when I say no rule book for us I mean like
we already transgressed the big ones: don't be gay
so like part of queer life is making your own rules
but then I feel like I have betrayed our striving for gay marriage by also being monogamish
which is so stupid to feel that
Why, because the straights have been doing so good at marriage so far that you need to follow their example?
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when I say no rule book for us I mean like
we already transgressed the big ones: don't be gay
so like part of queer life is making your own rules
but then I feel like I have betrayed our striving for gay marriage by also being monogamish
which is so stupid to feel that
It's silly but also understandable, I think, even as an utter straight.
I think it's v healthy to focus on the advantages of making your own rules; it demands more energy but also frees you from so much baggage
I’ve been on and off PrEP a couple times, but only when I was cruising. There are reasons not to take it just in case as an addition to condoms, let alone in addition to condoms in a closed monogamous relationship. Namely, it has kidney and bone toxicities, and also it is often free/cheap for consumers after insurance and rebates but costs the health system a bunch of money because we’re dumb monsters about patents.
That being said, I haven’t looked up the most recent indications: maybe they’re going all in on PrEP for everyone, even people in closed relationships who use condoms (but that strikes me as insane but what do I know)
PrEP is really important for people who are raw doggin it on the regular and/or people where every now and then they get too drunk and oops just put it in (but then it’s okay because of that pill you take every day)
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husband and I have been doing some monogamish cruising type stuff lately and honestly i think it has improved our relationship in surprising ways
we were talking about going on PrEP together but neither of us are very much into anal so I'm not sure the utility of it except as a safeguard
there is like no rule book for us so I never know if occasional cruising stuff would lead to a big fracture in our relationship but we talk it over a bunch and give permission and agree that if it causes jealousy or becomes problematic we stop
curious what all the chat thoughts are on this
assuming that you're not going to have any problems communicating, I think the crux of the issue is how you think he and your abilities are when it comes to recognizing or realizing that it is causing problematic feelings
wow that's a shit sentence
I guess what I'm trying to ask is, do you think you'd be able to catch problems in time?
even if we take perfect honesty and communication as a given assumption, you can't communicate your feelings until you've had them, y'know?
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Why, because the straights have been doing so good at marriage so far that you need to follow their example?
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It's silly but also understandable, I think, even as an utter straight.
I think it's v healthy to focus on the advantages of making your own rules; it demands more energy but also frees you from so much baggage
assuming that you're not going to have any problems communicating, I think the crux of the issue is how you think he and your abilities are when it comes to recognizing or realizing that it is causing problematic feelings
wow that's a shit sentence
I guess what I'm trying to ask is, do you think you'd be able to catch problems in time?
even if we take perfect honesty and communication as a given assumption, you can't communicate your feelings until you've had them, y'know?
What if i told you that humans are the real aliens?
They were created in a completely different solar system, for starters
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