If I ever come to England first place I'm going is Yorkshire.
Mainly, because I read the James Herriot books growing up and he painted such a delightful and quaint picture of Yorkshire that I fell in love with it. Then I saw the pictures and was like, yup that's a place I need to be.
I think it went... Okay? Like, I seemed to actually know what to do and recognized what was happening as things progressed. That was reassuring.
The coffee shop also had live music, and as that started, he moved his chair closer to me, held my hand, kinda touched my hair a couple of times. That sort of thing. Then he walked me to my car and kissed me twice. (The first time was super awkward, second time was kind of less so.)
Conversation was good. He's the kind of guy I'd probably want to be friends with. Funny, smart, similarish interests.
The physical stuff what's freaking me out. This was literally my first date, first time doing anything even slightly physical with a guy. It wasn't bad, but I didn't really feel anything positive either.
The way I see it, there are three possible explanations for why that was- I'm asexual heteroromantic, I just wasn't attracted to this one guy, and/or my anxiety prevented me from feeling anything other than anxiety. (I was extraordinarily nervous the entire time and had a panic attack after the date that's just going away now.)
Ugh. When it comes to feelings, I like it when things are black-and-white. This is some kind of weird gray area I wasn't even planning on dealing with for another two years!
If you are that nervous you might wanna stay out of the game for now. You might find if you focus on improving general social activity, you won't be as nervous when you go back to the dating world.
It's really only the physical stuff. I was pretty OK when it was just talking.
We're both going to the writer's group today. If we wind up doing anything else, I'm going to make a point of saying since I'm so new at this (which I did stammer something about after kiss #1,) I don't want to do anything past that until I get used to it, & if he's not OK with sticking at that, I understand and won't be upset.
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Warn him of the hobgoblins.
Humor can be dissected as a frog can, but dies in the process.
Got a phone call that I missed on account of being in the shower. Called back a few times but no pick-up. Alright well you can have a text to let me know when you want to talk and I'm going to the pub.
Got a phone call that I missed on account of being in the shower. Called back a few times but no pick-up. Alright well you can have a text to let me know when you want to talk and I'm going to the pub.
You better still be coming next week. I want a hug.
Edit: if you don't mind a hug from a random.
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Got a phone call that I missed on account of being in the shower. Called back a few times but no pick-up. Alright well you can have a text to let me know when you want to talk and I'm going to the pub.
You better still be coming next week. I want a hug.
Edit: if you don't mind a hug from a random.
1) I booked the train tickets already
2) you aint a random. We even have a point of pre-existing connection though God knows how we both know Firth the Elder.
Although I will say this as an addendum; I dunno when this lass is coming up to Sheffield and she is an odd soul so I could find out on dead short notice. If I do, I'll probably cancel because I need to have a word with her, really, for both our sakes. Anyway, excited for it but there's just some stuff I gotta do if it happens.
Date went really well, I think. Ended up talking a little longer than planned which caused me to be late to BFF's daughter's birthday, which was still fine because SHE was even later due to problems picking up the cake.
Anyway, now I get to play the "I had a great time but will there be a second date because I misread these things like crazy" game, because getting past the first 1-3 dates has been a seemingly impossible task for me so far.
Update: Texted her, expressed desire to continue talking and meet up again, received confirmation that she feels the same. Anxiety levels suppressed.
Now to figure out what to suggest for date #2, or how to get her to suggest something since she is much, much more familiar with this area than I am.
She washed up her stuff but decided we wanted to keep her pasta as a present.
Remember when we were talking about garbage disposals? This right here is what they're great for!
For...for roommates? That might take a while.
Sure, with that attitude.
There are larger models for use with roommates. No longer possible to fit them under the sink, but they still do a fantastic job of reducing problematic large bits of things into much more manageable smaller bits.
Welp, I'm doing something with the guy from my writer's group next Saturday. (Don't know what yet. It's probably my turn to suggest something but I don't have any ideas so far.) I'm going to work on being less anxious, and will definitely make a point of telling him what's going on with me during the actual date.
She washed up her stuff but decided we wanted to keep her pasta as a present.
Remember when we were talking about garbage disposals? This right here is what they're great for!
For...for roommates? That might take a while.
Sure, with that attitude.
There are larger models for use with roommates. No longer possible to fit them under the sink, but they still do a fantastic job of reducing problematic large bits of things into much more manageable smaller bits.
I, too, tend to turn to Fargo to get advice on on problematic relationships.
Welp, I'm doing something with the guy from my writer's group next Saturday. (Don't know what yet. It's probably my turn to suggest something but I don't have any ideas so far.) I'm going to work on being less anxious, and will definitely make a point of telling him what's going on with me during the actual date.
You should go see Creed! Find out how in touch with his emotions he is.
I've applied for the continuing/post grad halls, managed to sneakily do my application 10 mins after the link became available as my class involves computers today. It could be a few months before I hear back though so I just have to hope. A lot.
I've applied for the continuing/post grad halls, managed to sneakily do my application 10 mins after the link became available as my class involves computers today. It could be a few months before I hear back though so I just have to hope. A lot.
It sounds like you're the exact kind of person they want in.
IE an older student who's not going to fuck the place up like bellends they have to put up with in the first year.
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Those pictures are gorgeous. Makes me want to don a cloak and run around looking for hobbitses.
Luuuucky
Comparatively, the rolling Yorkshire Dales;
FIRED!
Well, sure if the landscape is already pretty what would they need her for?
Mainly, because I read the James Herriot books growing up and he painted such a delightful and quaint picture of Yorkshire that I fell in love with it. Then I saw the pictures and was like, yup that's a place I need to be.
I dunno really
honestly it's a bit suspish
fraternising like that with all of them lot from't wrong side't pennines
Remember when we were talking about garbage disposals? This right here is what they're great for!
Thumbs up, good plan.
I had a devil of a time trying to find these in England. Maybe it's cause I was ridiculously rural.
You better still be coming next week. I want a hug.
Edit: if you don't mind a hug from a random.
yeah, funny that
"Love of everything but the kitchen sink "
For...for roommates? That might take a while.
Ever see Orphan Black?
1) I booked the train tickets already
2) you aint a random. We even have a point of pre-existing connection though God knows how we both know Firth the Elder.
Although I will say this as an addendum; I dunno when this lass is coming up to Sheffield and she is an odd soul so I could find out on dead short notice. If I do, I'll probably cancel because I need to have a word with her, really, for both our sakes. Anyway, excited for it but there's just some stuff I gotta do if it happens.
Update: Texted her, expressed desire to continue talking and meet up again, received confirmation that she feels the same. Anxiety levels suppressed.
Now to figure out what to suggest for date #2, or how to get her to suggest something since she is much, much more familiar with this area than I am.
Sure, with that attitude.
There are larger models for use with roommates. No longer possible to fit them under the sink, but they still do a fantastic job of reducing problematic large bits of things into much more manageable smaller bits.
Ice fishing!
Bowling!
-Indiana Solo, runner of blades
If only we could combine these things....
Bowling at the hole in the ice while singing along to your favourite tunes.
I, too, tend to turn to Fargo to get advice on on problematic relationships.
Apparently I should just change my OKC profile to a picture of the his and hers sinks in my master bathroom.
You should go see Creed! Find out how in touch with his emotions he is.
It sounds like you're the exact kind of person they want in.
IE an older student who's not going to fuck the place up like bellends they have to put up with in the first year.