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Ask me about being transgendered (again)

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  • TankHammerTankHammer Atlanta Ghostbuster Atlanta, GARegistered User regular
    You don't know me!

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  • PsykomaPsykoma Registered User regular
    Gatsby wrote: »
    you wouldn't hotlink a car

    would if i could

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  • Fleur de AlysFleur de Alys Biohacker Registered User regular
    edited October 2013
    TankHammer wrote: »
    You don't know me!
    that's what you think

    Fleur de Alys on
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  • I Win SwordfightsI Win Swordfights all the traits of greatness starlight at my feetRegistered User regular
    wow yeah i just realized

    you are the only heather i think i have ever personally known

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  • TamTam Registered User regular
    Gatsby wrote: »
    you wouldn't hotlink a car

    fuck you Gatsby I would if it wasn't physically impossible

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  • Undead ScottsmanUndead Scottsman Registered User regular
    Hey, here's a question I've wondered about for people who transition (or at least legally get thier names change) How do you settle on a new name? I know if I was going to pick a name for my new gender, I would go for the nearest equivilant (Ie. my name is Jeremy, so I'd probably go for Janine or something similar.) So I find it interesting to see people who pick an entirely unrelated name.

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  • mullymully Registered User regular
    edited October 2013
    DDV - not just your first name, your full name


    my mom was going to call me Dustin or Justin if i wasn't a girl
    I don't know how the hell she got from my name to Justin/Dustin.

    mully on
  • I Win SwordfightsI Win Swordfights all the traits of greatness starlight at my feetRegistered User regular
    i'm fairly certain bryar was the only name anyone came up with for me

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  • AntimatterAntimatter Devo Was Right Gates of SteelRegistered User regular
    my dad insisted i be named after him despite my mom's protests

    i have no idea what she would've named me

  • GatsbyGatsby Registered User regular
    edited October 2013
    I like my name Julian quite a bit

    I was tossing around Jesse when asked about any alternatives, but I won't lie I get a kick being called Julie/Julia whenever I feel in a femme mood.

    Gatsby on
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  • SaraLunaSaraLuna Registered User regular
    edited October 2013
    Hey, here's a question I've wondered about for people who transition (or at least legally get thier names change) How do you settle on a new name? I know if I was going to pick a name for my new gender, I would go for the nearest equivilant (Ie. my name is Jeremy, so I'd probably go for Janine or something similar.) So I find it interesting to see people who pick an entirely unrelated name.
    for some people, getting far away from that original name/identity is entirely the point.
    also, some easily feminized names are low hanging fruit for bullies and can gain a negative association.

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  • MetalbourneMetalbourne Inside a cluster b personalityRegistered User regular
    Hey, here's a question I've wondered about for people who transition (or at least legally get thier names change) How do you settle on a new name? I know if I was going to pick a name for my new gender, I would go for the nearest equivilant (Ie. my name is Jeremy, so I'd probably go for Janine or something similar.) So I find it interesting to see people who pick an entirely unrelated name.

    A lot of us spend a lot of time dreaming about being the gender we want, what our name would be, what we would look like, etc. chances are good that some of us have been thinking of a new name for years.

  • Fleur de AlysFleur de Alys Biohacker Registered User regular
    Hey, here's a question I've wondered about for people who transition (or at least legally get thier names change) How do you settle on a new name? I know if I was going to pick a name for my new gender, I would go for the nearest equivilant (Ie. my name is Jeremy, so I'd probably go for Janine or something similar.) So I find it interesting to see people who pick an entirely unrelated name.
    Meant to hit Quote instead of Agree for this post. Not that there's anything wrong with agreeing with it, but it's strange to agree to a question post?

    Anyway, while I'm not planning to go through that process, I do frequently present opposite online (in games and such). I've played many female characters in many games over the years, and one name I use a lot is a reasonably common real name, so I'd probably go with it. I like it. I'd even use it as a forum name except I'd prefer it be a little more... incognito?

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  • DirtyDirtyVagrantDirtyDirtyVagrant Registered User regular
    Hey, here's a question I've wondered about for people who transition (or at least legally get thier names change) How do you settle on a new name? I know if I was going to pick a name for my new gender, I would go for the nearest equivilant (Ie. my name is Jeremy, so I'd probably go for Janine or something similar.) So I find it interesting to see people who pick an entirely unrelated name.

    My birth name was Jefferson. Kinda hard to feminize, and I didn't want to go that route anyway. I had a list of names that I thought were pretty. Megan, Melissa, Rachel, Sarah, Ophelia, Claire, and Nicole. Most of those names were taken by friends or relatives, and then I thought of Heather. And I loved it. It seemed really feminine and dignified. But also really soft and lovely. After that I was calling myself Heather Gardner for a while. But I just chose Gardner as a space filler, and I hadn't really thought about what I wanted. A bunch of people from the SE minecraft server (Twixxo, Mayabird, Laika, Nukagrenade, and others) helped me think of my name as it is now. I thought of things I really loved and for some reason winter came to mind. And it was then that I decided to just feminize my current middle name and settle on my new one. :D

    Athenor
  • I Win SwordfightsI Win Swordfights all the traits of greatness starlight at my feetRegistered User regular
    heather gardner sounds pretty badass, gonna be honest

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  • DirtyDirtyVagrantDirtyDirtyVagrant Registered User regular
    I like my current name better. It's more 'me'

    MetalbourneUsagi
  • DoobhDoobh She/Her, Ace Pan/Bisexual 8-) What's up, bootlickers?Registered User regular
    Antimatter wrote: »
    my dad insisted i be named after him despite my mom's protests

    i have no idea what she would've named me

    ha ha

    your dad has a girl's name

    (shush, I know he doesn't)

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  • gtrmpgtrmp Registered User regular
    Dubh wrote: »
    unrelated: my Baldur's gate character is going to be dualclassing as a Thief (Shadowdancer)/Ranger (Archer)

    gonna be blasting fools with a crossbow

    pretty sure dualclassed characters can only take a kit on their first class, unless they changed that restriction in the Enhanced Edition, which it looks like they didn't

  • fairweatherfairweather OregonRegistered User regular
    I kept saying different names to myself over and over whenever I was driving around during the day. I went with Sophia for a while until it dawned on me that I loved the name that I've chosen.

    I remember talking with someone about what names I would like for kids one day. I didn't care about boy names at all, but I loved the name I ended up choosing for myself for a girl. Probably not having kids anyways, so the name is mine now. It has some ties to a core interest of mine and is short like my old name.

    I actually used the name of my first WoW character as my new last name. I wasn't sure on whether or not I wanted to change my last name. My family was super crappy to me when I came out, but I had resolved not to change my name out of spite... I, uh... only partially chose to change my name out of spite. It sounds nice with my first name and fits me well :)

    My middle name was a bit of a struggle. I resorted to name lists and finally found something that fit well with my first.

    In the end, my names are made up of bits and pieces of my interests and my life. They're the names I chose for myself, which means a lot to me. Using completely different names has helped immensely with separating myself from my old self-image of being a guy. Seeing my old last name still causes a twinge of pain. While I'm settling into my new identity, I do feel like I'm leaving behind my life before, which is really bittersweet. Maybe I can at least salvage some distant relationships down the road to reconnect with my youth, but I'm much happier being the new me at least.

  • DoobhDoobh She/Her, Ace Pan/Bisexual 8-) What's up, bootlickers?Registered User regular
    gtrmp wrote: »
    Dubh wrote: »
    unrelated: my Baldur's gate character is going to be dualclassing as a Thief (Shadowdancer)/Ranger (Archer)

    gonna be blasting fools with a crossbow

    pretty sure dualclassed characters can only take a kit on their first class, unless they changed that restriction in the Enhanced Edition, which it looks like they didn't

    ah, okay

    I'll have to figure out what I want for my dual class

    maybe some buffing spells?

    what class would do that? druid? cleric? mage?

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  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    Mages have more fun

  • ButtcleftButtcleft Registered User regular
    edited October 2013
    Mages are stuck with the spell limitations though, While fighty staby pokey characters and fight stab and poke all day long.

    now I want to play a minmax character in the EE to see how powerful I can become..suggestions?

    Buttcleft on
  • valhalla130valhalla130 13 Dark Shield Perceives the GodsRegistered User regular
    If I ever changed my gender, I'd stick with Kevin. Yes, I'd be a girl named Kevin, 'cause it's the best name.

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  • Brovid HasselsmofBrovid Hasselsmof [Growling historic on the fury road] Registered User regular
    Oh man, I never even thought about a middle name.

    Maybe Seth. I love that name. Or masculinise (is that a word?) my current middle name into Lewis.

  • Zombies Tossed My Salad!Zombies Tossed My Salad! Registered User regular
    As long as your name isn't Keith or Chad, you're doing ok

  • PsykomaPsykoma Registered User regular
    my middle name was suggested by my friend and I just thought "excellent! I have to go to class now!"

    I think I put roughly fifty times more thought into my cats name than mine :/

    Metalbourne
  • Zombies Tossed My Salad!Zombies Tossed My Salad! Registered User regular
    Psykoma wrote: »
    my middle name was suggested by my friend and I just thought "excellent! I have to go to class now!"

    I think I put roughly fifty times more thought into my cats name than mine :/

    You adopted a middle name?

    It better have been Danger or you're doing it wrong

    agoaj
  • DoobhDoobh She/Her, Ace Pan/Bisexual 8-) What's up, bootlickers?Registered User regular
    My middle name is based off my mother's first name

    and then I found out that her name has been passed down from the matriarch's side to the oldest daughter for several generations

    boo fucking ya
    Mages have more fun

    they also have a fucking amazing house/stronghold in BG2, I hear

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  • PsykomaPsykoma Registered User regular
    Psykoma wrote: »
    my middle name was suggested by my friend and I just thought "excellent! I have to go to class now!"

    I think I put roughly fifty times more thought into my cats name than mine :/

    You adopted a middle name?

    It better have been Danger or you're doing it wrong


    noooooooooope

  • KochikensKochikens Registered User regular
    Even if i ever changed my name id keep my middle name

    Itd be fucking fantastic
    And totally hilarious and bizarre and fairly fruity

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  • DoobhDoobh She/Her, Ace Pan/Bisexual 8-) What's up, bootlickers?Registered User regular
    I feel like a bad-ass masculine name would suit you, Kochi

    like Shark, Crunch, or Wilfred

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  • TubeTube Registered User admin
    My middle name is Rebecca.

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  • UsagiUsagi Nah Registered User regular
    Mine is James

  • KochikensKochikens Registered User regular
    edited October 2013
    My name has a masculine version that i fucking loathe except for when one person said it as a genuine term of endearment (though i should note that you could call me anything in a polish accent and id still like it)

    I dont know though
    I still like my name
    Its too bad most names are inherently gendered and you can make assumptions based on them and theyre not all just genderless

    Look im just saying i want to name any child i have after really intense animals regardless of gender is that so wrOng

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  • Zombies Tossed My Salad!Zombies Tossed My Salad! Registered User regular
    Mine is Rozwell

  • ButtcleftButtcleft Registered User regular
    edited October 2013
    does Rebecca desu count as one middle name of two?

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  • KochikensKochikens Registered User regular
    Germany has a law where you have to be able to tell the gender of the baby by the name and i think its bullshit

    Especially as they just got gender x legally didnt they

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  • ShivahnShivahn Unaware of her barrel shifter privilege Western coastal temptressRegistered User, Moderator mod
    Kochikens wrote: »
    Even if i ever changed my name id keep my middle name

    Itd be fucking fantastic
    And totally hilarious and bizarre and fairly fruity

    My middle name is super fucking awesome. But it is weird so when I was filing paperwork at the courthouse the clerk was like "you can get rid of that while you're here."

    No what is wrong with you it is awesome

    So now I have four names.

    JayKaosInfidelAnialos
  • DarmakDarmak RAGE vympyvvhyc vyctyvyRegistered User regular
    A lady I used to work with had the last name Zirngible and she thought it was so awesome she kept it after getting married. I thought it was awesome because it reminded me of dirigible and that's a rad word.

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  • DoobhDoobh She/Her, Ace Pan/Bisexual 8-) What's up, bootlickers?Registered User regular
    Okay, sorta gross surgery recovery details involving using the bathroom
    When you're healing from GRS, your peeing tends to spray erratically until your body naturally straightens things out

    well, my stupid pee-hole decided that it should reliably shoot against my butt

    I feel like this is my penis expressing its revenge from beyond the grave

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