I have a new puppy and I’m totally unsure what I’m doing is right. I’ll try and list what I’ve done and see if somethings wrong, if it’s fixable.
I tried putting her in the crate at night from day 1. Everyone said “whatever you do, don’t let her out when she cries.” Well the first two night she pooped the crate. I’ve slept near the crate and let her outside to pee/poop the last two but she clearly hates being in it, and her poop is getting wet, and I think it’s making her very anxious. I don’t understand how you’re supposed to get her to not hate her crate by starting her in it so soon, but no other resource gave an alternative on where she can sleep otherwise. I feel she now hates her crate (won’t go in really on her own accord, very cautious with it) and I don’t know if I should start over with her sleeping elsewhere (where?!) or just power through.
In two weeks (now 10 days) I have to go back to work and though I could leave her at my parents for a week or two longer to work on training, fairly soon she has to be able to be at my apartment during the day (I will come back at lunch).
Could I leave her in a pen attached to the crate during the day and just puppy pad the floor until she gets it? Am I going to confuse with her a million things? I’m trying to housebreak her by bringing her outside constantly, praising during the act and a treat right after, and she’ll usually do it outside, but often will sit down, try to get brought back in, or will pull towards the door. She has a bunch of accidents inside, usually if the variety where she dashes off for a second and gets pee/poo out before I can stop her, even under close supervision.
We’ve also been kind of letting her roam the first floor (while supervised) so now if I put her in a pen she cries some of the time.
I just feel like I’ve screwed up a bunch of different ways already despite having had a plan, and that I won’t be able to get anything done before I have to work. I’m getting incredibly, incredibly stressed, and barely sleeping is not helping.
Any advice? What I should abandon? What I should start over? Whether the puppy pad plan can work? I’m not married to crate training. I just want her house trained
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How crate training is supposed to go:
1. You put the crate in the puppy's confines from day one, but you don't put the puppy in the crate. Instead you put a blanket (which you should have rubbed so that it smells of you) and put some toys that you've played with during the day in the crate.
2. Then you start to put the food bowl in the crate for feeding time.
3. Then when the puppy is used to that you close the gate when the puppy is eating, and then keep it closed for longer and longer times. The first time the puppy starts to whine, you open the door. Then you keep the door closed for a shorter time. It's at this point where you shouldn't let the dog out of the crate if it whines, but instead do it once they've stopped whining (otherwise you'll have a "if I whine, they open the crate" behavior, which isn't what you want).
4. Once you've reached the point where the dog is comfortable in a closed cage you can start to leave the room. First stay with the puppy for a few minutes, then leave, then come back and play a bit with the puppy before you open the cage. You shouldn't put the puppy in the crate without supervision until it can handle about 45-60 minutes in the crate without you.
Right now I think crate training is off the table. You have enforced negative notions about the crate, and as such you're screwed. You'll have to start from scratch with something different. Pen off the kitchen or a different smaller area, and start over with something that doesn't have negative notions attached.
My advice:
1. Don't get excited over anything the dog does when pooping. When the dog poops where you want it, say "good dog" (and maybe a quick scritching) and that's it. If it has an accident, don't let it bother you.
2. Puppies poop a relatively short time after eating. Like, within 30 minutes. Eat->wait 5 minutes->Take a walk. When out for a "poopy walk", do the same walk every time. Puppies need to feel safe to poop, and as such it needs familiar places. You can do recreational walks in different areas, but do the same walk every time for poopwalks.
3. Puppy pad the entire pen. Then once the dog is starting to feel comfortable and doesn't have accidents on a daily basis, start to reduce the padded area. At some point, if the dog feels that it "has to go" it will do so on the pad even if it's just a single pad in a single corner. At some point the dog will no longer use the pad as long as you just replace the pad without reaction when it poops on the pad, and briefly praising it when doing it outside..
-Antje Jackelén, Archbishop of the Church of Sweden
Also, do i continue taking her out all the time to pee/poop with the puppy pad method or will she be confused/do I “click” when she uses the pad or only positively reinforce going outside to pee
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I don't have any perfect answers. Last time I house trained a puppy was 25 years ago, and then we newspapered the entire kitchen (with a gate on the kitchen door). Letting the dog out into the rest of the house before house training was complete wasn't even an option, because the rest of the house was wall-to-wall carpeted.
-Antje Jackelén, Archbishop of the Church of Sweden
She sleeps in it fine - she will cry a little if I leave her in it alone. I’m just not sure how to avoid bad associations if she HAS to be in this - much like she got from the crate from being in it.
Puppy pads are on the way- I will replace the tarp with them tonight
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Puppy pad the area, but once the puppy gets used to the pads remove them from the area around the food bowl.
-Antje Jackelén, Archbishop of the Church of Sweden
never used a clicker but:
yes keep taking her out all the time while doing puppy pads. Our method was, we'd keep the puppy somewhere without carpet (this was our bottom floor so nbd for us but yeah), and take it out to the back yard for supervised bathroom time almost hourly, and heap TONS of praise on it any time it was witnessed going. At the same time, what we'd do is be diligent enough to catch the puppy any time it started to pee/poop indoors, and immediately grab and transport the puppy to a puppy pad so it finished going there and then heap praise on it. Any messes that missed a pad that we somehow didn't catch, we'd clean up with some kind of strong pet odor eliminator while not calling the puppy's attention to it/ignoring it while cleaning. At first we made a few big squares of puppy pads throughout the house, but then over time we only had one square of them right by the back door, so the puppy associated the "ok place to pee" with the door to the outside. Then over time after the puppy learned to control itself enough to make it to the back door pad, we started paying attention and moving the puppy outside while it was going on those pads. Eventually - puppy scratches/barks at the back door when it wants to go out and does not pee/poop inside! This is a process of a few months generally, because when you first get a puppy it is generally physically too immature to actually control its bladder, like a baby.
The big things were to not get upset or be negative when it makes messes inside - no reaction at all except cleaning it up is best. There will be lots of messes, it's a puppy and again is literally too young to be able to control its bowels/bladder so at least for a while, no matter how hard you're working on training, there will just be pee and poop in your home.
We don't crate train (though we do have a dog that was crate trained at the shelter) so can't help you there; never had a problem just letting the puppy sleep in with someone, generally in my experience they sleep through the night and don't pee on you or anything and if they wake you up at 4am you can just toss 'em out back to pee and then go back to sleep on the couch for a bit when they come back in.
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This isn't the version we had but I assume its the same stuff.
It's got a lot of tips but also is good at the general philosophy associated with dog stuff.
Keep this small crate near wherever you lounge around in the house. You can even keep it next to your bed. She may even enter and exit it on her own while you are relaxing. But you definitely need a much smaller crate. The one you have will come in handy when she is an adult.
There are more laborious ways to train crate acceptance but I would try this approach first.
Also I demand a closeup picture of the doggo.
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When I have to start going to work in ~10 days, I will continue using the pen, and come home 1-2 times a day, probably 2 until she’s old enough to reliably hold 4 hours, and hopefully get to the point where crating is okay (and will switch to that at night).
I only worry that doing this will cause her to think it’s okay to pee inside (though hopefully, with no praise for using pads, she won’t prefer it over holding it for outside).
I’m mostly just concerned that I will reinforce destructive behaviors, like peeing on the floor is ok, that can’t be trained out, etc. It’s possible I am, like in many other phases of my life, overthinking and catastrophizing and otherwise giving myself unnecessary anxiety over this.
Oh and @Fuzzy Cumulonimbus Cloud here is pup
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I’m not training her to, but so far today she certainly seems to be aiming for it on her own
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It's pooping in the crate because why the hell not? The crate should be only large enough for the dog to fit in, turn around, and lie down.
I recommend reading a dog training book.
I am keeping her in the pen while doing the steps recommended to build positive associations with the [not shown] crate - feeding her meals in there, keeping toys in there, having treats in there so she’ll hop in on her own
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It's that small because they won't shit where they sleep.
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Couple of corrections -
I'm not a certified trainer, I've worked with many and done a lot of studying, but I'm not officially anything other than a mom & a wife.
More importantly - we used what's currently called "Balaced" training. If we busted the puppy (after it's old enough to reasonably expect the dog to be able to not have accidents) having an accident we would be very visibly and vocally disappointed. The balance part in this is approach is very important, in the words of a couple of dog trainers and a human psychologist "it's just as, if not more, important to catch and react to good behavior as it is to catch and react to bad behavior."
In my experience there are a lot of similarities between parenting and dog training - which I'm not saying for amusement value, I think it's actually important. Just like with parenting there is no one right way, no one right book, and no one size fits all answer. The biggest thing I've learned in all of the classes, reading, tainings, conferences, and multiple individual and group lessons with trainers is that it's okay to do what works for your household. No two dogs are identical in temperament, every house hold has its own needs to be healthy, and, unfortunately, like parenting there are fads and a lot of potential for judgement.
It sounds to me like you're headed in the right direction for the results you're after... Really it's mostly just read a lot, get opinions, and use what feels right to you (note: "right" not "easy") and file the rest away as potential future use information.
Feel free to PM me and I'll be happy to try and help however I can.
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She’s having trouble actually getting to sleep, lots of shuffling, but zero crying or whining. Progress...
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However this morning after she got taken out to pee/poo, she came back to the crate and pulled out all of her toys (she’ll still keep grabbing any toy that goes in and pull it out)
She didn’t seem particularly interested in food at all this morning, but it took an hour plus for her to want to go in and eat it.
Are these signs she was very unhappy in the crate? Or just normal for a puppy learning what it’s like to be in there all night? Again, no crying or trying to get out, when I’d take her out to pee I’d put her down outside and she’d climb back in to sleep, and as far as I saw through puppy camera she wasn’t awake in there, she was back to sleep quickly.
E: immediately after posting this she hopped in her crate to chill for a minute lel
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Yours will get there if you stay with it. You're making progress!
However, second night in crate - woke her up after 2 hours and she pooped, but I noticed no pee.. she hopped out and went to a different bedding when I put her back in, and yep, she peed... no crying or barking to be let out, though - I was in the room the whole time. That doesn’t seem good. If it matters, it seemed like she peed dead center, not in a corner and tried to go to the other corner.
Does this necessitate a change of methods or is it just a random accident that happens to puppies from time to time?
Maybe the crate is still too big? I can’t shorten it widthwise which is all I’d be concerned about, maybe have to buy a new one? - picture for size vs crate width comparison, she takes up maybe 75% of the width at this age? (I have made the crate a lot smaller vertically since this picture)
I could also try removing the bedding.. I have been getting up every 2-2.5 hours to take her out already to preempt these but she snuck one in
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Lots of people recommend taking a few days off work to dedicate some time to that in particular, since you have to really carefully watch the dog.
I took two weeks off and have been taking her out probably every 2 hours 24 hours a day - but she stopped accepting treats after going like 3-4 days ago! I still lay on the praise but food always better
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that still seems really big especially since she is so tiny. she can go to the opposite corner and still sleep on the other side.
I would say pick up a small one but keep that around for when she is trained since she can have more space.
accidents do happen. i would not worry too much. that bedding amount looks ok to me. you can stick a puppy pad under the blanket to keep mess down.
other things to try
1. make sure she goes out before going to bed.
2. you can pull water after 8 or so or whatever.
3. make sure you praise alot when she does go outside.
4.
Yet last night I put her in crate for bed and she barked for 30 min until I went to bed also, this morning she was napping so I put her in he crate for 10 minutes to take a shower and she woke up and barked the whole time and peed in it
Starting to lose my mind
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A good general rule of thumb with dogs is that they can only hold it for however many months old they are. 4 months = 4 hours before an accident's inevitable, for example.
Other things to look for would be if Puppy has accidents outside of her crate. (If it's only happening in her crate, then there's something else going on that needs to be addressed.) Is there any kind of pattern to these accidents? (Like, do they occur after a specific amount of time in her crate? Do accident locations correspond to the conditions in which Puppy found herself in her crate? Does she prefer to pee in her crate over your house/the outdoors? Does she have an accident in her crate when she can see you? If she has an accident in the crate while you're present, is there sniffing behavior before the accident or is she just looking at you and going?)
Figuring out those things can help narrow down what the problem is, and make it easier to address the issue. Sometimes a dog will totally understand potty training, but have a separate problem submissive peeing or revenge peeing. We dog-sat a toy poodle that was totally house-trained, but would steal your shoes and poop in them if you didn't play with her in the mornings. My sister's dog was house-trained, but has some anxiety issues and would submissive-pee in my father's office every morning unless you caught her fast enough. (Solution was to carry her out to the yard every morning and make sure she couldn't even SEE Dad's office. Once she had her first pee outside, she was usually okay.) My dog developed a revenge-peeing problem despite being otherwise fully potty trained, and would mark my father's favorite chair every chance he got. (I know it wasn't a potty training issue, because it only started after my dad was short with me in front of the dog. And when we were at my apartment, he was FINE. He thankfully stopped a few weeks after we got him neutered.)
The only other tip I can think of is sometimes puppies benefit from having a command associated with doing their business. I accidentally taught my dog "go potty" (pee) because I repeated that phrase so often when I took him out, and it turned out to be SUPER helpful potty training him. Length of potty walks dropped dramatically, and I was able to get him to go regularly enough that he developed a sort of pee schedule. (He is very easily distracted so being able to remind him why we were outside was a godsend.)
We went to upstate New York for Labor Day weekend, and she was great. 4 days, 1 indoor pee, 1 indoor poo, slept through the night in her crate (with a couple wake ups by me to take her out each night) with almost no yapping, pretty good about being put in it to sleep during the day. Even went to the door to alert me of needing the bathroom a couple times (though maybe coincidental)
Then she got back to my parents’ and has been a nightmare. 4+ accidents a day despite watching her like a hawk. Today I took her out, she peed, and 30 min later peed on the floor. I grabbed her, took her outside, and she peed more. 15 min later she peed on the floor again. Took her out at 820, she peed, peed on the floor again at 9 right before being taken out before bed. She doesn’t give off easily noticeable signals she’s about to, it’s pretty immediate, and it’s happening so soon after taking her out to pee it’s unexpected. During the night she’s been okay, but again, getting up twice to take her out (and she usually goes pee twice and poop at least once during these).
Not to mention today I had to leave her in her crate at home for the first time while I was at work. I hired a dog walker to come twice, so her schedule went:
Last person left house at 8, took her out right beforehand.
First walk - 1030-11.
Second walk - 130-2.
Brother got home around 240 (though it was supposed to be me at 430 or so)
As far as I could tell from my dog camera, she didn’t cry/bark THAT much during the day. But I’m pretty sure she wet the crate at least once. The towel was damp, and even though I left water in there for her, I don’t think she could’ve spilled that much.
I’m just at a loss at what I can do at this point. How she acted in NY leads me to believe she may just smell all her previous accidents at my parents’, but there’s not a whole lot I can do about this. I’ve cleaned every accident from the beginning with the most recommended enzymatic cleaner. I literally can’t have her watched much more than I am. 2 walks a day is already expensive, I plan on coming home an additional time when we’re in my new apartment and can make it for lunch. She just needs to... stop peeing, and she won’t. I was utterly hyper vigilant tonight the entire night and she still managed 3 accidents on me, plus one on the dog walker on the way out the door and however many she had in her crate.
E: I think i will do the “safe zone” fully puppy padded method around an open crate for now. I don’t think I have any other options. Though when left alone, my puppy had started chewing on and biting pads so... we’ll see I guess. Ugh. I wish I could just start over. She’s going to bark and whine all the time being confined to a pen instead of the whole house. And I won’t be able to replace soiled pads while at work, and I doubt dog walkers will. So she’ll be covered in pee and poop when i get home, and all her toys. I really hope all of these false starts are fixable.
I basically just don’t know if these are necessary steps backward or if I am making things unnecessarily difficult and confusing the dog further.
E2: I think it would be best if I summarized my actual problem into a more concise post so I will do that soon when I have time
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And then they do something cute and you forget they are assholes. Until they then do something to remind you of rhat
Just like kids!
Small dogs sometimes pee due to excitement. Are you playing with her when these accidents happen? Play can work a dog up to the point where they just pee without warning. Or is something happening immediately prior to the accidents, like somebody walks into a room, or the TV gets turned on?
You should also watch to see if peeing as the dog walker (or anybody) leaves becomes a pattern. Stress can also trigger accidents and if your puppy has separation anxiety that could explain at least some of what's going on. (Puppy sees an indication she's about to be left alone. Puppy panics and wets herself.)