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Exit Strategies for Living with your S.O.?
Hey guys it's been a while, but I need your help. I've been dating my girlfriend for the last 3 years (as of February 15th). We moved in together (along with her now 15 year old) in october of 2015. Since probably last summer (2016) I haven't been able to shake the feeling that it might be time to move on. Now, I didn't want to self-sabotage my relationship because of a little long-term relationship lull so I've kept at it, I guess, trying to put the effort in as much as possible. Lately I'm starting to feel again like it's time to pull up stakes. The problem is I don't have the funds to just bounce and move into a new place at the drop of a hat, and I wouldn't want to saddle her with the unfair burden of covering rent and utilities by herself all of a sudden (the lease is year-long). I'm kind of sick of it and MAYBE I'm just having a bad day but I can't shake this nagging feeling I have. On the other hand she's ready to buy a house (at least mentally) with me and get married at some point in the next year to 18 months. What do?
The nuts and bolts of the situation are as follows:
- living together
- no pre-baked exit strategy
- teenager at the home
- we also just adopted a dog
- lease doesn't end until october (not to mention various utilities in our names)
- GF is complacent with relationship and sees escalation as a foregone conclusion
- We help each other in terms of bills, neither is 100% independent from the other in the current situation.
- I do have a strong network of friends I went to college with and such that I could possibly lean on in an emergency (but would like to minimize outside of, say, finding a new roof).
I'm not ready to slam the detonation button yet
, I'm not a quitter, but I feel like I'm getting to that point and I don't want to be couch surfing if I can help it should that happen.
I need any and all advice about transitioning from a living-together relationship to singledom should the time come, because more and more I feel like I've had enough.
If there are any details you feel I've left out that would help don't be shy.