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QUILTBAG: It’s Pride Time

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  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    I'm waiting for the psychiatrist to talk about the results of the tests I had to take

    And I hope I can get an appointment to start HRT afterwards - fingers crossed that I don't have to wait another 3+ months

    I've been doing worse and worse again lately because of the gatekeeping and my general irritation with my body and being in the closet

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  • AnzekayAnzekay Registered User regular
    edited June 2019
    Saw my GP today, and it went very well. She's logged my changed name in their database as my preferred name, with a note to update it once I get my name changed legally. I really really like that the software a lot of GP clinics here use allows for doing that so easily.

    Got a referral to a psychiatrist about ADD stuff, and general other mental health stuff, some updated prescriptions for my existing medication, and a new one for an actual anti-depressant we're going to try me on.

    After we've sorted out that stuff it'll be time to talk about some anti-androgens or similar

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  • WhippyWhippy Moderator, Admin Emeritus Admin Emeritus
    Anzekay wrote: »
    After we've sorted out that stuff it'll be time to talk about some anti-androgens or similar

    huminahuhwhat now? did we know about this! I knew about the name change but I didn’t that you were ready for The Next Stage, congratssssssssssss

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  • AnzekayAnzekay Registered User regular
    edited June 2019
    Whippy wrote: »
    Anzekay wrote: »
    After we've sorted out that stuff it'll be time to talk about some anti-androgens or similar

    huminahuhwhat now? did we know about this! I knew about the name change but I didn’t that you were ready for The Next Stage, congratssssssssssss

    ahaha well, it's more like the penultimate Stage for me. I think I mentioned this earlier this year! I suspect with a light dosage of AAs, and then some lasers on my face, plus some non-medical related stuff (weight loss, hair stuff, better fashion sense), I'll be at my desired level of gender: ??

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  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    I feel I fucked up with the psychiatrist because the test gave high results for interpersonal loyalty and I told her I do care a lot about their wellbeing

    She now wants me to come out to them before I can start HRT but doing so might jeopardize my living situation before I can attain some sort of security by knowing I at least have access to anti-androgens and hormones

    Have to think about whether a carrot dangling in front of my face gives me enough inner power to change my living situation, unfortunately what I heard from other people isn't good (one girl who came to the local trans meetup is a skilled carpenter and the job service straight up told her she wouldn't be "placeable" due to being trans)

  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    edited June 2019
    These people constantly punish you for your depression, your lack of close or romantic relationships, or your struggle in life in general

    It's so backwards

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  • Brovid HasselsmofBrovid Hasselsmof [Growling historic on the fury road] Registered User regular
    The pressure to come out before you're ready is the same here Platy and it's absolute bullshit.

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  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    Re: romantic relationships, they all assume I'll gravitate more towards lesbian relationships because I've never had sex with a man (never had sex with a woman either) or because they just assume things don't work out between dudes and trans women

  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    It also seems I underperformed in the IQ test which is inexplicable to me and it might've shifted her perception of me

    The personality test is super-awful because it produces results akin to what you'd read in a horoscope based on very few data points

  • SeidkonaSeidkona Had an upgrade Registered User regular
    I am sorry Platy.

    No one should tell you how you transition or handle your body and life.

    Mostly just huntin' monsters.
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  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    I made an an appointment for HRT regardless and the earliest they could give me was 11 September

    I also screwed myself here because I couldn't handle all these things earlier due to my anxiety

    Really angry

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  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    I need to at least find a doctor who'll prescribe me finasteride, the one I talked to was averse to the idea because he felt it would be akin to getting started with HRT

  • Erin The RedErin The Red The Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMA Baton Rouge, LARegistered User regular
    It really frustrates me how many hurdles there are between someone realizing they're trans and being able to apply that knowledge to making their body a more comfortable vessel for them to inhabit.

    I'm sorry that y'all are running into roadblocks and slow downs. You are real and you are valid. Frustration absolutely makes sense, and I understand wanting to get on the road, so to speak.

    Also! Speaking of getting on the road:

    Packed up and waiting for the rest of the house to wake up and be ready so we can head to Texas for my pre-op appointment today! Then surgery is Friday. Gonna do my best not to die! I will be really out of it, but feel free to hit me up on Twitter if you wanna talk or check in or whatever

    <3

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  • Brovid HasselsmofBrovid Hasselsmof [Growling historic on the fury road] Registered User regular
    edited June 2019
    I don't go to Ravenholm Twitter, so in case you're not around here much for a while, good luck not dying and congratulations in advance!

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  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    edited June 2019
    ,

    Platy on
  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    Platy wrote: »
    I made an an appointment for HRT regardless and the earliest they could give me was 11 September

    I also screwed myself here because I couldn't handle all these things earlier due to my anxiety

    I feel bad for complaining since it's "only" 77 days but I had to wait five to six months for the psychiatric appointment, this has all been going on for way too long

    Also the other local trans people say it wasn't like this last year, that it only took one month

    They have five hours per month for HRT and I was told it was a basically a ten-minute job since they don't run their own labs and make you get everything yourself (they basically look at the stuff you brought and write down prescriptions)

    I'm also worried about the quality of the care if things are developing like this, they told another trans woman to get back in six months

    I put in so much time and effort and I'm crying because of all this shit

    mysticjuicer
  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    Apparently in Vienna they don't even give out appointments anymore

    I cannot believe how these things are done here

    credeiki
  • BahamutZEROBahamutZERO Registered User regular
    IQ tests are also fucking bullshit pseudoscience

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  • PowerpuppiesPowerpuppies Registered User regular
    Platy I don't think you should feel bad for complaining :(

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  • GundiGundi Serious Bismuth Registered User regular
    well they aren't pseudoscience but they are only really useful in their original intended usage as a screening tool for severely developmentally disabled/delayed individuals. And even in that case they are just a screening tool.

    Regardless of all that the idea that a person needs to take an IQ test before receiving treatment for gender dysphoria is straight up bigotry. There's no justifiable medical reason for requiring it unless you hold that a person must take an IQ test before consenting to any kind of medical treatment.

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  • Erin The RedErin The Red The Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMA Baton Rouge, LARegistered User regular
    Updat: I made it to the condo. Parked a very big car in a very small spot. Doctor looked at/held my dick. Had Tex Mex. Cut my foot open real good opening a gate. I have a drink now. Very fuzzy. Love yall

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  • kimekime Queen of Blades Registered User regular
    Started a new job this week. First day in orientation, they had everyone put their preferred pronouns on their name tags. Then, noticed that the men's restroom had a while bunch of sanitary pads and such.

    It costs the company nothing basically, but it's nice to see the gesture at least

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  • SeidkonaSeidkona Had an upgrade Registered User regular
    edited June 2019
    So my grandmother is going to my cousin's kid's graduation party.

    Great. They can all sit around and talk about how "weird" I am and how much they don't condone my "choices"

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  • DepressperadoDepressperado I just wanted to see you laughing in the pizza rainRegistered User regular
    Entaru wrote: »
    So my grandmother is going to my cousin's kids graduation party.

    Great. They can all sit around and talk about how "weird" I am how much they don't condone my "choices"

    hey, fuck them!

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  • XehalusXehalus Registered User regular
    people usually sit around and gossip about folk more interesting and important than them

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  • 3cl1ps33cl1ps3 I will build a labyrinth to house the cheese Registered User regular
    Xehalus wrote: »
    people usually sit around and gossip about folk more interesting and important than them

    People who have interesting shit to say, and their own thoughts, generally don't gossip.

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  • Calamity JaneCalamity Jane That Wrong Love Registered User regular
    not to be contrarian but the foundation of modern society in many ways is being petty and shit talking people regardless of a given logic or reason attached. ideally? there's less maliciousness and being catty stays just that: being catty

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    this one has been making the rounds but im kinda thinking about the reagan era again and the prevailing norms around that time. and also the fact social media radicalization has been let out of the box and is never going back in the box. im no centrist but i believe deeply that a conversation needs to be had around deradicalizing irony poisoned and alienated young people sooner rather than later because the major tech companies only seem to stoke these fires while talking a big one about approaching these problems seriously

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  • SeidkonaSeidkona Had an upgrade Registered User regular
    Yeah, well, if keeping my name out of their mouth would collapse modern society then let it fall.

    Mostly just huntin' monsters.
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  • Calamity JaneCalamity Jane That Wrong Love Registered User regular
    oh i meant in regard to the comments that followed, and the idea of gossip in general not that specific instance, fuck those people

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  • SeidkonaSeidkona Had an upgrade Registered User regular
    edited June 2019
    And honestly. . I am proud of the woman I have become against the struggles I had to overcome to get here.

    Let them talk. It's not keeping me in a cage anymore and it's just the venom of their hearts which has more to do with their smallness and less to do with any truth about me.

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  • CambiataCambiata Commander Shepard The likes of which even GAWD has never seenRegistered User regular
    Having nearly finished my stint on the grand jury, I have learned that people can both be catty bitches at strangers they just met AND ruin society at the same time, so I'm not really on board with the idea that being catty somehow saves society at large.

    While it doesn't seem that any rich were eaten. It definitely feels like a soup course with broth made from rich stock - bouillonaire if you will - was had.

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  • Erin The RedErin The Red The Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMA Baton Rouge, LARegistered User regular
    Final stretch, y'all. Liquid diet today and I just want a gotdamn croissant or burger. There's a Jamaican place a block away and it looks and smells incredible and just. Aaaagh

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  • CambiataCambiata Commander Shepard The likes of which even GAWD has never seenRegistered User regular
    Dunno if this was intentional on their part, but my favorite dress shop has an ombre dress that is in the colors of the trans flag:
    https://www.eshakti.com/shop/Dresses/Ombre-star-print-georgette-shoulder-ties-dress-CL0065969

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    It's currently on sale, too!

    While it doesn't seem that any rich were eaten. It definitely feels like a soup course with broth made from rich stock - bouillonaire if you will - was had.

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  • SeidkonaSeidkona Had an upgrade Registered User regular
    Do not just want.

    Need. . .

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  • CambiataCambiata Commander Shepard The likes of which even GAWD has never seenRegistered User regular
    Ooooh, here's another use of that star print, though the salmon color on the bottom makes it slightly less trans flag-ish

    https://www.eshakti.com/shop/Dresses/Ombre-star-print-georgette-pleated-empire-dress-CL0065999

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    I also just realized that this dress they've had a lot longer is more or less the bi flag. I didn't notice since those are also "space" colors to me and I thought of this as the space dress:

    https://www.eshakti.com/shop/Dresses/Ombre-star-print-georgette-shoulder-ties-dress-CL0051148

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    And another version of that dress with sleeves:

    https://www.eshakti.com/shop/Dresses/Ombre-star-print-georgette-surplice-midi-dress-CL0057942
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    The reasons this is my favorite dress shop are:
    - come in a wide range of sizes, but also make dresses according to your unique measurements for only $10 extra
    - Most all the dresses have pockets
    - You can customize the dresses in ways other than just the sizing - for that same $10 you can add sleeves, change dress length, change neckline. You don't have to pay per customization, it's just $10 to change the dress as you like.

    While it doesn't seem that any rich were eaten. It definitely feels like a soup course with broth made from rich stock - bouillonaire if you will - was had.

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  • PsykomaPsykoma Registered User regular
    edited June 2019
    I have the space dress. It is very nice, though the colours are a bit more muted in real life than in the photos.
    I like it a lot.

    E: They also didn't have the sleeve version when I ordered, if I remember right. I would probably prefer that one to the strap one.

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  • MKRMKR Registered User regular
    I'm about at a zen point with gender and sexuality. I accepted it's not going to fit into any neat boxes and I'm just going to have to forge a big gay path into the unknown.

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  • CambiataCambiata Commander Shepard The likes of which even GAWD has never seenRegistered User regular
    I was watching a Vice interview today of a suburban mom, and she was wearing a t-shirt with a cardigan over it. The t-shirt had writing on it but was partially blocked by the sweater, so for a long time it looked like her shirt said, "world's gayest mom" and I was like "cool." Only for it to be revealed later that it only said, "world's okayest mom."

    Please fund my kickstarter to make "world's gayest mom" t-shirts, ty.

    While it doesn't seem that any rich were eaten. It definitely feels like a soup course with broth made from rich stock - bouillonaire if you will - was had.

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  • AnzekayAnzekay Registered User regular
    Saw my psychologist today! Towards the end of the session I just casually told him straight up that I'm nb and he was like 'yeah?' as if he already knew, which is intensely funny to me because he keeps being far more perceptive about things than I expect. I guess this is why he's so good that I keep going back to see him.

    But yeah, no shock, no gatekeeping, no asking me to clarify it or anything, just instant acceptance and acknowledgement. Talking about whether to be semi-public about it he just said 'do it, be you'

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  • Brovid HasselsmofBrovid Hasselsmof [Growling historic on the fury road] Registered User regular
    I went to a wildflower identification workshop yesterday. At one point the instructor was talking about plants with male flowers and plants with female flowers, and then referred to 'transgender' flowers that exhibit some combination of traits. It was clearly intended as a joke.

    I can't decide if I want to email and say something about it. It was such a minor thing. I can't tell if it's actually a problem or if I'm just so hypersensitive to anyone whose character I'm not sure of even mentioning transgender that I'm putting too much into it.

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