We are trying to nail down our wedding date and although I'm not after being told what to do for our wedding by strangers I would welcome some outside perspective or personal anecdotes to help me work out the best course of action.
We are aiming for a midweek wedding because the venue my other half has fallen in love with is £££££ and is 1/5 the cost mid week. Due to this we have to have it during the school holidays for a number of reasons but mostly because a lot of the closest friends are teachers. This leaves the week before Christmas and towards the end of October. We originally decided on December as although its still winter the venue puts up lights and Christmas trees all over the place making it that much nicer as well as the general atmosphere being...well happier.
The problem we now have is I am only have 1 Best man and 2 Grooms men because quite frankly these 3 are my closest friends and the only ones I would want in those positions. Due to the date, mid week and just before Christmas we decided to ask all the important people if they had any huge issues with the date before we slapped down the deposit. All seemed fine until one of my grooms men got back to me telling me he wouldn't be able to book time off work in Dec (manager in large retail company).
This has left me in a very awkward position with my wife to be, but to her credit she is being very diplomatic about it despite not really having her heart in an October wedding.
Do I give my wife the day she has her heart set on or do I insist that we will have to do it in October instead? Is it about the people that are there or will we remember the day as a whole more?
Anyone got any insight from their own weddings?