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Is this [Love]?

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  • TofystedethTofystedeth veni, veneri, vamoosi Registered User regular
    I would respond to that one just to hear their stories of meeting people without faces.

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  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    Solar wrote: »
    I hope the lady who thinks I look a bit like Jack Davenport messages me back. She looks fun and pretty (which I told her in my message).

    She messaged me back!

    ...

    this is addiction, isn't it

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  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    Solar wrote: »
    Solar wrote: »
    I hope the lady who thinks I look a bit like Jack Davenport messages me back. She looks fun and pretty (which I told her in my message).

    She messaged me back!

    ...

    this is addiction, isn't it

    Nah, just modern socialization

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  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    Well long may it continue!

  • HacksawHacksaw J. Duggan Wrestler at LawRegistered User regular
    Solar wrote: »
    Solar wrote: »
    I hope the lady who thinks I look a bit like Jack Davenport messages me back. She looks fun and pretty (which I told her in my message).

    She messaged me back!

    ...

    this is addiction, isn't it

    Nah, just modern socialization

    No its definitely an addiction. Be on your guard.

  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    Hacksaw wrote: »
    Solar wrote: »
    Solar wrote: »
    I hope the lady who thinks I look a bit like Jack Davenport messages me back. She looks fun and pretty (which I told her in my message).

    She messaged me back!

    ...

    this is addiction, isn't it

    Nah, just modern socialization

    No its definitely an addiction. Be on your guard.

    (Hush now, I'm trying to enable)

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  • UrielUriel Registered User regular
    Uriel wrote: »
    I do not get how people don't understand that the underlying assumption when you message a person is that you think they're cute. Like it's a service where you click on headshots! Of course you think someone is at a minimum kind of cute!

    Yeah.

    Usually I've focused on interesting bits from their profile and try to avoid talking about myself unless they ask.

    My problem isn't not knowing how to speak to people though I think.

    I think maybe I have bad pictures?

    It's not ideal but the least you can do is take a bunch of selfies until you get some that look nice. Or have a photoshoot with a roommate!

    It's not like you need to be riding a tiger, you just need to give a good idea of what your best look looks like.

    How do I tell if my photos look good?

    My self esteem is too low to be able to tell.

    I tend to throw out pictures of myself.

  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    edited June 2016
    Uriel wrote: »
    Uriel wrote: »
    I do not get how people don't understand that the underlying assumption when you message a person is that you think they're cute. Like it's a service where you click on headshots! Of course you think someone is at a minimum kind of cute!

    Yeah.

    Usually I've focused on interesting bits from their profile and try to avoid talking about myself unless they ask.

    My problem isn't not knowing how to speak to people though I think.

    I think maybe I have bad pictures?

    It's not ideal but the least you can do is take a bunch of selfies until you get some that look nice. Or have a photoshoot with a roommate!

    It's not like you need to be riding a tiger, you just need to give a good idea of what your best look looks like.

    How do I tell if my photos look good?

    My self esteem is too low to be able to tell.

    I tend to throw out pictures of myself.

    If I'd ever seen a good non-professional photo of myself, I'd maybe have some tips for you. The only photos of me I like are my Senior Pictures, some pro shots from a wedding I was in, and a handful of "intentionally dumb" pics I've taken of myself that mostly obscure my face anyway.

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  • BillyIdleBillyIdle What does "katana" mean? It means "Japanese sword."Registered User regular
    If she doesn't text me today I'll probably pass on soccer.
    I'm good at keeping my emotions in check, but might need some time away from her.
    I'm not messed up from it, just kinda sad that "reverting back to dating to get to know me better" meant it's over and I'm ignoring you.

    Plus my sunburn really hurts and I don't want to run a lot, haha.

  • tzeentchlingtzeentchling Doctor of Rocks San DiegoRegistered User regular
    Peen wrote: »
    I never did online dating but I don't see how guys think leading with "ur hot we should mash bits lol" is ever, ever going to work. Like you could have gone with "you have a face and we have similar interests, can we get coffee?" and I feel like it would do at least as well.

    I mean, maybe not for dating, but at least on gay aps that approach works about 75% of the time.

  • builderr0rbuilderr0r Registered User regular
    edited June 2016
    Uriel wrote: »
    Uriel wrote: »
    I do not get how people don't understand that the underlying assumption when you message a person is that you think they're cute. Like it's a service where you click on headshots! Of course you think someone is at a minimum kind of cute!

    Yeah.

    Usually I've focused on interesting bits from their profile and try to avoid talking about myself unless they ask.

    My problem isn't not knowing how to speak to people though I think.

    I think maybe I have bad pictures?

    It's not ideal but the least you can do is take a bunch of selfies until you get some that look nice. Or have a photoshoot with a roommate!

    It's not like you need to be riding a tiger, you just need to give a good idea of what your best look looks like.

    How do I tell if my photos look good?

    My self esteem is too low to be able to tell.

    I tend to throw out pictures of myself.

    Hmm. I find that good lighting is helpful. Also, smiling? Or at least not looking mad. :P


    @OmnipotentBagel Intentionally dumb pictures are fun!

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  • UrielUriel Registered User regular
    If I smile my fucked up vampire bicuspid might show up!?

    :bigfrown:

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  • LiiyaLiiya Registered User regular
    ???

  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    Uriel wrote: »
    If I smile my fucked up vampire bicuspid might show up!?

    :bigfrown:

    I've got pointy biscupids too. I think they're cool though.

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  • UrielUriel Registered User regular
    Uriel wrote: »
    If I smile my fucked up vampire bicuspid might show up!?

    :bigfrown:

    I've got pointy biscupids too. I think they're cool though.

    The one on the right side of my face is low and forward, looks kinda like a fang if I smile too wide.

    The rest of my teeth I am also super sensitive about too. I have a crack in one of my my incisors I've had since middle school for example.

  • LiiyaLiiya Registered User regular
    Thats just teeth mate, I have pointy teeth too. You're normal!

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  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    Now if you intentionally sharpened them into points...

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  • UrielUriel Registered User regular
    Now if you intentionally sharpened them into points...

    Like this?

    And I just tried to take a selfie of myself smiling.

    Can't do it nope, too much shame.

  • BillyIdleBillyIdle What does "katana" mean? It means "Japanese sword."Registered User regular
    Now if you intentionally sharpened them into points...

    Um. Let's not bring me down here ok buddy???

  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    Uriel wrote: »
    Now if you intentionally sharpened them into points...

    Like this?

    And I just tried to take a selfie of myself smiling.

    Can't do it nope, too much shame.

    Oh, I can't smile for selfies, it always ends up looking suuuper unnatural. Pretty much forget how to smile like a human being any time a camera's around really. Only way it ever works is if someone says something funny or, like, I see a dog or something.

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  • durandal4532durandal4532 Registered User regular
    edited June 2016
    How to make yourself look nice in a photo:

    Take photos of youself, many photos. Smiling, nonsmiling, one from up here .... none from down there no one looks great looming ... just take a shitload of photos.

    Look in the mirror and really observe that even if you've got low self esteem there is a continuum. Scrunch your chin into your neck and make a weird face looks worse than staring ahead neutral which looks worse than when you tilt your head at just so an angle. Take more photos.

    Filter your photos, save only 1/10 maybe. Get a pal to filter further if you can, if not just sleep on them for a day and come back again the next day to give it a shot.

    Remember that your goal isn't to make yourself think you look cute. It is to put forward the you that looks nicest. Get to the point where you're filtering in comparison to other photos rather than "do I love how I look"?

    And like, basically everyone I've dated has said they think they look ugly and I have never dated anyone I didn't think was super cute. I think it's important to remember that your tastes are not the tastes of every person in the world. Some of them are gonna be into you. Someone's into basically all the types of people.


    As for not looking weird when faking a smile, it's all in the eyes! Scrunch 'em up and you're going to have a much more natural looking smile.

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  • AngelinaAngelina Registered User regular
    I've started telling them they can call me Angie. I don't even like Angie, and it's not working either. I had a couple of pointy teeth and my dentist filed them down, I went home and cried. 10 years later and I'm still annoyed about me. I liked the pointy teeth!

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  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    Angelina wrote: »
    I've started telling them they can call me Angie. I don't even like Angie, and it's not working either. I had a couple of pointy teeth and my dentist filed them down, I went home and cried. 10 years later and I'm still annoyed about me. I liked the pointy teeth!

    11 shifts left.

    So you can't say you're satisfied?

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  • CelloCello Registered User regular
    I'm pretty comfortable with selfies, but oh man do I ever get anxious about taking formal-ish photos, I just freeze up and it shows and then I hate looking at them after and ughhhhh

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  • AngelinaAngelina Registered User regular
    "Jun 29 4:32 pm

    HI beautiful I like what I see text me *his phone number*"

    Noooo. Also he's a brave man just giving out his phone number to randoms online.

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  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    Angelina wrote: »
    "Jun 29 4:32 pm

    HI beautiful I like what I see text me *his phone number*"

    Noooo. Also he's a brave man just giving out his phone number to randoms online.

    Sounds like someone just requested a subscription to catfacts!

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  • UrielUriel Registered User regular
    Didn't there used to be a service where you could have a celebrity leave you a voice message?

    What about something like that... But it is a pro wrestler or an mma guy... And he just angrily dress down dudes who do that...

  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    Angelina wrote: »
    "Jun 29 4:32 pm

    HI beautiful I like what I see text me *his phone number*"

    Noooo. Also he's a brave man just giving out his phone number to randoms online.

    Sounds like someone just requested a subscription to catfacts!

    Or beefacts. @liiya ?

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  • LiiyaLiiya Registered User regular
    Angelina wrote: »
    "Jun 29 4:32 pm

    HI beautiful I like what I see text me *his phone number*"

    Noooo. Also he's a brave man just giving out his phone number to randoms online.

    Sounds like someone just requested a subscription to catfacts!

    Or beefacts. @liiya ?

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  • CelloCello Registered User regular
    Liiya wrote: »
    Angelina wrote: »
    "Jun 29 4:32 pm

    HI beautiful I like what I see text me *his phone number*"

    Noooo. Also he's a brave man just giving out his phone number to randoms online.

    Sounds like someone just requested a subscription to catfacts!

    Or beefacts. @liiya ?

    ~Beefact!~
    Did you know that bombus terrestris will sometimes sleep in closed flowers during early spring while they search for a nest? If they can't find somewhere else cosy at night the head of a crocus or daffodil may do as somewhere thats a few degrees warmer than the cold night air when the petals are closed! Then they pop out in the morning when the sun hits the petals and the flower opens up.
    ~Beefact!~
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    As much as bees and wasps and hornets terrify me this is kind of adorable?? Liiya, are you trying to hypnotize me into not being afraid of getting stung here, or

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  • rhylithrhylith Registered User regular
    I was stung like 50 times by a swarm of wasps as a kid and so now anything with a stinger completely horrifies me

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  • UrielUriel Registered User regular
    Bugs are all the worst.

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  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    Cello wrote: »
    Liiya wrote: »
    Angelina wrote: »
    "Jun 29 4:32 pm

    HI beautiful I like what I see text me *his phone number*"

    Noooo. Also he's a brave man just giving out his phone number to randoms online.

    Sounds like someone just requested a subscription to catfacts!

    Or beefacts. @liiya ?

    ~Beefact!~
    Did you know that bombus terrestris will sometimes sleep in closed flowers during early spring while they search for a nest? If they can't find somewhere else cosy at night the head of a crocus or daffodil may do as somewhere thats a few degrees warmer than the cold night air when the petals are closed! Then they pop out in the morning when the sun hits the petals and the flower opens up.
    ~Beefact!~
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    As much as bees and wasps and hornets terrify me this is kind of adorable?? Liiya, are you trying to hypnotize me into not being afraid of getting stung here, or

    I hate wasps, but bees, bumblebees in particular, are gentle adorable giants. I like bees.

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  • LiiyaLiiya Registered User regular
    Cello wrote: »
    Liiya wrote: »
    Angelina wrote: »
    "Jun 29 4:32 pm

    HI beautiful I like what I see text me *his phone number*"

    Noooo. Also he's a brave man just giving out his phone number to randoms online.

    Sounds like someone just requested a subscription to catfacts!

    Or beefacts. @liiya ?

    ~Beefact!~
    Did you know that bombus terrestris will sometimes sleep in closed flowers during early spring while they search for a nest? If they can't find somewhere else cosy at night the head of a crocus or daffodil may do as somewhere thats a few degrees warmer than the cold night air when the petals are closed! Then they pop out in the morning when the sun hits the petals and the flower opens up.
    ~Beefact!~
    4awcf7fiha7s.jpg

    As much as bees and wasps and hornets terrify me this is kind of adorable?? Liiya, are you trying to hypnotize me into not being afraid of getting stung here, or

    Bumble bees like above are actually pretty chill! There are lots in my parents garden right now buzzing about amongst the flowers, if you are gentle you can carefully stroke their furry backs when they are in a flower and do not mind at all! Bees are your friend.

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  • LiiyaLiiya Registered User regular
    Crazy lady Liiya sitting in the garden stroking bees. Whispering sweet nothings to them.

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  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    Liiya wrote: »
    Crazy lady Liiya sitting in the garden stroking bees. Whispering sweet nothings to them.

    (The last time I went to the park, I spent about 10 minutes watching the bees in the flower garden, idly chit-chatting... well, at them I suppose. They didn't really talk back.)

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  • LiiyaLiiya Registered User regular
    Liiya wrote: »
    Crazy lady Liiya sitting in the garden stroking bees. Whispering sweet nothings to them.

    (The last time I went to the park, I spent about 10 minutes watching the bees in the flower garden, idly chit-chatting... well, at them I suppose. They didn't really talk back.)

    Its therapeutic! :D

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  • miscellaneousinsanitymiscellaneousinsanity grass grows, birds fly, sun shines, and brother, i hurt peopleRegistered User regular
    i got stung by a bee when i was three years old at the great wall of china

    haven't been stung by any bees since but i've never gone back, no sense risking it

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  • SnicketysnickSnicketysnick The Greatest Hype Man in WesterosRegistered User regular
    edited June 2016
    Oh bees? I have bee news. My Dad has been working towards keeping bees since last autumn and this last Sunday he got some and moved them in!

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    There was probably about 8-10000 in this box

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    so now there is a whole happy hive down behind the apple trees

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  • rhylithrhylith Registered User regular
    Good please help keep bees from dying thanks.

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