, you are probably overthinking this need to spice it up. it really doesn't matter what the groom looks like, no one will be watching you. you just need to make sure your hair is brushed, your shirt is tucked in and you fly is up.
Buy a black suit tomorrow and get it altered immediately.