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A lot of my "this is not probsbly not actually OK, but maybe it is? I don't know, I have self esteem problems" anxiety stuff proved correct with my marriage
So when she sort of stops talking when I start trying to plan a date, I get anxious
A lot of my "this is not probsbly not actually OK, but maybe it is? I don't know, I have self esteem problems" anxiety stuff proved correct with my marriage
So when she sort of stops talking when I start trying to plan a date, I get anxious
that's super understandable.
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BroloBroseidonLord of the BroceanRegistered Userregular
A lot of my "this is not probsbly not actually OK, but maybe it is? I don't know, I have self esteem problems" anxiety stuff proved correct with my marriage
So when she sort of stops talking when I start trying to plan a date, I get anxious
Hobbies. It's easy to place someone in your life as a priority over everything else but until they can do the same, it's just emotional suicide.
Now your self esteem might read that as "she won't" but stop that. Anything worth doing is worth doing right. Measure twice; cut once.
It's not like im just staring at my phone, waiting for a response
I do other things while waiting for a response
I was actually going to have the Convo about its super OK for things to be too much of a mess to go out on a day, but I could really use some communication or encouragement or something
She could even say no thanks, this doesn't sound interesting
Or even
I have too much going on, this isn't a good time, I need to get some things in order
But no response for more than 24 hours and then "hey actually yes that would be nice to see you today" two hours before dinner time
Last night, I toured the sketchiest apartment I have ever seen in my life. It reeked like a thousand years of unwashed laundry, and was in the middle of a complete top to bottom remodel of a severity I've only seen before in a house where a meth lab blew up and they had to strip everything out because of all the toxic chemicals soaked into the walls and floorboards. I was trying to be polite to the landlord, pretending I was interested even though I'd made my decision within seconds of stepping through the door, because I just wanted to extract myself from the scenario without anyone freaking out. So I asked about utilities and internet and whatever, then closed with the whole "any questions for me" bit, and he immediately jumped to "you're not friends with any cops, are you?"
After I left out the side door, I spotted his car in the driveway, with huge stickers in the rear window saying "On August 21st a nuke's gonna go off and they're gonna say a terrorist did it like 9/11 so they can v-chip us all!! Wake Up America!!!", followed by a scripture reference and a youtube channel.
Edit: Bonus, found the photo on my phone!
The scripture verse is from the Book of Mormon, a prophecy about sinister cabals infiltrating the government, which, you know, thanks for the warning God. I can pretty much guarantee this guy wasn't talking about the next August 21st though.
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More... breathless near-panic. Like he couldn't wait for me to shut up about rental-related questions so he could find out if I was a narc.
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MetalbourneInside a cluster b personalityRegistered Userregular
When you ask a lady out and she ghosts for a while and then comes back to say things have been really crazy it's time to say, "Ok just let me know when you want to do something" and then wait. Possibly forever.
When you ask a lady out and she ghosts for a while and then comes back to say things have been really crazy it's time to say, "Ok just let me know when you want to do something" and then wait. Possibly forever.
We did that Sunday
Then she had an awful afternoon and asked if we could reschedule to this week
So I suggested today, she said yes, but nothing since
I don't remember most of the dream, but a few of you were there, including @Rorshach Kringle who was referred to as a "special effects wizard" and he came out on stage surrounded by lightning and ended up starting a fire.
Guys, I have found a unicorn. I could never ask for this, because it would be too greedy. Now I have to decide whether or not we should do things out of bed as well.
Guys, I have found a unicorn. I could never ask for this, because it would be too greedy. Now I have to decide whether or not we should do things out of bed as well.
Before following any advice, opinions, or thoughts I may have expressed in the above post, be warned: I found Keven Costners "Waterworld" to be a very entertaining film.
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BroloBroseidonLord of the BroceanRegistered Userregular
sketchy apartment apocalypse car guy just texted me that I'm the best applicant he's had and he wants to offer me the place but for $80/m more than we discussed in person pffffffffaaaaaaaaahhahahahaaa
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sketchy apartment apocalypse car guy just texted me that I'm the best applicant he's had and he wants to offer me the place but for $80/m more than we discussed in person pffffffffaaaaaaaaahhahahahaaa
I went up to NoVA/DC for the weekend to hang out with the girlfriend, since it was her birthday on Saturday and I've been busy today with school shenanigans - we went to tour the National Cathedral with my mother, who's an Episcopal priest, and then the two of us walked from the Cathedral to the National Zoo to fawn over animals together. Plus we got a lovely walk in around the creek behind her house Sunday afternoon, and we found lots of salamanders and also some evidence of beavers and otters by the side of the larger body of water it feeds in to!
I went up to NoVA/DC for the weekend to hang out with the girlfriend, since it was her birthday on Saturday and I've been busy today with school shenanigans - we went to tour the National Cathedral with my mother, who's an Episcopal priest, and then the two of us walked from the Cathedral to the National Zoo to fawn over animals together. Plus we got a lovely walk in around the creek behind her house Sunday afternoon, and we found lots of salamanders and also some evidence of beavers and otters by the side of the larger body of water it feeds in to!
My best friend and his father are both episcopal priests
I got the "I'm more interested in hanging out as friends" from my date on Sunday. And man, friends are great and all, I have them and appreciate them, but I just want someone who'll stroke my hair and say I'm pretty. Does that make me a garbage person?
My default response to this is to be blunt with the person and tell them I already have enough friends, or "I'm not looking for another friend: I'm looking for companionship at the level above friendship."
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Kinda surreal really.
Yes, this is a thing I know I need to work on
I also need to work on communication though
A lot of my "this is not probsbly not actually OK, but maybe it is? I don't know, I have self esteem problems" anxiety stuff proved correct with my marriage
So when she sort of stops talking when I start trying to plan a date, I get anxious
that's super understandable.
Hobbies. It's easy to place someone in your life as a priority over everything else but until they can do the same, it's just emotional suicide.
Now your self esteem might read that as "she won't" but stop that. Anything worth doing is worth doing right. Measure twice; cut once.
It's not like im just staring at my phone, waiting for a response
I do other things while waiting for a response
I was actually going to have the Convo about its super OK for things to be too much of a mess to go out on a day, but I could really use some communication or encouragement or something
She could even say no thanks, this doesn't sound interesting
Or even
I have too much going on, this isn't a good time, I need to get some things in order
But no response for more than 24 hours and then "hey actually yes that would be nice to see you today" two hours before dinner time
Is a bit too stressful for me, maybe
Is this petty or ridiculous?
no.
all it is is a slight over-reaction spawning from past bad experiences.
After I left out the side door, I spotted his car in the driveway, with huge stickers in the rear window saying "On August 21st a nuke's gonna go off and they're gonna say a terrorist did it like 9/11 so they can v-chip us all!! Wake Up America!!!", followed by a scripture reference and a youtube channel.
Edit: Bonus, found the photo on my phone!
The scripture verse is from the Book of Mormon, a prophecy about sinister cabals infiltrating the government, which, you know, thanks for the warning God. I can pretty much guarantee this guy wasn't talking about the next August 21st though.
no, I italicized it to stress that it really is slight.
More... breathless near-panic. Like he couldn't wait for me to shut up about rental-related questions so he could find out if I was a narc.
We did that Sunday
Then she had an awful afternoon and asked if we could reschedule to this week
So I suggested today, she said yes, but nothing since
And I need to know a time to make reservations
I like her a lot, she seems to like me too
dollar store mysterio
i got the camp
i got the ego
i got the bitterness
but i only got about three fiddy in my pockets
I'm gonna eat so much love today that I'm gonna vom and then I'm gonna eat some more.
I love you too Chico
let it rain from sun rise to sun set
Steam Me
Rough days, sleepless nights
And apologized again, and asked if we could try for Thursday
I said OK
I'm trying to get a handle on the anxiety. This lovely lady is having a really rough time, and still wants to try and date me
Chill out
But I do need to express a desire for more communication if this is going to work out
I empathize very much with the rough days, sleepless nights part
get one for 3 and then eat the whole thing
And I'm out in public alone!
WHAT IF I'M SEEN!?
forget that, saw off the horn and sell it on ebay
edit: and harpies
actually it's a stool softener
edit: don't ask me how I know that
Porque no los dos?
I would have absolutely no response to that
My best friend and his father are both episcopal priests
Used to go the cathedral all the time with them
Did you have a flood of people wanting to go on dates or that why your spending your evening here?"
Thanks okcupid guy, makes me feel fantastic.
Reply: "Well, it's clear why you're stuck here tonight"
(He'd probably just mistake it for playful banter though...)
My default response to this is to be blunt with the person and tell them I already have enough friends, or "I'm not looking for another friend: I'm looking for companionship at the level above friendship."
It gets the message across.