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Being [TRANS] Is Like Working In A Fish Market

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  • Ethereal IllusionEthereal Illusion Registered User regular
    I've done the flying thing and it's been a very pleasant experience so far. TSA looked at my ID, threw me a smile, and that was it. Anecdotal, but there you go.

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  • FencingsaxFencingsax It is difficult to get a man to understand, when his salary depends upon his not understanding GNU Terry PratchettRegistered User regular
    Yeah, flying can either be fine, or the TSA can be horrible. It may just be because I live in Washington, but my flying experiences have been positive.

  • Ruby RhodRuby Rhod Multipass!Registered User regular
    Ugh, flying and dealing with the TSA is already horrible enough as it is, I can only imagine how awful it will be when I'm full time as a girl.

  • interrobanginterrobang kawaii as  hellRegistered User regular
    hi, trans thread

    i just want to say that i love you all very much

    and i hope that when you all come out to the people you love, it goes better than it just went for me

  • Ruby RhodRuby Rhod Multipass!Registered User regular
    Oh no that doesn't sound good, what happened?

  • interrobanginterrobang kawaii as  hellRegistered User regular
    i had The Talk with someone i care really deeply about, and it went as terribly as it could have possibly gone

    and now i guess i have another bridge to burn

  • Donovan PuppyfuckerDonovan Puppyfucker A dagger in the dark is worth a thousand swords in the morningRegistered User regular
    Aww that really sucks, I'm sorry.

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  • Ruby RhodRuby Rhod Multipass!Registered User regular
    :( I'm sorry that it didn't go well. You'll always have friends here for you to talk to and vent with. Hugs

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  • MeldingMelding Registered User regular
    These are the moments that reveal the most about a person.

    Sorry it didn't go well.

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  • FyndirFyndir Registered User regular
    In a possibly unintended consequence of these threads, being more educated about these issues, and knowing all you wonderful people I am now arguing with some goose in the comments section of fucking Imgur of all places.

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  • TubeTube Registered User admin
    When I get into those situations I remind myself how lucky I am to be able to put those issues aside if I choose to rather than having them as a daily fact of life.

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  • LiiyaLiiya Registered User regular
    Interro I didn't even know you were going through that, if you ever hinted of it in the fashion thread I missed it, I'm real sorry to hear that.

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  • Halos Nach TariffHalos Nach Tariff Can you blame me? I'm too famous.Registered User regular
    Yeah, really sorry to hear about that Interrobang, hope things work out for you eventually.

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  • GatsbyGatsby Registered User regular
    @interrobang :( I'm so so sorry to hear that.

    You're a wonderful person and a huge bunch of us here love ya heaps and are here for you as much as you need.

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  • SorceSorce Not ThereRegistered User regular
    edited May 2013
    i had The Talk with someone i care really deeply about, and it went as terribly as it could have possibly gone

    and now i guess i have another bridge to burn
    It's not you that's burning the bridge here; their failure to understand/be sympathetic/etc is on them.

    edit: And Geth agrees.

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  • DaMoonRulzDaMoonRulz Mare ImbriumRegistered User regular
    Ruby Rhod wrote: »
    Ugh, flying and dealing with the TSA is already horrible enough as it is, I can only imagine how awful it will be when I'm full time as a girl.

    I almost goofed a couple years ago while checking in a flight. I was checking in a couple and I noticed the woman was listed as male. I started to change it and tell her that the person who did the res made a mistake, but luckily I looked at her driver's license and it also said male.

    "Whoops, looks like someone...didn't seat you together! Ok, it's all set now"

    She didn't have any trouble with TSA but I could see the hushed whispering and backwards glances

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  • laughingfuzzballlaughingfuzzball Registered User regular
    While the loss of privacy is certainly extra-sucky for a trans person, it looks like TSA has reasonable policies in place. I can't really think of what more they could do other than lowering scrutiny across the board. Could be cis privilege talking? Maybe not having gender on the forms? But there's more (at least implicitly) gendered info on an ID than the "sex" box, so would that even help, outside of situations where the name and pic were accurate but "sex" wasn't?

    I'm not saying it's not bad, it certainly is a situation that could turn out very embarrassing, if not traumatizing. I guess I'm just asking what should be different?

    For a moment I thought "well, so long as the agents follow their own policies and behave with common sense and basic human desency...", then I remembered TSA

  • DaMoonRulzDaMoonRulz Mare ImbriumRegistered User regular
    Also, if you're worried about checking in and having the person at the counter say something, just tell them you lost your ID. If you're flying domestically you don't need ID, so just check in at the counter without ID, then take it out when you go through screening.

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  • Curly_BraceCurly_Brace Robot Girl Mimiga VillageRegistered User regular
    For a moment I thought "well, so long as the agents follow their own policies and behave with common sense and basic human desency...", then I remembered TSA

    Pretty much exactly this. The TSA agents checking our bags and checking us are untrained, poorly vetted, sometimes criminals, and almost always jerks. I know plenty of folks in commercial aviation and they don't like the "Taking Scissors Away" agents as they call them.

    I suppose the TSA are just an example of how people in authority -sometimes scary people in authority with guns and handcuffs- can make life annoying, terrifying, or ruinous for an LGBT person.

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  • MetalbourneMetalbourne Inside a cluster b personalityRegistered User regular
    Well this is my first Mother's Day.

    It's weird that people are wishing me a happy Mother's Day. Not really weird so much as unexpected. But, as it was explained to me, I'm a lady who's helping to raise three kids, so that makes me a mom.

    Still, it's fucking weird.

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  • ButtcleftButtcleft Registered User regular
    edited May 2013
    Well this is my first Mother's Day.

    It's weird that people are wishing me a happy Mother's Day. Not really weird so much as unexpected. But, as it was explained to me, I'm a lady who's helping to raise three kids, so that makes me a mom.

    Still, it's fucking weird.

    So Metalbourne is a MILF?

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  • MetalbourneMetalbourne Inside a cluster b personalityRegistered User regular
    Buttcleft wrote: »
    Well this is my first Mother's Day.

    It's weird that people are wishing me a happy Mother's Day. Not really weird so much as unexpected. But, as it was explained to me, I'm a lady who's helping to raise three kids, so that makes me a mom.

    Still, it's fucking weird.

    So Metalbourne is a MILF?

    :winky:

  • DoobhDoobh She/Her, Ace Pan/Bisexual 8-) What's up, bootlickers?Registered User regular
    Well this is my first Mother's Day.

    It's weird that people are wishing me a happy Mother's Day. Not really weird so much as unexpected. But, as it was explained to me, I'm a lady who's helping to raise three kids, so that makes me a mom.

    Still, it's fucking weird.

    oh, hey, you are a mommy

    happy mum day

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  • ButtcleftButtcleft Registered User regular
    Ruby Rhod wrote: »

    I can't believe this is 10 years old.

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  • Fire TruckFire Truck I love my SELFRegistered User regular
    Asked my dad what he would have named me were I born a girl. He asked, "why, you changing your gender?" and laughed uproariously.

    Also it turns out my name would have been Taylor, so double whammy there.

  • MeldingMelding Registered User regular
    mine would have been margerie or some spelling there for.

  • PonyPony Registered User regular
    my mother has three sons

    all three would have been named elizabeth if they were daughters, my mother loves that name and is somewhat saddened that the gender coin toss never came down daughter after five tries at it

  • DoobhDoobh She/Her, Ace Pan/Bisexual 8-) What's up, bootlickers?Registered User regular
    It would have been Melissa if I was born a lady

    hence why I choose it for my new name

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  • DichotomyDichotomy Registered User regular
    I would have been a rachel or cassandra I believe

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  • MeldingMelding Registered User regular
    I considered Cassandra, bu then i realized i have two exes with the name, and my credibility is low enough already.

    Not that Dinosaur adds to it, but

  • Fire TruckFire Truck I love my SELFRegistered User regular
    edited May 2013
    I went by Grace when presenting female for a while because I used to have a roommate named Grace and whenever anyone would call one of our names we would think they were talking about the other one and I thought it was funny.

    Considered Erica for a while because I was always told I looked like my name should be Eric (???).

    Thinking Simone now because "Max-Simon" was the French name I pulled out of a hat my first day of French class way back when, and so I spent a not insignificant amount of time being called that for six years of my life.

    edit: pretty much all academic at the moment anyway.

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  • DoobhDoobh She/Her, Ace Pan/Bisexual 8-) What's up, bootlickers?Registered User regular
    Can I call you Shirley?

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  • InfidelInfidel Heretic Registered User regular
    Sarah. Which is a name I really like so I would have been totally happy with that.

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  • MetalbourneMetalbourne Inside a cluster b personalityRegistered User regular
    Dubh wrote: »
    Can I call you Shirley?

    You can't be serious.

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  • DoobhDoobh She/Her, Ace Pan/Bisexual 8-) What's up, bootlickers?Registered User regular
    Sarah's a nice name
    or Sara

    or any other variation of it

    I'm partial to Fiona, Tera, and Emily

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  • MetalbourneMetalbourne Inside a cluster b personalityRegistered User regular
    If I changed my name I decided it would be equally androgynous. Like Alex or Sam(antha).

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  • DoobhDoobh She/Her, Ace Pan/Bisexual 8-) What's up, bootlickers?Registered User regular
    I know a Sam that sorta looks like Zooey Deschanel

    and I told her that she's super cute

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  • MeldingMelding Registered User regular
    Sarah Fiona was a name that everyone in my family almost got.

    True facts.

    Honestly, i would have been okay with it.

  • DaMoonRulzDaMoonRulz Mare ImbriumRegistered User regular
    It's Pat?

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