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ronnie3
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Okay let me start off by saying that It's 4 am and something is bothering me..I like bigger chicks and literally everyone gives me a hard time about it. I know that I'm not supposed to care about what people say, but there's only so much a person can take. People always ask me "why do you like fat girls" or "why do you always date fat girls". I mean, I like what I like and it's just me..i don't understand what's wrong with people.. Even my so called "friends" give me a hard time about it but they stop when I say that's enough. I have kinda always liked the bigger chicks for some reason. I just want to know why I'm downed for it...
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If the women you like are just overweight, but not so much as to be a health risk, and are happy with the way they look. Then hell with your friends, just let them know they are being shallow idiots and you won't put up with it.
Moving beyond physical attraction should be a step in a person's development in how they view others around them so they aren't just judging whether or not they want to sleep with them tonight.
OP there's nothing wrong with that, your friends seem like jerks who can't see past a person's weight. PLUS your weight doesn't have to have anything to do with how healthy you are. I could go on all day about how women's bodies are constantly policed, how society at large thinks women need to be slim in order to be attractive (ie "you would be so pretty if you just lost some weight"), and a bunch of other stuff but I won't because it takes too much time.
Basically other people don't get to choose who you're attracted too, its their loss for being so close minded. Just keep being you and telling the haters to jump in a lake.
Maybe I'm over sensitive on the subject and should leave it alone for now. Sorry if I have caused confusion or any hard feelings.
But, in this particular case the OP says that his friends give him a hard time for "liking fat chicks" which sounds like a cruel thing to say, as if fat women don't deserve to be loved or desired. There's not really anything wrong with being fat. And its getting the OP down because he feels like the women he's interested in are looked down on by his friends (which is shitty) and there's something abnormal about his desires for them. I think at the heart of the matter you and I are both talking about the same thing, but in maybe different ways.
If you want to have a more personal discussion just you and me I'm down, cuz body policing and objectification is something I like discussing.
I think you either need to sit your friends down and tell them politely to mind their own business if they can't say something nice. If they won't accept that, it's time to find a new crowd to hang out with. No matter what age you are, you can find a crowd of people who are accepting. You just have to be more selective about your friends. Not to make any assumptions about your age (since you didn't give it), but I know when I was in my 20's I used to think I needed a lot of friends. I finally realized I actually just needed a few really good ones who had my best interests at heart.
But fuck you — no, fuck y'all, that's as blunt as it gets"
- Kendrick Lamar, "The Blacker the Berry"
quick question.
Is this how you refer to the girls you like when you're around your friends?
cause it might be part of the problem?
The main thing I've gotten from Captain Awkward is a sense that it's OK for me to stand up for myself, and that people who are being assholes around me are the ones who are making things "difficult and uncomfortable", rather than me for calling them out.
But fuck you — no, fuck y'all, that's as blunt as it gets"
- Kendrick Lamar, "The Blacker the Berry"
Hell, man, there's your problem. High school kids are jerks (no offense). It won't last forever, and you'll find better company who have the maturity to care about other qualities of your girlfriends than their weight.