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[Love] is a Battlefield

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  • stimtokolosstimtokolos Registered User regular
    Had a brief chat to someone I'd been seeing about not really wanting anything long term.
    I'm super glad we turned out to be on the same page there because it is fun right now but I definitely don't see it lasting.
    So I feel less like a bad person now which is good.

  • DouglasDangerDouglasDanger PennsylvaniaRegistered User regular
    Maybe I'm too genuine

    No such thing. You can be too forward certainly, but being entirely genuine should be everyone's ideal. Fakeness is not an attractive quality.

    I won't bore y'all with the same sad song, but I'm having a tough time getting things figured out

    A close friendship feels very strained, but I'm such a mess I don't even know how to talk about it, and I think it's my fault

    And I have the least amount of friends I've ever had. I have my brother, and three bros who are like brothers to me, but all four of them live hours away

    And a couple maybe three ish close friends who are female, but all of them feel awkward since my divorce

    I was very close with my in-laws
    I feel like I lost a brother and two sisters

    And two very close friends who were brothers to me chose my ex wife's side

    And in trying to figure new friends out, and I'm struggling

    And I don't know how much of it is legit concerns vs how much of it is maybe I should get my family doctor to refer me to a therapist or something

    I play games on ps3 and ps4. My PSN is DouglasDanger.
  • BlankzillaBlankzilla KOOKABUNGA LIVES Registered User regular
    I went out with a lady I chatted with online for drinks earlier this week and we went back to my place and fooled around and she was uh...kinda super aggressive and escalated things to a degree I was not expecting. Like, I was expecting to bone down but she brought in a bunch of intense shit I wasn't expecting nor super into so I tried to roll with it but it was a little weird.

    Then yesterday she sent me a friend request and I accepted to find she is listed as being in a relationship

    I asked and she said she just forgot to change it

    only she still hasn't changed it today

    and the dude who was in her previous profile pictures posted on her feed as soon as last week and is still friends with her

    so uh

    that's neat

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  • Fig-DFig-D Registered User regular
    Run.

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  • NeoTomaNeoToma Registered User regular
    Denver, the last dinosaur
    He's my friend and a whole lot more.

  • HacksawHacksaw J. Duggan Wrestler at LawRegistered User regular
    NeoToma wrote: »
    Denver, the last dinosaur
    He's my friend and a whole lot more.

    Dinosaurs with benefits.

  • HacksawHacksaw J. Duggan Wrestler at LawRegistered User regular
    AKA the AARP

  • sarukunsarukun Mr. Bulldopps Get SchwiftyRegistered User regular
    Maybe I'm too genuine

    No such thing. You can be too forward certainly, but being entirely genuine should be everyone's ideal. Fakeness is not an attractive quality.

    I won't bore y'all with the same sad song, but I'm having a tough time getting things figured out

    A close friendship feels very strained, but I'm such a mess I don't even know how to talk about it, and I think it's my fault

    And I have the least amount of friends I've ever had. I have my brother, and three bros who are like brothers to me, but all four of them live hours away

    And a couple maybe three ish close friends who are female, but all of them feel awkward since my divorce

    I was very close with my in-laws
    I feel like I lost a brother and two sisters

    And two very close friends who were brothers to me chose my ex wife's side

    And in trying to figure new friends out, and I'm struggling

    And I don't know how much of it is legit concerns vs how much of it is maybe I should get my family doctor to refer me to a therapist or something

    In your position, I would be trying to move.

    Come to think of it, my go to solution to everything appears to be "move to another country".

    I know your sort of stuck until the divorce is final, but figuring out a new horizon would certainly give you something to work on and look forward to, and it's the kind of thing you can prepare for without drastically impacting your day to day life.

  • ArtereisArtereis Registered User regular
    So the paralegal handling the divorce reached out to me to finalize some documents that I had sent to her like a month or two ago. In the process, she mentioned that she hadn't gotten my ex's side of the information from her yet. I know there are two months left before the court can take up our case, but I'm kind of more than a little upset about that. She hasn't shown one ounce of urgency about this entire process, just does fuck all.

  • HacksawHacksaw J. Duggan Wrestler at LawRegistered User regular
    Civil cases like divorces move very slowly, in my experience. You're gonna be at it a while.

  • Shazkar ShadowstormShazkar Shadowstorm Registered User regular
    sarukun wrote: »
    it would be pretty fun if everyone was on drugs i feel like

    if i wasn't on drugs i dunno that i would enjoy it

    That sounds even worse than regular orgy.

    I meant specific drugs not just any drugs of course

    poo
  • sarukunsarukun Mr. Bulldopps Get SchwiftyRegistered User regular
    I only occasionally drink and that's generallly not so good for sexy times, so.

  • DouglasDangerDouglasDanger PennsylvaniaRegistered User regular
    sarukun wrote: »
    Maybe I'm too genuine

    No such thing. You can be too forward certainly, but being entirely genuine should be everyone's ideal. Fakeness is not an attractive quality.

    I won't bore y'all with the same sad song, but I'm having a tough time getting things figured out

    A close friendship feels very strained, but I'm such a mess I don't even know how to talk about it, and I think it's my fault

    And I have the least amount of friends I've ever had. I have my brother, and three bros who are like brothers to me, but all four of them live hours away

    And a couple maybe three ish close friends who are female, but all of them feel awkward since my divorce

    I was very close with my in-laws
    I feel like I lost a brother and two sisters

    And two very close friends who were brothers to me chose my ex wife's side

    And in trying to figure new friends out, and I'm struggling

    And I don't know how much of it is legit concerns vs how much of it is maybe I should get my family doctor to refer me to a therapist or something

    In your position, I would be trying to move.

    Come to think of it, my go to solution to everything appears to be "move to another country".

    I know your sort of stuck until the divorce is final, but figuring out a new horizon would certainly give you something to work on and look forward to, and it's the kind of thing you can prepare for without drastically impacting your day to day life.

    There's no way I could move, bub

    I'll soon have figured out a new budget, and now when I can move out if my parents', but I can't leave my job. Too many things are dependent on that pay rate.

    I play games on ps3 and ps4. My PSN is DouglasDanger.
  • VeldrinVeldrin Sham bam bamina Registered User regular
    Tonight I went to an extended family party for my one-year-old niece.

    The kids were getting rowdy after a while, so my brother and I decided to set up a game of prune juice pong for them, because we're hilarious and awful.

    Jokes on us though, as they smashed us and we downed 6 cups each.

    help

  • stimtokolosstimtokolos Registered User regular
    Eurgghhk.

  • SorceSorce Registered User regular
    Veldrin wrote: »
    Tonight I went to an extended family party for my one-year-old niece.

    The kids were getting rowdy after a while, so my brother and I decided to set up a game of prune juice pong for them, because we're hilarious and awful.

    Jokes on us though, as they smashed us and we downed 6 cups each.

    help
    Prune juice is a warrior's drink, you'll be fine.

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  • Peter EbelPeter Ebel CopenhagenRegistered User regular
    edited October 2016
    Alright, reports turned in. The road is feasible, rock quarry is frankly doubtful, good luck with the silty ass permafrost and its 40% volumetric reduction when it thaws.

    Edit: Also, I'm sick as a dog and it's not due to drinking. Send me your strengthening teas, secret British cabal.

    Peter Ebel on
    Fuck off and die.
  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    Tea is in the heart

    breath in deep and Tea is always with you. For the virtuous, Yorkshire Tea. If you've been bad, PG Tips D:

  • ArtereisArtereis Registered User regular
    Hacksaw wrote: »
    Civil cases like divorces move very slowly, in my experience. You're gonna be at it a while.

    The paralegal is pretty prompt, so I have no issues with her. I have no expectations for the court, but the unless the judge tries to force some events, the actual proceedings should be simple. There's nothing to split anymore.

  • BillyIdleBillyIdle What does "katana" mean? It means "Japanese sword."Registered User regular
    Met up with the girl I'm crushing on the most last night at her favorite bar and met some her friends. It was pretty cool, and lame as it is after it closed we had a good heart to heart in my car about life and stuff.

    And for some reason that made me really happy.

  • DouglasDangerDouglasDanger PennsylvaniaRegistered User regular
    sarukun wrote: »
    Maybe I'm too genuine

    No such thing. You can be too forward certainly, but being entirely genuine should be everyone's ideal. Fakeness is not an attractive quality.

    I won't bore y'all with the same sad song, but I'm having a tough time getting things figured out

    A close friendship feels very strained, but I'm such a mess I don't even know how to talk about it, and I think it's my fault

    And I have the least amount of friends I've ever had. I have my brother, and three bros who are like brothers to me, but all four of them live hours away

    And a couple maybe three ish close friends who are female, but all of them feel awkward since my divorce

    I was very close with my in-laws
    I feel like I lost a brother and two sisters

    And two very close friends who were brothers to me chose my ex wife's side

    And in trying to figure new friends out, and I'm struggling

    And I don't know how much of it is legit concerns vs how much of it is maybe I should get my family doctor to refer me to a therapist or something

    In your position, I would be trying to move.

    Come to think of it, my go to solution to everything appears to be "move to another country".

    I know your sort of stuck until the divorce is final, but figuring out a new horizon would certainly give you something to work on and look forward to, and it's the kind of thing you can prepare for without drastically impacting your day to day life.

    There's no way I could move, bub

    I'll soon have figured out a new budget, and now when I can move out if my parents', but I can't leave my job. Too many things are dependent on that pay rate.

    @sarukun
    To elaborate
    I have a huge amount of self doubt and a tendency to second guess myself
    And making new friends is a huge ordeal for me

    I can't imagine having to make more than one at a time.

    I play games on ps3 and ps4. My PSN is DouglasDanger.
  • GustavGustav Registered User regular
    So I'm at a bar with my old roommates for a football game. And one of my former roommates just verbally destroyed a dude that was apparently gross to her during her waitressing job. It was almost a mathematical deconstruction and he immediately left. It was beautiful.

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  • GustavGustav Registered User regular
    edited October 2016
    I really hope she doesn't get in trouble at her job.

    But god. Watching the slow motion reaction of a dude realizing he was shit was kinda amazing. I hope he learned something.

    Gustav on
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  • DouglasDangerDouglasDanger PennsylvaniaRegistered User regular
    edited October 2016
    When should I consider asking my family doctor to a referral to some kind of therapist or whatever? What is a normal mental state? I think I'm developing some kind of anxiety or something.

    I didn't date much before marriage, I don't know how to deal with things in a breakup, even though this was my call, I left her, I'm having a rough time.

    I'm worried I'm pushing what few friends I have left away from me, or withdrawing from them becuase of this weird anxiety thing.

    I some times spend a lot of time wondering if I offended someone or people I know are my friends are actually my friends or if they just pity me.

    I have good days and bad days on roughly equal measure and km having a hard time getting out of the bad thought process es on bad days.

    DouglasDanger on
    I play games on ps3 and ps4. My PSN is DouglasDanger.
  • SorceSorce Registered User regular
    If you think something is wrong, then now's the time to ask for a referral.

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  • BrainleechBrainleech Registered User regular
    Gustav wrote: »
    I really hope she doesn't get in trouble at her job.

    But god. Watching the slow motion reaction of a dude realizing he was shit was kinda amazing. I hope he learned something.

    I hope others in the area witnessing it learned something as well

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  • AphostileAphostile Registered User regular
    Just went and had tasty vindaloo, saw Hedwig and the Angry Inch (feat Darren Criss) and now we're watching Rent.

    Pretty good night.

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  • lonelyahavalonelyahava Mortius is correct Move to New ZealandRegistered User regular
    When should I consider asking my family doctor to a referral to some kind of therapist or whatever? What is a normal mental state? I think I'm developing some kind of anxiety or something.

    I didn't date much before marriage, I don't know how to deal with things in a breakup, even though this was my call, I left her, I'm having a rough time.

    I'm worried I'm pushing what few friends I have left away from me, or withdrawing from them becuase of this weird anxiety thing.

    I some times spend a lot of time wondering if I offended someone or people I know are my friends are actually my friends or if they just pity me.

    I have good days and bad days on roughly equal measure and km having a hard time getting out of the bad thought process es on bad days.

    Now is good.

    You're going through a time that's tough even in the best and most amicable times.

    You don't need to be completely falling apart to talk to somebody.

    If you want somebody to talk to, then go talk.

    There's only so much we can do for you here.

    If you feel you need more, go for it.

    <3

  • CreaganCreagan Registered User regular
    You don't need to be completely falling apart to talk to somebody.

    I just want to second this, and add that talking to a professional before you fall apart, or get close to falling apart is probably even the smarter thing to do. Because it might keep you functional, when you'd otherwise fall apart.

  • sarukunsarukun Mr. Bulldopps Get SchwiftyRegistered User regular
    sarukun wrote: »
    Maybe I'm too genuine

    No such thing. You can be too forward certainly, but being entirely genuine should be everyone's ideal. Fakeness is not an attractive quality.

    I won't bore y'all with the same sad song, but I'm having a tough time getting things figured out

    A close friendship feels very strained, but I'm such a mess I don't even know how to talk about it, and I think it's my fault

    And I have the least amount of friends I've ever had. I have my brother, and three bros who are like brothers to me, but all four of them live hours away

    And a couple maybe three ish close friends who are female, but all of them feel awkward since my divorce

    I was very close with my in-laws
    I feel like I lost a brother and two sisters

    And two very close friends who were brothers to me chose my ex wife's side

    And in trying to figure new friends out, and I'm struggling

    And I don't know how much of it is legit concerns vs how much of it is maybe I should get my family doctor to refer me to a therapist or something

    In your position, I would be trying to move.

    Come to think of it, my go to solution to everything appears to be "move to another country".

    I know your sort of stuck until the divorce is final, but figuring out a new horizon would certainly give you something to work on and look forward to, and it's the kind of thing you can prepare for without drastically impacting your day to day life.

    There's no way I could move, bub

    I'll soon have figured out a new budget, and now when I can move out if my parents', but I can't leave my job. Too many things are dependent on that pay rate.

    @sarukun
    To elaborate
    I have a huge amount of self doubt and a tendency to second guess myself
    And making new friends is a huge ordeal for me

    I can't imagine having to make more than one at a time.

    I hear you mang.

    I've gotten real used to fleeing untenable situations, but I haven't really had a stable, attractive enough job to make leaving a very challenging proposition, so.

  • PeasPeas Registered User regular
    I am just treating this whole existence scenario as a bad dream and trying to make the most out of what's left of it

  • BrainleechBrainleech Registered User regular
    Creagan wrote: »
    You don't need to be completely falling apart to talk to somebody.

    I just want to second this, and add that talking to a professional before you fall apart, or get close to falling apart is probably even the smarter thing to do. Because it might keep you functional, when you'd otherwise fall apart.

    Well what if you are beyond falling apart
    As I am barely functional running in idle operation anymore?
    I really feel talking to a professional was years ago

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  • DouglasDangerDouglasDanger PennsylvaniaRegistered User regular
    Brainleech wrote: »
    Creagan wrote: »
    You don't need to be completely falling apart to talk to somebody.

    I just want to second this, and add that talking to a professional before you fall apart, or get close to falling apart is probably even the smarter thing to do. Because it might keep you functional, when you'd otherwise fall apart.

    Well what if you are beyond falling apart
    As I am barely functional running in idle operation anymore?
    I really feel talking to a professional was years ago

    Do you have insurance? Could you go now?

    I play games on ps3 and ps4. My PSN is DouglasDanger.
  • BrainleechBrainleech Registered User regular
    I have the dreaded Tri Core
    So I don't know and really how can I?
    I lack a car and am basically a vampire anymore

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  • DouglasDangerDouglasDanger PennsylvaniaRegistered User regular
    I'm thinking about going.

    I play games on ps3 and ps4. My PSN is DouglasDanger.
  • Peter EbelPeter Ebel CopenhagenRegistered User regular
    A bunch of people I know have had great results with therapy. When I tried it, I kept getting into arguments with the therapist, like the horrible fucking pedant I am. I'm okay these days, I think, but maybe I would have gotten here faster if I'd let someone help me? I dunno.

    I should attend some kinda therapy/femdom crossover event.

    Good luck to you guys, though.

    Fuck off and die.
  • PeasPeas Registered User regular
    edited October 2016
    Oh wow a random cute girl who i will never see again just asked me to lend her a phone charger and thanked me after that

    The end.

    Sorry folks just wanna brag a little




    Peas on
  • Mr. GMr. G Registered User regular
    Just want it on the record that every single time I see this thread I want to make a thread for Battlefield 1 and title it "Love is a [Battlefield]"

    I think I'm very funny

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  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    edited October 2016
    I got asked by someone on OkCupid if I like Marvel movies, I said I do but that I still haven't seen the first Iron Man

    I hope that didn't just kill the conversation

    I didn't get another message

    Platy on
  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    I got message on Bumble! And I responded! And she's answered! OMG!

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