Went on a decidedly meh date where the guy was extremely uninterested in my description of the Protomen, didn't know what a spaghetti western was, and took full advantage of the pity goodnight kiss as I was trying to get rid of him. Precisely how uninterested in making out do I have to before I have to skip to being blunt. On the upside, Creed was great, but I think I need to see it again when I'm not being pawed at or clearly stared at.
Before this date, I got catcalled at the end of my run with my dog and flipped the SVU full of dudebros off. The one guy looked SHOCKED and loudly cussed me out as they drove off.
So that was my night, Love Thread.
Shoulda stayed home and tripped balls instead.
But then I wouldn't have seen Creed!
Having had more time to think about it, I've realized it was straight out of that scene in Forgetting Sarah Marshall: "Stop pulling my face towards your face."
Went on a decidedly meh date where the guy was extremely uninterested in my description of the Protomen, didn't know what a spaghetti western was, and took full advantage of the pity goodnight kiss as I was trying to get rid of him. Precisely how uninterested in making out do I have to before I have to skip to being blunt. On the upside, Creed was great, but I think I need to see it again when I'm not being pawed at or clearly stared at.
Before this date, I got catcalled at the end of my run with my dog and flipped the SVU full of dudebros off. The one guy looked SHOCKED and loudly cussed me out as they drove off.
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Oh, on the subject of farts.
It actually is a huge thing for me if you call attention to your fart. I don't mind people who pass gas, but I do mind it when people draw as much attention to it as possible (like one of my best friends who would make exaggerated movements and mime out his fart as he made it sound off as loud as possible). It's just a huge reminder of my myriad medical past and all that I have gone through and it gives me anxiety and makes me generally feel bad. But the people who do these sorts of things are generally non-responsive to me when I try to explain why I do not appreciate what they are doing.
Oh, and my ostomy makes gurgling noises all the time. It's a little awkward but eh.
Humor can be dissected as a frog can, but dies in the process.
My housemate woke me up in the middle of the night. Thankfully here that just involves her opening my door, creeping into my room and onto my bed for cuddles.
I had forgotten that you had left London and made an unpleasant face when I read this.
Went on a decidedly meh date where the guy was extremely uninterested in my description of the Protomen, didn't know what a spaghetti western was, and took full advantage of the pity goodnight kiss as I was trying to get rid of him. Precisely how uninterested in making out do I have to before I have to skip to being blunt. On the upside, Creed was great, but I think I need to see it again when I'm not being pawed at or clearly stared at.
Before this date, I got catcalled at the end of my run with my dog and flipped the SVU full of dudebros off. The one guy looked SHOCKED and loudly cussed me out as they drove off.
Just to vent, man, having a partner with depression. Is rough both ways some days. I've been there too, but yes I'm going to get a bit upset if you are taking it out on me. Let me help or do self care or try and acknowledge brain spiders/ mental distortions and lets work with that or just cuddle, not get increasingly irate with me trying to be solicitous and understanding.
So my girlfriend of over a year just broke up with me. I'd asked her about 2 weeks ago where she saw the relationship going, just to make sure we were on the same page. She answered along the lines of "I'm not sure." She said when we were together she really enjoyed herself, and that she loved me. I was ok with the answer, even if it wasn't quite what I would have hoped for. The following weeks we've continued talking every day, everything seemed fine. We live about 1.5 hours from each other, and she went to her grandma's house last weekend so we hadn't seen each other for awhile since we also both work fulltime. She drives down this weekend, and we were going to go on a hike, do some Christmas activities that are happening here in town. She gets here and says we need to talk, then proceeds to say that she doesn't see us ever going farther than we are right now, and it wouldn't be fair to either of us to continue if that was the case. She wouldn't give me anything that I had done/could do better, so I'm kind of at a loss. I barely held it together until she left. It's just really devastating, especially to happen during the holiday season.
Had an interesting conversation with my sex friend last night that put some things in perspective.
We have a staggering amount of chemistry, we interact really well both inside and outside of the bedroom, and she's legitimately worried that it'll turn into a real relationship which she's trying to avoid at all costs right now, especially since we started doing this after colossally major relationships failed on us.
So I told her that I really enjoy spending time with her, but I really don't want anything "more" right now. There's no need to put a label on things, what we're doing together right now is actually really fucking good, and we've spent some time doing christmas shopping/at the bar together so it's not like we're just using each other, either.
And I meant it. As much as I miss having someone around to smooch, cuddle, and watch movies on the couch with, I'm really not ready for dating or that shit right now. Having my engagement broken was brutal, and there's no way I can commit emotionally right now (or anytime soon,) so I'm definitely taking a break from that shit.
Then we had awesome sex for a while :cool:
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Just to vent, man, having a partner with depression. Is rough both ways some days. I've been there too, but yes I'm going to get a bit upset if you are taking it out on me. Let me help or do self care or try and acknowledge brain spiders/ mental distortions and lets work with that or just cuddle, not get increasingly irate with me trying to be solicitous and understanding.
Sometimes you just want to work the depression out on your own, duder. In those cases, which sounds like it might be the case for your partner, you gotta let them do their thing in their own time, and just hope for the best.
Lord knows that's the case for me; when my depression hits I cut off from the outside world and try to minimize contact with anyone and everyone because I know the only way forward is time, patience, and isolation.
And also self medication through recreational chemicals. Lots and lots of chemicals.
But that's my shit; your partner's method may well vary.
So my girlfriend of over a year just broke up with me. I'd asked her about 2 weeks ago where she saw the relationship going, just to make sure we were on the same page. She answered along the lines of "I'm not sure." She said when we were together she really enjoyed herself, and that she loved me. I was ok with the answer, even if it wasn't quite what I would have hoped for. The following weeks we've continued talking every day, everything seemed fine. We live about 1.5 hours from each other, and she went to her grandma's house last weekend so we hadn't seen each other for awhile since we also both work fulltime. She drives down this weekend, and we were going to go on a hike, do some Christmas activities that are happening here in town. She gets here and says we need to talk, then proceeds to say that she doesn't see us ever going farther than we are right now, and it wouldn't be fair to either of us to continue if that was the case. She wouldn't give me anything that I had done/could do better, so I'm kind of at a loss. I barely held it together until she left. It's just really devastating, especially to happen during the holiday season.
I'm really sorry, dude. If you can, surround yourself with friends- it can really help.
I'd ask why brock is so much better than me but he would just say he isn't and I'm just as great as he is in my own way and damn it brock how are you so amazing
My housemate woke me up in the middle of the night. Thankfully here that just involves her opening my door, creeping into my room and onto my bed for cuddles.
The London housemates are not allowed to do this.
Aww, I can't wait until end of semester when I'll be back at the parents' and the beagle will inevitably open the bedroom door late at night and go lie down on one of the unused blankets I will purposefully leave there for him. He's too old to get onto the bed, and that's fine with me because I'm too allergic to get dog hair all over my bed.
In love thread news I've decided to start using OKCupid again during the next semester, see how many matches I find when I'm not out in the middle of nowhere, NH. There's not much reason beyond garden variety fear and difficulty forming new habits to not try online dating again now that I've been here for two semesters and am more or less used to the amount of work in grad school life. Part of the reason I'm posting about it here to make it a public informal commitment so that I don't put it off.
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Guys it's one of Vivienne and I wedding anniversary today (we got married twice).
To celebrate I split coffee on the floor and dropped a glass bowl onto the floor smashing it.
So we cleaned up the mess together as a couple in our underwear.
So my girlfriend of over a year just broke up with me. I'd asked her about 2 weeks ago where she saw the relationship going, just to make sure we were on the same page. She answered along the lines of "I'm not sure." She said when we were together she really enjoyed herself, and that she loved me. I was ok with the answer, even if it wasn't quite what I would have hoped for. The following weeks we've continued talking every day, everything seemed fine. We live about 1.5 hours from each other, and she went to her grandma's house last weekend so we hadn't seen each other for awhile since we also both work fulltime. She drives down this weekend, and we were going to go on a hike, do some Christmas activities that are happening here in town. She gets here and says we need to talk, then proceeds to say that she doesn't see us ever going farther than we are right now, and it wouldn't be fair to either of us to continue if that was the case. She wouldn't give me anything that I had done/could do better, so I'm kind of at a loss. I barely held it together until she left. It's just really devastating, especially to happen during the holiday season.
I'm really sorry, dude. If you can, surround yourself with friends- it can really help.
I was in a similar situation 2 months ago ( 3 year relationship came to an end).
The bolded advice is what really, really, helped me at my lowest.
If I didn't have my friends to help pick me up, I have no idea how I would have made it through my breakup.
Special shoutout to the forumers that I play Destiny with that were there for me, even joking around in party chat lifted my spirits.
I just have no idea what to do with my mountains of photos that we took...I kinda hate myself for being into film photography, because it's easy to delete a photo, but for some reason I can't bring myself to throwing them away. Locking them in a box in my closet is all I can do for now, since there's still a part of me that hopes things will change and I can actually keep them in an album.
I've been doing some okc for a while and it's totally alright but I figured I might give tinder a try. Then I saw that it needs to know everything you've ever thought about doing with your phone, ever. What the hell? That shit is insane
My friend is working on a roguelike game you can play if you want to. (It has free demo)
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Hob girl messaged me yesterday asking for the date of the exam.
But then I wouldn't have seen Creed!
Having had more time to think about it, I've realized it was straight out of that scene in Forgetting Sarah Marshall: "Stop pulling my face towards your face."
Yay!
http://www.interstatebarbecue.com/ ?
It actually is a huge thing for me if you call attention to your fart. I don't mind people who pass gas, but I do mind it when people draw as much attention to it as possible (like one of my best friends who would make exaggerated movements and mime out his fart as he made it sound off as loud as possible). It's just a huge reminder of my myriad medical past and all that I have gone through and it gives me anxiety and makes me generally feel bad. But the people who do these sorts of things are generally non-responsive to me when I try to explain why I do not appreciate what they are doing.
Oh, and my ostomy makes gurgling noises all the time. It's a little awkward but eh.
Oh yeah! It was the dog, wasn't it? I made a much happier face when I put this all together.
Okay yeah that's fair. I gotta see that.
We have a staggering amount of chemistry, we interact really well both inside and outside of the bedroom, and she's legitimately worried that it'll turn into a real relationship which she's trying to avoid at all costs right now, especially since we started doing this after colossally major relationships failed on us.
So I told her that I really enjoy spending time with her, but I really don't want anything "more" right now. There's no need to put a label on things, what we're doing together right now is actually really fucking good, and we've spent some time doing christmas shopping/at the bar together so it's not like we're just using each other, either.
And I meant it. As much as I miss having someone around to smooch, cuddle, and watch movies on the couch with, I'm really not ready for dating or that shit right now. Having my engagement broken was brutal, and there's no way I can commit emotionally right now (or anytime soon,) so I'm definitely taking a break from that shit.
Then we had awesome sex for a while :cool:
Sometimes you just want to work the depression out on your own, duder. In those cases, which sounds like it might be the case for your partner, you gotta let them do their thing in their own time, and just hope for the best.
Lord knows that's the case for me; when my depression hits I cut off from the outside world and try to minimize contact with anyone and everyone because I know the only way forward is time, patience, and isolation.
And also self medication through recreational chemicals. Lots and lots of chemicals.
But that's my shit; your partner's method may well vary.
I'm really sorry, dude. If you can, surround yourself with friends- it can really help.
@Hacksaw I think we should have a drink or five
Unintentional or not, this is a delightful double entendre.
My double entendres are always intentional. It's good to be appreciated!
Aww, I can't wait until end of semester when I'll be back at the parents' and the beagle will inevitably open the bedroom door late at night and go lie down on one of the unused blankets I will purposefully leave there for him. He's too old to get onto the bed, and that's fine with me because I'm too allergic to get dog hair all over my bed.
In love thread news I've decided to start using OKCupid again during the next semester, see how many matches I find when I'm not out in the middle of nowhere, NH. There's not much reason beyond garden variety fear and difficulty forming new habits to not try online dating again now that I've been here for two semesters and am more or less used to the amount of work in grad school life. Part of the reason I'm posting about it here to make it a public informal commitment so that I don't put it off.
To celebrate I split coffee on the floor and dropped a glass bowl onto the floor smashing it.
So we cleaned up the mess together as a couple in our underwear.
Satans..... hints.....
I was in a similar situation 2 months ago ( 3 year relationship came to an end).
The bolded advice is what really, really, helped me at my lowest.
If I didn't have my friends to help pick me up, I have no idea how I would have made it through my breakup.
Special shoutout to the forumers that I play Destiny with that were there for me, even joking around in party chat lifted my spirits.
I just have no idea what to do with my mountains of photos that we took...I kinda hate myself for being into film photography, because it's easy to delete a photo, but for some reason I can't bring myself to throwing them away. Locking them in a box in my closet is all I can do for now, since there's still a part of me that hopes things will change and I can actually keep them in an album.
As someone who has hung out with Tam on the regular.
He's awesome.
You just in your underwear? Pics or it didn't happen.
Crwth did that allready
Damnit!
I'm pretty sure the singer/guitarist in this all-girl rock band I'm seeing right now is my soulmate
This one's for real, y'all
You're so vain
You probably thought that song was about you
Sorry dude, Jane Wiedlin has my heart.
Quoting this post to add emphasis to my agreement.
How do I confront him with this? Does anyone have some kryptonite
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I got the singer's roommate's number
That's close, right?
This sounds like the plot of a How I Met Your Mother episode
Buddy, never bemoan a victory, even if it wasn't the one you were expecting.