I would like some ideas on how to develop the ability to talk to and get along with people. How do you develop the gift of the gab?
So far I have come up with a to-do list of things to try:
- Reading books with good character development
- Learn drawing to improve creativity
- Learning a mnemonic system (because it helps form creative associations)
- Join a sport
I am super reserved and although I am not actually shy, my personality type is perceived to be "shy".
The problem for me is not anxiety. I simply just can't think of anything to say in a conversation, especially when it comes to being witty or funny.
I still choose to go to as many social events as possible with work/friends, but I dread the fact that after about an hour I go quiet because I can't keep up - EVERY TIME.
Some people are social because of their jobs, while I am a programmer and don't get this opportunity.
Was not very social in higschool because I had a super tight social circle.
I'm sure there is someone out there who has figured this out and can guide me in the right direction.