Well, like I said, that was a shitty way to say it.
But who knows, it's not like every problem in the world is "get over"-able. And seeking help is probably the healthiest response to an acknowledged problem.
Do whatever will make you into the person you want to be, Zen.
And give me a hug, because hugs for everybody!
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BeastehTHAT WOULD NOTKILL DRACULARegistered Userregular
One time we had a thread like this and people were showing off significant others and Jen found out about, she got upset when I said I hadn't posted a picture of her in her slamming Bikini body she had that year.
Ever since I've made sure to have at least one flattering pic on hand whenever these threads roll around.
Look, all I can see is you talking about this picture, and not posting it.
That pic is both several years old and lost to the depths of my Flickr account, and I can't be bothered re-upping at the moment.
But here, have a rare pic of the two of us together from the same holiday.
Seriously, there's about one photo with us both in it a year. I take plenty of her, but I just don't care to make effort to appear in photos myself, so we just never seem to appear together.
"I have to get something. I'll be right back." And with that, he closes the door.
Behind the door is a trans person.
Suddenly, another person pops out of the potted plant. Yet another from a storage door. Two more from under the table. In seconds, Zen is beset on all sides.
One of them speaks.
"Alright, everyone. You heard the doc.
Let's give this guy some exposure."
Another successful session.
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AntimatterDevo Was RightGates of SteelRegistered Userregular
I'm an organ donor because I hope that if someone gets my organs I can go liquid snake mode and keep on living. Hopefully the dude that gets my organs has a nice moustache
I'm an organ donor because I hope that if someone gets my organs I can go liquid snake mode and keep on living. Hopefully the dude that gets my organs has a nice moustache
i live on...THROUGH THIS KIDNEY *twists around, points to back*
I think I've been pretty good about keeping my love life off of the forums but this is nominally the thread for that so before it closes I am going to very briefly indulge
It's our anniversary today, we can't spend it together because of circumstances but I just wanted to say
I love my partner, she is my best friend and my soul mate. Over the years we've grown together, and we've grown as people
I am fiercely proud of her, what she has overcome and what she has achieved
she tells me constantly how she could not have made it this far on her own, and I have helped, but all I've done, all I've ever done is simply help her see what she's temporarily lost sight of
her fundamental goodness and rightness as a person, her strength, her caring, her insight and her drive
the things she does every day, and the kindness and the grace with which she does them, and the good it inspires in other people
it makes my heart burst to see and it's a privilege I'm not sure I'll ever feel worthy of
but it makes me want to try
and she's helped me so much, more than I can say and I imagine more than I'll ever know
I didn't think I'd ever be able to share my life with anyone
I love people, but I am frightened of them as I am of all things
I'd dated, I'd been in relationships, but I was too quiet, too moody, and had too much difficulty expressing myself
it was just an idea that I had accepted: I was not built for other people
and I met her
and it was not instant
it was slow, it was rough
it was god damn infuriating
it was two very flawed, very human people working their way into each others' lives, fitfully, with many false starts, stumbles and bad turnings
but there was a truth through it all: we each were in the other's corner, we each understood
it's been years now and that truth has proven sturdy enough to start building a life on, and wonder of wonders I find myself believing that perhaps the best days are ahead
I have no idea where I'd be without her
the vice president of taking your retirement money, staring listlessly out the window of my corner office at unscrupulous inc.
hiding in a basement full of cats and spiders, none of which are mine, fondling a piece of costume jewelry and making up riddles that I might use to challenge the unwary
back in bumblefuck georgia, going nowhere and thinking only of the past and missed opportunities
I don't want to sound like a huge dick for agreeing with Saru, since he had to explain himself... And prove that he wasn't the dick.
I still agree with Saru. In the non-jerk way.
Zen, those kinds of things are usually rooted in some early life bigotry you were taught by someone. Not in a bad "KKK" kind of way. Just general intolerance. Since you don't have an active hatred for the transgender-ed, it might behoove you to examine these feelings beyond "ew-iky!"
If you literally can not come up with a rational reason for your feelings (which, it sounds like you can't), maybe you should get over it. Like, take a deep breath, and let it go. Actively work at discouraging the feelings, since you now know they are couched in nothing.
This isn't a "walk it off" thing, this is a "If you don't know why you hate, don't hate." thing. If that idea/personal exercise seems to be too difficult or unproductive. Yes, counselling.
Alternatively, just watch lots of transgender porn.
KwoaruConfident SmirkFlawless Golden PecsRegistered Userregular
edited April 2013
I dunno I feel like Zen is smart enough that it is safe to assume that "get over it" is something he has tried already which is why he thought to ask if therapy might be helpful
I'm no PORN EXPERT, but I've heard from a variety of sources that trans people in porn are abused and the whole affair is treated like a freak show with all respect for humanity being tossed out in favor of creepy fetishists.
Alternatively, just watch lots of transgender porn.
Do not fucking do this.
It's 90% exploitative horror.
I remember reading an article a year or so back, written by a woman who'd gone through the industry.
It was... Paralyzing. I thought the regular adult sex industry was destructive, for the gay and transgender communities it's in such a sorry state I'm surprised some one hasn't stepped in.
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AntimatterDevo Was RightGates of SteelRegistered Userregular
can't, liiya
that site somehow managed to have non-awful images and didn't have slur-filled watermarks on the images
every other pictoral site has watermarks with slurs
despite not having a relationship ive been getting the best valentines day cards for the past years so fuck all your boyfriends/girlfriends
bluefriends are the best
I'm no PORN EXPERT, but I've heard from a variety of sources that trans people in porn are abused and the whole affair is treated like a freak show with all respect for humanity being tossed out in favor of creepy fetishists.
it seems like creepy fetishists have incredible amounts of money
like, good as in healthy and really positive and just all around the most amazing bestest stuff ever
its the only time ive ever considered actually paying for pornography
I'm no PORN EXPERT, but I've heard from a variety of sources that trans people in porn are abused and the whole affair is treated like a freak show with all respect for humanity being tossed out in favor of creepy fetishists.
it seems like creepy fetishists have incredible amounts of money
Yeah.
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RankenphilePassersby were amazedby the unusually large amounts of blood.Registered User, Moderatormod
I'm no PORN EXPERT, but I've heard from a variety of sources that trans people in porn are abused and the whole affair is treated like a freak show with all respect for humanity being tossed out in favor of creepy fetishists.
Tried to edit your title to say "I'm no PORN EXPERT" but I could t pull it off. Stupid mobile.
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Zen VulgarityWhat a lovely day for teaSecret British ThreadRegistered Userregular
Yeah it's gone from AHHHHH and not talking to them to just being mentally a bit freaked
But it's been what like three years since that, even if I don't have any outward prejudice
Hence the therapy thing
Likely it's early childhood from a priest or something
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exposure therapy
Well, like I said, that was a shitty way to say it.
But who knows, it's not like every problem in the world is "get over"-able. And seeking help is probably the healthiest response to an acknowledged problem.
Do whatever will make you into the person you want to be, Zen.
And give me a hug, because hugs for everybody!
That pic is both several years old and lost to the depths of my Flickr account, and I can't be bothered re-upping at the moment.
But here, have a rare pic of the two of us together from the same holiday.
Seriously, there's about one photo with us both in it a year. I take plenty of her, but I just don't care to make effort to appear in photos myself, so we just never seem to appear together.
"I have to get something. I'll be right back." And with that, he closes the door.
Behind the door is a trans person.
Suddenly, another person pops out of the potted plant. Yet another from a storage door. Two more from under the table. In seconds, Zen is beset on all sides.
One of them speaks.
"Alright, everyone. You heard the doc.
Let's give this guy some exposure."
Another successful session.
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And not wanting to become my father.
Yeah, I think the boards did a lot for providing information that answered questions I had (and didn't know I had).
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They better go though because his house is way better than my little box room and I need to get busy
Get busy livin' or get busy livin' all quiet and hushed and goddammit stop breathing so loud somebody's going to hear you
"I...I just don't know how I got so behind on my paperwork!"
I love my partner, she is my best friend and my soul mate. Over the years we've grown together, and we've grown as people
I am fiercely proud of her, what she has overcome and what she has achieved
she tells me constantly how she could not have made it this far on her own, and I have helped, but all I've done, all I've ever done is simply help her see what she's temporarily lost sight of
her fundamental goodness and rightness as a person, her strength, her caring, her insight and her drive
the things she does every day, and the kindness and the grace with which she does them, and the good it inspires in other people
it makes my heart burst to see and it's a privilege I'm not sure I'll ever feel worthy of
but it makes me want to try
and she's helped me so much, more than I can say and I imagine more than I'll ever know
I didn't think I'd ever be able to share my life with anyone
I love people, but I am frightened of them as I am of all things
I'd dated, I'd been in relationships, but I was too quiet, too moody, and had too much difficulty expressing myself
it was just an idea that I had accepted: I was not built for other people
and I met her
and it was not instant
it was slow, it was rough
it was god damn infuriating
it was two very flawed, very human people working their way into each others' lives, fitfully, with many false starts, stumbles and bad turnings
but there was a truth through it all: we each were in the other's corner, we each understood
it's been years now and that truth has proven sturdy enough to start building a life on, and wonder of wonders I find myself believing that perhaps the best days are ahead
I have no idea where I'd be without her
the vice president of taking your retirement money, staring listlessly out the window of my corner office at unscrupulous inc.
hiding in a basement full of cats and spiders, none of which are mine, fondling a piece of costume jewelry and making up riddles that I might use to challenge the unwary
back in bumblefuck georgia, going nowhere and thinking only of the past and missed opportunities
maybe I'd be fine
I don't believe it though
it's been an interesting eight years
they haven't all been good
but I wouldn't give any of them back
and I want to see what's next
I still agree with Saru. In the non-jerk way.
Zen, those kinds of things are usually rooted in some early life bigotry you were taught by someone. Not in a bad "KKK" kind of way. Just general intolerance. Since you don't have an active hatred for the transgender-ed, it might behoove you to examine these feelings beyond "ew-iky!"
If you literally can not come up with a rational reason for your feelings (which, it sounds like you can't), maybe you should get over it. Like, take a deep breath, and let it go. Actively work at discouraging the feelings, since you now know they are couched in nothing.
This isn't a "walk it off" thing, this is a "If you don't know why you hate, don't hate." thing. If that idea/personal exercise seems to be too difficult or unproductive. Yes, counselling.
Alternatively, just watch lots of transgender porn.
You're totally right. Edited accordingly.
edit slow
:^:
It's 90% exploitative horror.
Either it makes you more averse or you develop a weird psychosexual hatred/obsession with it.
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Perhaps it is your calling, to go forth and better that site!
I remember reading an article a year or so back, written by a woman who'd gone through the industry.
It was... Paralyzing. I thought the regular adult sex industry was destructive, for the gay and transgender communities it's in such a sorry state I'm surprised some one hasn't stepped in.
that site somehow managed to have non-awful images and didn't have slur-filled watermarks on the images
every other pictoral site has watermarks with slurs
bluefriends are the best
also there is some really good ftm porn
its the only time ive ever considered actually paying for pornography
That's pretty disgraceful it was the only one out there.
I hope it is replaced one day by one thats equal to it!
this isn't too shocking
Yeah.
Tried to edit your title to say "I'm no PORN EXPERT" but I could t pull it off. Stupid mobile.
But it's been what like three years since that, even if I don't have any outward prejudice
Hence the therapy thing
Likely it's early childhood from a priest or something