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Pregnancy...Positive result 10 days after conception using condom and withdrawal?
robotfoot4
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Hey, I'm a little worried. I had sex with a friend the week she was supposed to be getting her period (approximately 4 days before). We used a condom and I pulled out. She said she took a urine pregnancy test at the doctor's office 10 days after we had sex and it came out positive (i didn't see her take the test though.) Could she actually be pregnant?
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Either way, yes it is possible she is pregnant (especially if you penetrated before wearing the condom or caused contact between the vaginal area and your semen). If she is, I would consider getting a DNA test done on any child that is a product of said pregnancy though.
I'm assuming you used a condom the WHOLE time, didn't pull out, put one on, and then finish up? Because then yeah, she could be pregnant by you. But if you were wearing the condom the WHOLE TIME you were in her it's is pretty unlikely you got her pregnant. Still not impossible. Just unlikely. Very unlikely.
She could still be pregnant, but if so it is very unlikely to be yours.
Do your due diligence and be responsible, but unless you're lying to us, really...don't worry.
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Maybe.
Or a real positive due to some previous activity.
This.
Seriously, if there is an actual pregnancy, which I doubt, get a DNA test. I would be willing to bet large amounts of money that baby is not yours.
This. If this isn't the only time you've had sex with her, maybe there's something that was "unsafe" in past activity. If it IS the only time you've had sex with her you would have had to do something pretty fancy on top of what you told us to actually succeed in getting anyone pregnant. Assuming this is the only time, I do not think you got her pregnant.
Again, that doesn't mean she's not pregnant, and hearing "we were having sex and she was out the door before I ejaculated or even removed the condom" makes me think of someone who would rather say it's your baby than someone else's... but if she really hasn't had sex with anyone else and that was your only time, that's bordering on "miracle". :P
On top of the fact that you said "friend" and not "girlfriend", you will want to be getting a paternity test as soon as it is possible to do so. As that won't be for a while, you might want to actually see the results of a pee test. If she went into a doctor's office and they did a test right there, she should be able to get this little slip of paper called a "proof of pregnancy". You need them for things like medicaid and financial assistance. It shouldn't be difficult to procure.
And remember if you can't afford a DNA test there is always Maurey...
But seriously I've had this shit pulled on me before and I would take the "your the only one" thing with a grain of salt. Be aware that if she is in fact pregnant and you ask for a DNA test she will flip the fuck out on you but that comes with the question. I would just like to say from personal experience that YOU pick the place where the paternity test is done and go with her to make sure it actually gets done.
Do keep in mind that there is a, though very miniscule, chance that it might be yours if she is actually knocked up. I would just put it at the back of your mind and
1) establish if she actually is pregnant
2) establish that it is or is not yours
But I'd wager a fair sum if what you've told us is truthful that she isn't pregnant and if she is it isn't yours.
You sure you're not bending the truth on any points of the story? I don't think anyone will berate you or whatever if you want to 'adjust' certain parts of the telling, but if you're still worried at this point then there's got to be some other piece of the story that's the reason why, I'd think.
A friend of mine a couple years ago had a casual sex partner that became pregnant and swore that he was the only possible father. He contacted his lawyer and ended up demanding a paternity test. She hemmed and hawed and tried to stall, but the results said that it wasn't his. Sometimes people lie when they get scared.
A post birth paternity test can be as cheap as $200-$400 and is a hell of a lot cheaper than getting roped in to eighteen years of paying for a child that isn't yours. If she says it's yours, tell her your lawyer requires you to have a paternity test performed before you make any financial agreements.
On the other hand, if this woman is pregnant, and you are the only person she has had sex with, and it was only one time, and you both wore a condom and pulled out, and you didn't even ejaculate, than congratulations, because I'm pretty sure you're involved in something biblical.
<terrible human being>We, of course, having only your story to go by are still making the assumptions that she is lying, and has slept with other people. Defaulting to she is a whore it is not yours is a rather negative position to take minus all the facts. She could also be doing this to try and convince you to date her with the logic of you will probably panic and decide it is better to raise a family than pay support. In a couple months if she suddenly "miscarries" ask her if she "miscarried" again three days later. </terrible human being>
<terrible human being> That or call her back and act extremely excited about being a father. Act like you are on board 100% and absolutely thrilled about it. Start talking baby names immediately. Then casually drop in conversation that after the doctors told you that you would never be able to bear children how broken up you were, and that this baby is an absolutely miracle. Then go on to say that due to you suffering Glen Boylan's disease it is absolutely vital to get a blood test done as soon as possible to see if your child has inherited your rare blood condition. Act incredibly worried about this possibility. Bonus points if you make her reassure you everything will be ok with your miracle baby. </terrible human being>
-Girl sleeps around.
-Girl gets pregnant but either doesn't know who's the father, or for some reason does not want to seek out the father.
-Girl panics.
-Girl seeks out male friend most likely to "take responsibility".
-Girl arranges to sleep with said male friend.
-Girl then pressures said male friend to "take responsibility".
-Said male friend unwittingly bears burden for rest of natural life despite being a good human being and used proper protection.
tl;dr: Do what Detharin says, but minus the terrible human being part. Then again, maybe tell her you're suffering from unusual bumps and lesions, and that you just tested positive for HIV...
There will be no more "terrible human being" posting in H/A. If you want to post like a terrible human being, find somewhere else to do it, because after just three posts I am sick of it.
Out of curiosity, how old are you two?
This shit is scary. Even if we assume you are her only partner, and are the father the situation is a huge life changing one for both of you. Factor in parental uncertainty, and the lack of any real preexisting relationship between the two of you she has a lot of extra reasons to be freaking out.
My advice figure out what you want to do. Then sit down with he and lay out how you want to handle things. If you plan on being supportive, then be supportive. If you plan on breaking contact until the court order shows up for paternity then explain that. Just do not get wishy washy, do not let her manipulate you into a relationship that can later be used against you. Do not have any further sexual contact with her that could later be used to against you.