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My Wiener is Broken
AbsoluteZero
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The last two times I have had sex my penis became partially flaccid about 3/4 of the way through. This is a completely new thing for my penis to be doing, and now I'm worried about it. It gets about half-ways deflated or so. The first time it happened it prevented my girlfriend from having an orgasm, on account of it flopping out, which was disheartening for me and I'm sure rather disappointing for her. Today my penis got limpy again during sex, however this time we were both able to finish and have satisfying orgasms.
Now here's all the details I can really divulge about this problem... and this is hard to explain... I'm being stimulated and everything, but it just doesn't feel like I'm in the mood in my mind so to speak. I can still have an orgasm, though.
Anyone have any experiences like this? What can I do?
Now here's all the details I can really divulge about this problem... and this is hard to explain... I'm being stimulated and everything, but it just doesn't feel like I'm in the mood in my mind so to speak. I can still have an orgasm, though.
Anyone have any experiences like this? What can I do?
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Try a bigger size condom.
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Also if arnt using condoms you are at least using a different type of contraceptive yes? Otherwise you are just playing with a loaded gun.
That being said: Different positions? Do you masturbate regularly? Taking certain medictaions can cause this problem as well.
Stressing about this will certainly not help you, so relax and don't sweat it. ;-)
God gave you a brain and a penis, and only enough blood to work one at a time. if you try to think during lovemaking, even if it is about what you are going to do to the woman to turn her on, you will go flaccid quickly. sex is an instinctual act, best to treat it that way.
Vitra Theory & JPArbiter: I hadn't thought of that... That might be it. I do put a lot of effort into making sure the both of us proceed at the same pace, so to speak. Maybe I think about it too much... I'll have to try the whole not-thinking approach next time.
If your allergies are acting up, or if you're taking some new meds, try discontinuing use or trying something else. Works for me.
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That's not weird, that's normal.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Refractory_period_%28sex%29
(Yeah, I know it's wiki, whatever)
But he's not saying orgasming is the issue, rather, losing his erection is.
That said, I do agree, thinking too much during sex is terrible. Even if you're just thinking about how you're going to make it even better, it's just way too easy for your mind to start wandering. Let's face it, sex is great, but the motions can get repetitive if you don't switch stuff up enough, so a mental lapse is possible.
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My suggestion? Try a really wild position, and have music going to keep your internal voice from piping up and just go to town!
My girl and I aren't using any contraceptives. Are we playing with a loaded gun?
AbsoluteZero: How long are you having sex for (duration)? Maybe it's lasting too long for you and your body is just taking a break by now having blood flow down there. Another thought is that maybe you guys aren't doing enough foreplay. Used to be (when I was 18) that I didn't want any foreplay and could just jump right in. Now, nearly a decade later I find I need a little warming up before we get right down to it, otherwise I just have trouble getting in the mood. A little mental stimulation and teasing really makes a more enjoyable experience for me.
I'm not sure about this. I've got my mind set on trying this whole not-thinking-during-sex stuff... but I'm pretty sure if I did that I'd be finished way before her. Maybe there's some middle-ground that could be found...
Well, some thought IS needed during sex, obviously, but the middle ground is focusing, I'd say. Like I said, for me, personally, I'm prone occassionally to letting myself think about other crap during sex which distracts me; if I can get my mind to focus on "make the both of you feel good, idiot!", then I'm usually good. :P
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If worse comes to worse, you can always ask your doctor for a little pharmaceutical help.
Seriously people, stop being stupid.
OP, are you stressed out these days?
like cocaine or a LOT of grass?
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Keep in mind, this (most likely) has nothing to do with being impotent...your prolly just exhausted. Now...if its hapening after 5 minutes...than you might consult a doctor.
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When we have sex, the actual intercourse part only lasts a half an hour, tops. Typically it's about 15-20 minutes or so. I don't think I'm tiring out, because I'm pretty sure I could masturbate for hours if I wanted to.
me and my girl were having sex about 1-2 times a day. everyday. when this started happening i cooled off for 2 days without sex or masterbation. then proceeded to go at it again and then no problem for about 4 days after.
so my advice is to cool down you horn dog!
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Although you achieve the same end result, I wouldn't say that sex/masturbation are the same thing.
I'm just going to assume that you get more involved when you're getting it on with another person vs. when you're getting off on your own.
Perhaps you're tiring out?
It seems like you might be stressed about getting off at the same time.
Don't spank it for a few days and see what happens.
If you are drinking or using any drugs such as marijuana before the act, try abstaining. I find that if I'm high I tend to 'jump inside my own mind' a little too much and can quickly find myself spiraling down the FAILURE CASSCADE.
A half hour is like four times longer than average for intercourse.
Are you also a marathon runner?
Are you kidding me? Four times longer? O_o
Are we talking about intercourse where both partners climax?
Maybe try more of a jackhammer method? I.e, fast and hard?
I've had pretty limited experience with actual intercourse (only once, actually), but with other forms of stimulation, I could definitely get bored and lose my drive to some extent. I've found that I personally seem to prefer the fast, intense kind of stimulation that results in satisfaction for both partners, but just a lot sooner. Maybe try this, at least for some variety? Or, alternatively, less foreplay?
Additionally, what everyone is saying about cutting back on wanking/sex is true. I masturbate a lot. Like, a ridiculous amount. If I go for a full day without, this is extraordinary. And I find that my erections after a nice break are much more potent.
I guess to just add some more evidence to the "you're going too long" argument, I used to be on Adderall XR, which had a wonderful side effect of allowing me total control over self-stimulation. I could masturbate for hours, and do some practically Tantric thing of staying just on the verge of climax the whole time. And despite the stimulation, I'd go half-flaccid after about 20 minutes. Sometimes I'd lose my erection entirely, and really have to work to get it back. I think at some point the penis just gets "tired"?
This is ferociously true.
I discovered this a number of years ago, and I deliberately take extended (3-5 days) breaks with no sexual release at all (sexual or personal) after a period of regular sexual activity, and by the time the break is over, I'm ready to rumble like you wouldn't believe.
Just don't take TOO long of a break, or you'll pop inside of 10 minutes.
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If you just hit your mid twenties, and are say on that uphill slope of 26-29 ish, what you're experiencing is totally and completely normal. Things just don't work the same as they may have a decade ago, your body chem changes. Eat right, exercise, drink a lot of water. There is no all-out cure for age.
If you're 18, go see a doc, cuz that ain't right. At your sexual peak it could mean a heart problem.
Yep, that is my experience. If you're enjoying it the whole time though, by all means. Go for the moon. I just wanted you to know that there's nothing abnormal about "losing interest" after that much gettin' busy. Not in my opinion anyway.
Shit, a heart problem? I'm 22... that's smack dab in the middle between 18 and 26.
As for having sex for extended periods, we have to. It takes at least 15 to 20 minutes of sex for my girlfriend to climax, regardless of how much foreplay, and that's on a good day. When I was younger this was never a problem, though.
You don't HAVE TO, stupid. Why don't you try getting off as quickly as you can, for once......what is called a quickie. If she doesnt have an orgasm one time its not the end of the world.
Yeeeeeah.... one time I lost it after like 5 minutes on accident and she got super pissed. I don't think she'd ever agree to such a thing. Hell, anytime we have sex and she doesn't have an orgasm she gets all pissy...
Too much science in the process.
Perhaps, and this is one of those "this is how I operate" moments, you should try something entirely new with the effort of blowing her entirely away and just forget about yourself. By that I mean, If you go soft after a little while keep her going by similar means using finger/tongue/objects. It may keep you up if you feel like she is getting off and perhaps you'll enjoy each other a bit more if you don't feel like your penis needs to be quite involved in the entire process.
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