I don't even think I own anything to "dress up" in. I guess shirt and tie.
I mean that's pretty much it. A shirt that isn't a t-shirt, leg coverings that aren't shorts or full of holes, foot coverings that don't show your feet and/or you wouldn't go running in. That's good enough for most places.
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Yeah. And honestly the t-shirt thing isn't an issue in as many places these days I find. Ever since t-shirts went upscale I guess, maybe? We were talking about it at the bar the other night because the bartenders usually wear jackets and they all were in their t-shirts for once. And the guy I was with was wearing a v-neck tee.
Anyway I love a dive or a casual place as much as anybody, you just gotta dress for the venue. Or don't go, if the venue dress is a problem for you, sure.
Just, you know, if you can help it, don't be That Person who doesn't dress properly. And if your are that person by accident, don't be the one who then has a hissy shitfit outside or makes the whole group rework their evening.
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Wear these when you are on the beach or backpacking or trekking somewhere hot where there aren't poisonous things to step on.
Or like to pool parties
I mean hell, wear them wherever you want, you do you.
But you won't be able to come into some bars and restaurants and that's a bummer.
Okay but I care way more about being comfortable than I do about dumb arbitrary rules so if I'm not allowed to go somewhere because of how I'm dressed, that's their loss, not mine. I'll just go to a bar that doesn't suck.
I understand the sentiment here, and that's all well and good when you're going out alone. But what happens a lot to me, especially in cities where there are upscale places with dresscodes, is this:
We all plan to go in a group to a known, upscale establishment.
Everyone arrives at the establishment.
One person rolls up in flip flops.
So what do you do at that point? It's rude to expect the entire party to rearrange their planned evening because you couldn't bring yourself to wear loafers.
I'm not digging in to the classist or exclusionary angles of argument here, although those do exist. The fact is, these aren't bars that suck, they're really good bars or restaurants that happen to have a dresscode (whether you're fine with that or not). It's not so uncommon in downtown areas of major cities that it couldn't be predicted, and one person refusing to snazzy up a bit is really frustrating for the rest of the party.
Even as someone who wears flip flops or sandals 90+% of the time in the summer now, I would be upset with someone who showed up to a group event under-dressed to such an extent that they weren't allowed in. The one time I've ever had that happen because of summer wear, the rest of us ditched the guys who wore shorts and sandals and went to the club we were supposed to go to. Harsh, but they truly should have known better. It was a planned event to a venue that would clearly go by the "dress to impress" guidelines of the time, and everybody had been there at least once before. Dubious choice in retrospect, but that's a whole other story.
The only other times I've been in a group where someone was denied admission because of dress code, it was the lone black guy in our group being singled out for "baggy jeans" or something sneaker related or some other incredible bullshit that was clearly just racism on the part of the bouncers/doormen. I've never gone back to any of those bars again, even places I'd loved previously. Fuck them.
A few years ago I went to PAXAus with only a pair of sandals. We all arranged to meet in a bar that wouldn't let me in in jeans and sandals, so I went up the road and bought some cheap sneakers and socks. Problem solved, we all had a good night.
I think the going excuse for no flip flops is health and safety (someone could step on your shoes, you could stand on broken glass in something that will easily get punctured).
Especially in a dark club, where someone could stab a stiletto into your foot.
I know what everyone is going to say, "what about women with open top shoes".
Yeah. And honestly the t-shirt thing isn't an issue in as many places these days I find. Ever since t-shirts went upscale I guess, maybe? We were talking about it at the bar the other night because the bartenders usually wear jackets and they all were in their t-shirts for once. And the guy I was with was wearing a v-neck tee.
Anyway I love a dive or a casual place as much as anybody, you just gotta dress for the venue. Or don't go, if the venue dress is a problem for you, sure.
Just, you know, if you can help it, don't be That Person who doesn't dress properly. And if your are that person by accident, don't be the one who then has a hissy shitfit outside or makes the whole group rework their evening.
So what you're saying is don't wear a tuxedo to Waffle House?
And speaking to friends who have worked as doormen, they're more likely to send people away wearing shorts because (This is in the UK mind) shorts are seen as daywear and if you're rocking up to the fancy bar/club in shorts, it probably means you've been skulling pints in the pub all day.
If I was aware ahead of time it was a dress up event I would either dress appropriately or not go depending on how I feel about the dress. If I wasn't made explicitly aware it's a dress up event and it's over 70 degrees outside I will be showing up in shorts and whatever footwear feels right because fuck pants.
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Now that's a sentiment I can agree with.
Fuck pants.
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Men really need more styles of dress that's socially considered "fancy" because sometimes you wanna look classy but also wanna get them legs out, y'know.
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Men really need more styles of dress that's socially considered "fancy" because sometimes you wanna look classy but also wanna get them legs out, y'know.
Kilts
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I feel like fashion has been trying to push short suits as a real thing for a few years now. I know they had a selection of them last time I checked out Sene.
I feel like fashion has been trying to push short suits as a real thing for a few years now. I know they had a selection of them last time I checked out Sene.
It's been a thing since Seinfeld was on the air. Man-dresses and kilts have made occasionally appearances too. Recently I've been seeing dark blue and black dresses with like that lacy stuff on the edges. I guess it's going for a more feminine look? No idea. I wish it were appropriate for me to wear shorts, I could rock some khaki shorts or something no problem. The female office workers wear capris and sandals maybe I should wear those. It's only fair right?
not a doctor, not a lawyer, examples I use may not be fully researched so don't take out of context plz, don't @ me
Men really need more styles of dress that's socially considered "fancy" because sometimes you wanna look classy but also wanna get them legs out, y'know.
Kilts
kilts are rapidly approaching fedoras in the avoidability column
I have never seen anyone pull off a kilt besides at a formal event with some link to Scotland.
hell, I am mostly Scottish (and Danish) and I know I can't pull off a kilt
I also feel like there are some pretty good jokes to be made out of that statement, like 'cheese danish or cherry?' or 'if you can't pull off a kilt, maybe get a size up'
giving myself some vapors, since i don't think I've ever actually taken the opportunity to remove someone's great kilt, and-- @Usagi, i need a Pam gif. i MAY have been unduly influenced by Adrian Paul at a formative age WHATEVER HE WAS HOT
yeah utilikilts can swiftly go wrong. but i worked with a chef who rocked that shit. he had a few plaids, as well, but who wants to risk those in a kitchen?
giving myself some vapors, since i don't think I've ever actually taken the opportunity to remove someone's great kilt, and-- @Usagi, i need a Pam gif. i MAY have been unduly influenced by Adrian Paul at a formative age WHATEVER HE WAS HOT
yeah utilikilts can swiftly go wrong. but i worked with a chef who rocked that shit. he had a few plaids, as well, but who wants to risk those in a kitchen?
That shirt and socks look?
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I didn't say Utilikilt
If you ain't wrapping a huge length of homespun around yourself as a combination kilt and cloak and sleeping bag then don't even bother
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Clothes to me are usually more of a comfortable means to cover my disgusting body anyway.
I mean that's pretty much it. A shirt that isn't a t-shirt, leg coverings that aren't shorts or full of holes, foot coverings that don't show your feet and/or you wouldn't go running in. That's good enough for most places.
Anyway I love a dive or a casual place as much as anybody, you just gotta dress for the venue. Or don't go, if the venue dress is a problem for you, sure.
Just, you know, if you can help it, don't be That Person who doesn't dress properly. And if your are that person by accident, don't be the one who then has a hissy shitfit outside or makes the whole group rework their evening.
"Sandra has a good solid anti-murderer vibe. My skin felt very secure and sufficiently attached to my body when I met her. Also my organs." HAIL SATAN
Even as someone who wears flip flops or sandals 90+% of the time in the summer now, I would be upset with someone who showed up to a group event under-dressed to such an extent that they weren't allowed in. The one time I've ever had that happen because of summer wear, the rest of us ditched the guys who wore shorts and sandals and went to the club we were supposed to go to. Harsh, but they truly should have known better. It was a planned event to a venue that would clearly go by the "dress to impress" guidelines of the time, and everybody had been there at least once before. Dubious choice in retrospect, but that's a whole other story.
The only other times I've been in a group where someone was denied admission because of dress code, it was the lone black guy in our group being singled out for "baggy jeans" or something sneaker related or some other incredible bullshit that was clearly just racism on the part of the bouncers/doormen. I've never gone back to any of those bars again, even places I'd loved previously. Fuck them.
Now I bring shoes when I go places.
Especially in a dark club, where someone could stab a stiletto into your foot.
I know what everyone is going to say, "what about women with open top shoes".
I never said this excuse was good.
So what you're saying is don't wear a tuxedo to Waffle House?
we had a fogo do chao nearby for a while but I could never remember the name and kept referring to it as taco del fuego
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Fuck pants.
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Kilts
It's been a thing since Seinfeld was on the air. Man-dresses and kilts have made occasionally appearances too. Recently I've been seeing dark blue and black dresses with like that lacy stuff on the edges. I guess it's going for a more feminine look? No idea. I wish it were appropriate for me to wear shorts, I could rock some khaki shorts or something no problem. The female office workers wear capris and sandals maybe I should wear those. It's only fair right?
kilts are rapidly approaching fedoras in the avoidability column
hell, I am mostly Scottish (and Danish) and I know I can't pull off a kilt
I also feel like there are some pretty good jokes to be made out of that statement, like 'cheese danish or cherry?' or 'if you can't pull off a kilt, maybe get a size up'
Utili-Kilt at a beer or music fest I also find quite acceptable. Bonus points for large beard.
...love men out of kilts.
look, i have a lot of love.
yeah utilikilts can swiftly go wrong. but i worked with a chef who rocked that shit. he had a few plaids, as well, but who wants to risk those in a kitchen?
That shirt and socks look?
If you ain't wrapping a huge length of homespun around yourself as a combination kilt and cloak and sleeping bag then don't even bother
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