you know how cats and dogs know when you need a timeout and always come seek you out even when you didn't ask for them to come to you for affectionate snuggles
I find that to be an awesome thing, and I always wonder how they know
Dogs are
the
BEST.
I cannot wait until Amy and I get our own place, I want a Ridgeback more than just about anything.
Also, cross-stitch is awesome, and Lego, and @bsjezz, now I think I need to get you a Meccano set for Secret Satans this year... All the fun of Lego WITH the allen key-related injuries!
My general approach is to just keep busy and active, it makes me happy first of all, and doesn't leave me much time to worry about other things.
So, videogames, reading, boardgames (the social aspect is extra nice), the gym, kendo (though I have to stop due to flat feet and will need to find a replacement), going to coffee shops, exploring for new restaurants, hanging with friends, hanging with my gf, jerking it, work, going to parks, museums, the movies, whatever etc etc. I just like to be doing stuff.
This month, normally, I would have no students but still have to come into work for 40 hours a week and just sit in the office. I knew this would basically make me want to pound my head against the wall so I convinced my work to give me a month of paid leave to take a month of intensive Japanese study (I work in Japan as an English teacher so it is work related) instead. So right now I am in a new city exploring it, meeting new people, and spending lots of time studying. But if I was back doing nothing in the office I'd probably be miserable.
you know how cats and dogs know when you need a timeout and always come seek you out even when you didn't ask for them to come to you for affectionate snuggles
I find that to be an awesome thing, and I always wonder how they know
Dogs are
the
BEST.
I cannot wait until Amy and I get our own place, I want a Ridgeback more than just about anything.
Also, cross-stitch is awesome, and Lego, and @bsjezz, now I think I need to get you a Meccano set for Secret Satans this year... All the fun of Lego WITH the allen key-related injuries!
haha
the other day i was helping my mate's kid set up a meccano car set that he got for his birthday. i was kinda organizing the pieces and placing the bolts, before getting him to screw stuff on, then realizing it was all wrong and taking it apart again
after about fifteen minutes he says, very dryly:
"that kid on the box looks like he's having fun, doesn't he?"
"yeah."
"we're not having fun, are we?"
it was about that point we decided to pack it up and move on to the next toy.
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A hot shower.
everything can be fixed for me by a hot shower.
pair that with some exercise and the 45 minutes of the bus ride each way, and that's me.
When I'm in a really super bad spot and need to get out of a funk? I'll probably get my hair cut.
But back before I moved I would say my self-care was...
Hiking
Yoga
Jogging
Pub quiz
Occasional bubble baths and lazy mornings with crosswords
I am starting to jog regularly again but it's hard for me right now to find a thing or a way to clear my mind of stress and concentrate on my well-being and... so I'm actually not taking very good of myself at all these days!
A lot of the time when things start going to shit, you may realize that the stuff you previously did to take care of yourself hasn't been around in a while. You either stopped going or your circumstances changed and you haven't established alternatives. You then run into a chicken-and-egg situation: did shit go bad and I compromised my self-care to deal with that shit? Or did shit actually go bad because I compromised my self-care?
The thing is that both of those things are likely true, and sometimes realizing what you did in the PAST that was helpful is a good guide to what you may need to re-establish in your life if you're struggling now (and I know you are, in particular).
One of the toughest things about changing circumstances is finding an alternative for something you KNEW used to work well, but that for whatever reason you no longer have access to. It may have been easy to go for a hike in Korea because opportunities and groups were plentiful, but now that you're not there anymore, what ELSE could you do that could be as fun?
And switching off the voice that goes "but it's just not gonna be as good as hiking so why bother ugh" is very, very hard - but necessary.
In the meantime, while you find an alternative for something like hiking or pub quizzes, it's awesome that you've started jogging again. It may also be worth while to give something else small and easy to do a good go, just to see if it suits you.
Thanks, Viv. I definitely need to establish some daily elements that center me and help me separate work from the rest of my life, given how much I really hate my job these days and dread going.
It doesn't help that I tend to get trapped in cycle of feeling guilty about not worrying about work when I manage to not worry about work and then oy around we go again. My father and I both find it insanely difficult to 'turn off' as it were; the only difference is it makes him more productive and me more depressed. I think that used to make him feel like it was a good thing, but the doctors who are helping him through his surgeries have told him that stress was a real factor in exacerbating the situation, so nowadays he's really insisting that I find a way to avoid the self-inflicted stress that we both are subject to.
I really want to create a thing or start a habit that will be my daily self-care go-to, but I'm just not sure what it will be. I don't have the money to go to the gym (I'm starting again next month) or the pub for trivia right now - maybe if I could start devoting a set hour to writing and music, or something...
"Sandra has a good solid anti-murderer vibe. My skin felt very secure and sufficiently attached to my body when I met her. Also my organs." HAIL SATAN
you know how cats and dogs know when you need a timeout and always come seek you out even when you didn't ask for them to come to you for affectionate snuggles
I find that to be an awesome thing, and I always wonder how they know
Dogs are
the
BEST.
I cannot wait until Amy and I get our own place, I want a Ridgeback more than just about anything.
Also, cross-stitch is awesome, and Lego, and @bsjezz, now I think I need to get you a Meccano set for Secret Satans this year... All the fun of Lego WITH the allen key-related injuries!
We had a rhodesian ridgeback x lab (poss x some great dane) when I was a teenager/early 20s. She was the BEST DOG. Hands down. I like dogs and I've met some pretty amazing dogs. But Marley was the BEST DOG.
She died aged 5 from liver cancer and I still get upset about it.
i am also just now getting back on the exercise and eating healthy bandwagon too, because i have been feeling bad about myself
and i want to cook for myself more again because i used to and it was enjoyable and also i need ot save more money
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FL gets so goddamn impossibly hot, so it makes doing running with Lady SH hard, but we're both gonna try to do that again more, and I think I'm gonna do some research on that '7 minute workout' I've seen floating around lately to try to get back into better shape.
I was going to the gym Mon-Fri before we got MARRIED and went to SF for two and a half weeks for the honeymoon, totally broke the habit
It did help me stop with my nail-biting habit because HOLY SHIT SF IS A FILTHY FILTHY PLACE
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i don't know if putting insane amounts of time into a videogame about internet spaceships counts but right now that is my home away from home
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Also sex. And orgasms, whether solo or with someone are excellent. Makes you feel good and floods you with endorphins. But I am preaching to the converted here.
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Also I kicked my own crutches accidentally yesterday and it suuuuuucked. I was wearing big clunky fluffy slippers with solid soles and my right foot hit the right crutch, which got knocked away from me and my left leg (the operated one) freaked the fuck out and the pain that followed was blinding.
I am somewhat worried I have done more damage now because my knee has been feeling shitty all day today. Ugh.
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sex is like a party
everyone seems to be having one, but when you're finally invited you go and it's awkward and uncomfortable and you'd really rather just go home and watch x-files
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Dogs are
the
BEST.
I cannot wait until Amy and I get our own place, I want a Ridgeback more than just about anything.
Also, cross-stitch is awesome, and Lego, and @bsjezz, now I think I need to get you a Meccano set for Secret Satans this year... All the fun of Lego WITH the allen key-related injuries!
So, videogames, reading, boardgames (the social aspect is extra nice), the gym, kendo (though I have to stop due to flat feet and will need to find a replacement), going to coffee shops, exploring for new restaurants, hanging with friends, hanging with my gf, jerking it, work, going to parks, museums, the movies, whatever etc etc. I just like to be doing stuff.
This month, normally, I would have no students but still have to come into work for 40 hours a week and just sit in the office. I knew this would basically make me want to pound my head against the wall so I convinced my work to give me a month of paid leave to take a month of intensive Japanese study (I work in Japan as an English teacher so it is work related) instead. So right now I am in a new city exploring it, meeting new people, and spending lots of time studying. But if I was back doing nothing in the office I'd probably be miserable.
So just doing stuff really, is my approach.
haha
the other day i was helping my mate's kid set up a meccano car set that he got for his birthday. i was kinda organizing the pieces and placing the bolts, before getting him to screw stuff on, then realizing it was all wrong and taking it apart again
after about fifteen minutes he says, very dryly:
"that kid on the box looks like he's having fun, doesn't he?"
"yeah."
"we're not having fun, are we?"
it was about that point we decided to pack it up and move on to the next toy.
everything can be fixed for me by a hot shower.
pair that with some exercise and the 45 minutes of the bus ride each way, and that's me.
When I'm in a really super bad spot and need to get out of a funk? I'll probably get my hair cut.
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Thanks, Viv. I definitely need to establish some daily elements that center me and help me separate work from the rest of my life, given how much I really hate my job these days and dread going.
It doesn't help that I tend to get trapped in cycle of feeling guilty about not worrying about work when I manage to not worry about work and then oy around we go again. My father and I both find it insanely difficult to 'turn off' as it were; the only difference is it makes him more productive and me more depressed. I think that used to make him feel like it was a good thing, but the doctors who are helping him through his surgeries have told him that stress was a real factor in exacerbating the situation, so nowadays he's really insisting that I find a way to avoid the self-inflicted stress that we both are subject to.
I really want to create a thing or start a habit that will be my daily self-care go-to, but I'm just not sure what it will be. I don't have the money to go to the gym (I'm starting again next month) or the pub for trivia right now - maybe if I could start devoting a set hour to writing and music, or something...
"Sandra has a good solid anti-murderer vibe. My skin felt very secure and sufficiently attached to my body when I met her. Also my organs." HAIL SATAN
I don't really cook anymore. And trying to talk to anyone at home is exhausting.
I miss cooking. A lot. But anything I make is never really appreciated, it all goes to waste and I can't really enjoy it anymore.
We had a rhodesian ridgeback x lab (poss x some great dane) when I was a teenager/early 20s. She was the BEST DOG. Hands down. I like dogs and I've met some pretty amazing dogs. But Marley was the BEST DOG.
She died aged 5 from liver cancer and I still get upset about it.
"Sandra has a good solid anti-murderer vibe. My skin felt very secure and sufficiently attached to my body when I met her. Also my organs." HAIL SATAN
I guess the over-eating is not really self-care
I wouldn't say it's fixing anything but at least so far it seems to make it so I can get through an evening without a breakdown.
I guess mine are:
reading trashy rom/coms
killing people in tf2
taking time to drink a cup of tea
getting lots of snuggles
They all make me feel better and calmer.
i went like 43 days straight but then i went on vacation and fell off of it
i should try again
but man i still have sleeping problems
yesterday i was a zombie despite sleeping at 1030 the night before
last night i slept at 930ish, half woke up around midnight, fell asleep again at some point, and then have been wide awake since 4am
fucking fucked!
and i want to cook for myself more again because i used to and it was enjoyable and also i need ot save more money
This will be here until I receive an apology or Weedlordvegeta get any consequences for being a bully
I was going to the gym Mon-Fri before we got MARRIED and went to SF for two and a half weeks for the honeymoon, totally broke the habit
It did help me stop with my nail-biting habit because HOLY SHIT SF IS A FILTHY FILTHY PLACE
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pfft, sex isn't real
I am somewhat worried I have done more damage now because my knee has been feeling shitty all day today. Ugh.
I got a thing from Oh Joy Sex Toy and it is pretty good stuff for when Lady SH is not up for stuff
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Well what is it?
I'm on a computer all day at work. At home I love me some Civ 5 and CK2 and I just recently got a 3DS and...
Spend time working in the yard. Go out and and go running. Spend time reading to Jillian. Cook a delicious dish.
Just get my eyes away from the damn computer.
everyone seems to be having one, but when you're finally invited you go and it's awkward and uncomfortable and you'd really rather just go home and watch x-files
and kill him