MichaelLC wrote: »
You are under no obligation to stay friends with anyone.
You might suggest he look into an abusive relationship support group. We don't know them, but from what you've posted here those are certainly warning signs.
Sethdaniel19 wrote: »
He says he wants to get away from her and she's a crazy b****. But i agree 100% just wanted to see someone else's view. Thankyou Enc...
ceres wrote: »
How is he meant to text her if he can't have a phone? O_o
ceres wrote: »
The thing is, it sounds really really awful, but there isn't a ton you can do except continue to invite him to things and be there to talk if he needs it. If you've talked to him and he knows, trying to push a whole lot is just going to push him away and cut him off even more from something that feels solid. Also "do something about your woman" is not language you should ever use for a whole host of reasons including possibly making him feel worse about the whole thing, once again cutting him off.That said, all of that kinda goes out the window once she's threatened the safety of a child. I don't think there's anything wrong with telling him he can call or text any time but as long as she's around you don't think your family is safe and that's the line. It also might not be a bad thing to just ask how his baby is doing once in a while. An environment like that does things to a kid, even a baby. If he doesn't think he'll get custody and he's worried about his little one's safety, he may not be willing to chance leaving, whether for the baby's safety or for the risk of never being able to see them again. That's another reason to tiptoe around this a little and let him know he can call you, you just don't feel safe hanging out. What he really needs is probably a lawyer.