Jedoc wrote: »
The GOP cares about babies until they're born, soldiers until they're in need of care, and families until they interfere with stockholder dividends.
Moriveth wrote: »
Gonna complain about my mom a bit in hereBasically... my entire life I've struggled with focus and attention problems. I had the stereotypical experience of being in gifted classes early on and coasting through class until I reached something hard, and then just struggling afterward. If it was something I was interested in, then I did pretty well! If I wasn't, like say, any kind of math, it was extremely hard for me to pay enough attention to actually do well.
My mom has always maintained that I'm very smart and she doesn't know why I struggled so much in school! For a long time I've thought I have ADHD because, well, all of my symptoms seem to indicate that. My mom NEVER thought that, though. No, I'm too SMART to have ADHD. She has it, she knows what it's like, and I don't have it. Also medication is bad and doctors only prescribe it because they get paid to.
I never got a formal diagnosis so I've never been really treated for it, mostly due to insurance or it being expensive or just not wanting to deal with it. But I've been making decent strides in dealing with my anxiety with therapy and medication and my insurance is pretty decent with my current job, so I figured why not? I never mentioned any of this to my mom because I know she'd disapprove, and honestly it's not any of her fucking business anyway, I'm a grown-ass man.
Plus, Anya is exhibiting a lot of the same symptoms I have - impulsiveness, poor time management, hyperfocusing etc.
Anyway, after a few false starts (tried Strattera, didn't work out, called lots of psychs with no luck for appointments) I finally got an appointment with a psychiatrist for an adhd evaluation. That was today. At the end of the appointment my doctor says yes, I think you have ADHD, why don't you try some prescriptions. I'm like, yeah, finally, I can try this. If it doesn't work, there are other things I can try - but I know my adhd is bad enough to not be treatable just through therapy or whatever.
I tell Rachel the news, she's happy about it, and makes a facebook post about it, mentioning that Anya has the same symptoms and we'll hopefully get her evaluated as well. No mention of giving Anya medication - I'd like to avoid it with her if we can, and focus on other ways first before resorting to medication.
My mom sees the post, immediately messages Rachel saying she hopes that we don't medicate Anya because we would damage her brain that way. That's not what we're intending to do, whatever.
I go to my parents house afterward, tell my dad the news, he says oh I hope it helps, just be careful of side effects. I'm like, yeah, of course.
My mom's reaction is to initially say "So why do they think you have this?" and then proceeds to 'apologize' for upsetting Rachel in that 'I'm sorry you were offended' tone of voice way, but she 'just feels really strongly about medication;' Yeah no shit mom that's why you've been severely depressed for years and everyone finds it miserable to deal with you.
... I'm just so tired, everyone. She knows how much I struggled. She knows it took me TEN YEARS to finish 2-year college, and even then it was after a lot of struggling and - surprise - an anxiety medication.
I feel like parents are supposed to be supportive of their kids decisions, at least while their decisions are fairly reasonable. But nope, just shit on my feelings, mom.
Satanic Jesus wrote: »
"Straight talking" is just an excuse to say bullshit.
Moriveth wrote: »
Damn, you know my mom too?
Fishman wrote: »
There's a Māori word, whānau (pronounciation: Fa-naow), that often gets translated as 'family'. But that's not quite right.
Whānau is the people closest to you, the ones who make up you support network and are there for your triumphs and troubles. Your whānau are the people you are truly connected with, the core unit of Māori society, and is based on the strength of those relationships; while it would usually be expected it mighty include your closest blood relations, it just as easily might not.
Māori society recognises that blood relationships are generally strong, but not universally. Your whānau might exclude or include people inside or outside your immediate family. Maybe your uncle is whānau, but your father is not. Maybe your relations are almost completely excluded from your whānau, instead drawing on a pool of close friends and trusted peers. You can't choose your family, but you can choose your whānau.
Someone once told me your whānau are the people who help you bury the bodies. When you get in that sort of trouble, and you need the kind of help no questions asked, your whānau are the ones you turn to with that trust, and the ones who step up. It's a simple, effective definition.
I like 'whānau'. I think it's a healthier, more positive rendition of functional societal units. Families can suck, and the idea that 'family' is a functional requirement of society is less accepting of situations that operate outside of that model. I like that the Māori whānau recognises, acknowledges, and accepts a wider variety of healthy positive relationships than just who shares genetics or a roof.
For those of you with families who do not lift you up, may you find a whānau that does.
Cardboard Tube wrote:
That's unbelievably cool. Your new name is cool guy. Let's have sex.
Sir Platypus wrote: »
I didn't do well enough in Physics in high school to know if that would be safe or not.