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girlfriend might be pregnant, need advice
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What Have I Done?Registered User regular
What Have I Done?Registered User regular
Hey everyone, so the title pretty much says it all, here's the background.
So my girlfriend is late with her period. She has been on the pill. She went on the pill a few months before we even met for an un-related medical reason. She missed a month of the pill because her perscription ran out and she couldn't get in to see her doctor for almost 3 weeks. Now, that month, she was also late on her cycle. she went back on the pill, and 3 or 4 days later, we had sex. I was also using a condom. Now here we are, and she's late on her cycle again.
Now, her medical condition that caused her to go on the pill first was that she was very irregular with her cycle, sometimes skipping 2 or 3 months before she would have a period. But since she had been on the pill, she was regular, down to the day.
We're both kinda freaking out a bit. The chances are really, really low, but the possibility exists.
That's the story, so any words of advice would be appreciated.
I really started this thread because I'm trying to persuade her into taking a pregnancy test. She's too afraid to do it right now. I'm trying my best to tell her that it's better to know now, one way or another, then having to wait a month to see if she skips her next cycle. but she's just too afraid to take it. I'm really looking for advice on how to persuade her to take it, without making the situation worse.
So my girlfriend is late with her period. She has been on the pill. She went on the pill a few months before we even met for an un-related medical reason. She missed a month of the pill because her perscription ran out and she couldn't get in to see her doctor for almost 3 weeks. Now, that month, she was also late on her cycle. she went back on the pill, and 3 or 4 days later, we had sex. I was also using a condom. Now here we are, and she's late on her cycle again.
Now, her medical condition that caused her to go on the pill first was that she was very irregular with her cycle, sometimes skipping 2 or 3 months before she would have a period. But since she had been on the pill, she was regular, down to the day.
We're both kinda freaking out a bit. The chances are really, really low, but the possibility exists.
That's the story, so any words of advice would be appreciated.
I really started this thread because I'm trying to persuade her into taking a pregnancy test. She's too afraid to do it right now. I'm trying my best to tell her that it's better to know now, one way or another, then having to wait a month to see if she skips her next cycle. but she's just too afraid to take it. I'm really looking for advice on how to persuade her to take it, without making the situation worse.
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in all seriousness, you are probably fine, pill and condom. Just calm your girlfriend down and wait a week or two. If still nothing, then take the test.
Right, because this issue doesn't affect him at all either...
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given her past irregularity with cycles, i really don't think she's pregnant. but i do think the fact that you're both freaking out so much about it means that maybe you guys should take your foot off the gas pedal for a little bit. there might be more to her freaking out than just the possibility of being pregnant, so talk to her about it when she's ready.
I would want to know right away too, But just let things calm down for 1-2 weeks and let her relax.
Secondly, how often did she miss her pill and have to double up or how often did she go off it, then back in it?
It's a possibility her hormones got a bit wacky and she hasn't ovulated yet as a result.
Most importantly, don't pressure her into a test atm, but just be responsible with finances and everything else until you know for sure one way or the other.
Also, something I forgot to mention in the OP, is that she had a very, very stressful month. She's just finishing a 2 year college program, and had final projects and exams like mad. I know stress is a big cause of late/missed periods, so we're not ruling that out either.
Basically, there are things that add up to both sides, yes she is pregnant, or no, she is not pregnant, and that just worries us, a lot.
X5: she's been on it for 2 years, save for 4 months. 3 months she had to be off it when she had her wisdom teeth out(that was within 6 months of us dating, and we've been dating fora year and a half), and last month when her perscription ran out.
So... you have a girlfriend who has a history of late/missed periods... she was on the pill and you used a condom when you did the deed. You say she was under a great deal of stress this past month...
Seriously, just back off. Either wait until she's ready to take the test or until her next period... because things do not "add up" on both sides... you just think they do because you are freaking out.
Stop worrying. Plan for the worst. Hope for the best.
Besides that, there could be numerous reasons she's late on her period, including the aformentioned stress of a boyfriend hounding her to take a pregnancy test. Additionally, if she was off pill and went back on, her body may still be re-adjusting to the hormones again.
So, calm down and be patient, and when this all blows over ask your girlfriend to be more careful about maintaining her prescriptions.
I think I just need to hear someone else tell me the chances that she's pregnant are slim to none. Neither of us have anyone we can really confide in other than eachother right now, and she's a lot more freaked out than I am. I'm the one trying to make her feel better right now, but I've really got no one to help me out, since she's so scared.
thanks, you can leave the thread now.
What, exactly, makes you think she's pregnant, rather than just having a late period? I mean, it's possible, but since you used a condom, and she has all this other stuff going on, I would call the odds of her being pregnant "minute," at best.
Ahh... I see now. It's not you freaking out, it's her, and you are trying to push the test as a way to ease her mind. I've been there, and it sucks, because rationality doesn't always prevail in these situations. Perhaps just showing and telling her you'll be there for her no matter what, and that whatever happens you'll face it together... focus on having this make your relationship stronger, not on what you'll do if the worst happens.
But really, you might just have to wait it out.
haha, trust me, I'm freaking out too. But right now I'm the one who needs to be there for her. I know the chances are really, really small, but it exists, so I'm scared, just like anyone in my position would be. But yes, I really am just trying to get her to calm down, and not freak out so badly.
I have done all the "we're in this together, no matter what" part. We are planning on getting married, just not for a while yet, as neither of us is at a point in our lives where we are ready to be married(I'm 7 months into a career job that I'm not sure I even like, she still has a bit of schooling left). So you can imagine what the prospect of pregnancy is doing to her.
I'm just trying to make her feel as good as possible right now. And worrying about myself second.
She did just tell me that she's thinking of phoning a pharmacy and talking to a pharmacist. I consider that a small victory. hopefully she follows through.
Quite. If she's pregnant you need to get your ass to Vegas because hot damn, talk about beating the odds.
Seriously though. You've likely a better chance of getting hit by lightning, considering all those factors.
If it's still making you batty and nothing will convince you other than a pregnancy test, take heart in the fact that waiting a few days after a missed period increases the accuracy of pregnancy tests significantly. So, you know, not taking it right now isn't necessarily a bad thing.
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Probably even less than that, aren't those statistics usually based on 100 couples using that method for a year as opposed to per use?
Open up the tank on your toilet. You'll see a little chain running from a plastic piece towards the flush handle. Unhook that chain.
Now wait...
Your girlfriend will encounter a "broken" toilet and ask for your assistance. Claim the urine!
Seriously though, this is something man has been dealing with since the beginning of time. As most people have said, you have nothing to worry about. Looks like you're worked up over nothing but you'll find out eventually and, either way, it's not the end of the world.
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