Getting ghosted, still have their stuff
RoyceSraphim
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Person I have been in a relationship had some stuff go down and is now calling me less and less.
I've not spoken to them since last year.
They do not respond to my texts and phone calls.
Deciding between shipping the last of their stuff (I know I should throw it out, but that's too ghetto for me) straight to the last job I know they worked at out there or out to their parents.
I do not think they are dead but after last year's real crisis I road out there for, they just stopped talking.
So I am going to send this stuff, if I send it to their parents' place, am I obligated to send any sort of notice to the people living there?
I've not spoken to them since last year.
They do not respond to my texts and phone calls.
Deciding between shipping the last of their stuff (I know I should throw it out, but that's too ghetto for me) straight to the last job I know they worked at out there or out to their parents.
I do not think they are dead but after last year's real crisis I road out there for, they just stopped talking.
So I am going to send this stuff, if I send it to their parents' place, am I obligated to send any sort of notice to the people living there?
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yeah.
Money is no issue, but if I do not get proper communication from them, can I just start shipping the boxes to their parents' as fast as I can get them out?
If money isn't an issue I'd ship everything but the spices to the parents with a letter of explanation. If money or other factors limit that I'd ship the family items with a rough inventory of the rest and an offer to ship the rest upon request.
I'd suggest, if you have the parental contact information, maybe call them before they start receiving their offspring's personal effects via mail?
Explain that you haven't heard anything back from repeated calls, and then ask if you can start shipping the belongings to the parents?
They might say "No, and stop trying to make contact", you've done your due diligence before dumpstering the lot.
Or maybe your ex-SO has a new number and the parents can provide it? Then give them a call. If they want their stuff back, start shipping. If not, start dumpstering.
If they still don't take your calls or reply, then, IMHO, due diligence has been completed. Start dumpstering (or good willing or whatever).
Edit: The main thought in my head is wondering what my parent's reaction would have been to come home to a box of a siblings personal effects on their doorstep with no fore warning or explanation.
I can't imagine that not being a creepy feeling.
I call EOD on every suspicious package delivered to my house, drives my roommatess nuts
............fuck.
this acts as my petition to get Ringo for Secret Santa this year
if there is real important family stuff I might set that aside, but only that
that's why we call it the struggle, you're supposed to sweat
The live in opposite corners of the country now, if I recall royce's situation correctly.
In any event he mentioned that they actually responded since the original post, so hopefully things are being arranged as needed now.