ceres wrote: »
Yeah meetup is great too.. but since it's mostly local, if you're about to move you may as well wait.
CelestialBadger wrote: »
Read a book in the shade, sipping a lemonade.
ceres wrote: »
Figure out a way to hug something warm. It's not everything, but it's something and that's huge.
Artereis wrote: »
This thread is about winding down for now, I think. Everything is moved in. The cats have been relocated and are quickly adjusting to the new place. I knew living on my own was going to be weird, but I didn't know just how that would feel. Every day tasks are fine. Killing time with hobbies is fine. There's just this really defined undercurrent of misery running through everything and man does it smack you in the face when you're between distractions. Contact has been reduced now that the move is done but there are still a few things we'll need to talk about to split up.
I ended up calling her parents the other day when I was in a rough spot and we talked for a while. They're just as confused as I am about this whole thing, but are really hesitant in talking about it with her when she's home for the holidays because they don't want to push her away by bringing it up. For as long as we've been together they knew that they never had to worry about her because if anything happened I'd be there, so me being out of the picture (for now, or whatever) has them thinking a lot more about her general welfare.
Since we're now living apart, I've been approaching this whole thing as if it's permanently over, but I've given a fair amount of thought to what would happen if she did reconsider the actual divorce part of this. Part of me is concerned that the idea of getting her (extended) family back would be the bigger draw. I've always been really close to them. I'm not yet sure how I would approach that and know that I'm seeing clearly.