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Board of Directors Election Results - 2025

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  • RichyRichy Registered User regular
    rhylith wrote: »
    Larlar wrote: »
    I demand a recount.

    No election is done properly unless it's dragged out long enough to make everyone too exhausted to care about the results.

    Poll didn’t even have Joke Option Larlar resulting in real Larlar on the board. Fake election!

    Boardy McBoardface would have won by a landslide.

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  • Judge Jessie WJudge Jessie W Registered User regular
    Larlar wrote: »
    I demand a recount.

    No election is done properly unless it's dragged out long enough to make everyone too exhausted to care about the results.

    They wouldn’t let me put joke option Larlar I’m sorry

  • -Tal-Tal Registered User regular
    smelljeffe

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  • MatevMatev Cero Miedo Registered User regular
    No thank you

    "Go down, kick ass, and set yourselves up as gods, that's our Prime Directive!"
    Hail Hydra
  • GnizmoGnizmo Registered User regular
    pooka wrote: »
    zagdrob wrote: »
    aioua wrote: »
    qwer12 wrote: »
    If people are suggesting we have two deia officers instead of just one, I don't mind that at all. Luckily we have a process for amending our governance!

    I think some good points were made in other threads that the President probably shouldn't have a board seat, I'd support an amendment to appoint a second DEIA officer to take that seat instead.

    While I don't think this is a terrible idea at all on paper, we only had two applicants for that position and only one eligible after the board elections. If we had two DEIA officer slots now, one would be empty due to lack of interest in the role.

    If the DEIA officer was chosen from 20-30 interested applicants having more than one seems reasonable, but opening it so maybe one of at most a small handful of applicants can default into another board seat seems like it's not the most productive idea.
    Asserting a lack of interest is incorrect, I think. Insufficiently advertised, perhaps.

    I had not been paying the most attention in March, and in my skim of the announcement, misunderstood the entry deadline as applying only to the direct-elect board members.

    There are people still unaware these forums are shutting down sooner than later.

    I'm not sure specifically adding another DEIA position is the right move. But it would go a ways towards restoring faith in Coin Return as a safe space by tangibly prioritizing minority voices plural rather than hoping that one person offers the right kind of intersectionality to overcome any blind spots.

    (That said, Gnizmo seems an excellent candidate, especially if there is only one.)

    I will say that I don't disagree with you. I have a very big task in my shoulders and I am very happy to be able to laser focus my efforts on the needs of the people who often have the quietest voices in the room. That will necessarily mean doing my best to listen and put in a lot of work. Anyone who wants to reach out is always welcome there too. I won't promise to always agree, but I will promise to always put your concerns in the best light I can.

    I think you are right we need to work to restore faith on a lot of levels. The board selection itself fills me with joy. We have a lot of people who could have qualified for the DEIA position who went through a much more harrowing experience than I have to get there. We have a lot of valuable voices. It looks like we will have a majority queer board, and a barely minority femme presenting board. I am so encouraged by that! I think it is a great statement of intent about where the forums want us to go even if I think we have a lot more work to do to get there than others.

    That said I will also be trying to go out to whatever Discords/IRCs/Signal or whatever else will have me as well to make it as easy as possible to direct concerns, and have a conversation with me in the safest space possible for the person. It will be a lot of work on my end but I volunteered for it. I want to do it. I want to make this place better. So please tell me what I can do and I will listen to the best of my ability.

  • HardtargetHardtarget There Are Four Lights VancouverRegistered User regular
    That slogan has been extensively discussed, including that there's no good answers. Gniz has given some very thoughtful insights into it, and i support her take. If you're worried about Jewish representation, she's also Jewish to boot!
    That's cool, I'm glad that a Jewish person is happy and can speak for all Jews on CoRe, that's how representation works right? :tongue:

    Anyways, this is a democratic process and frankly the response in this thread is pretty messed up. You may not like the results, but as has been said multiple times before, most people on the forums have NO IDEA anything has happened or that these conversations about specific people are an issue for some folks. It's wild to me people will say things like FUCK THIS ENTIRE GROUP OF PEOPLE WHO VOTED THIS WAY, again, most people have NO IDEA.

    Congrats to all the winners, I'm hoping for some good leadership at CoRe.

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  • HoukHouk Nipples The EchidnaRegistered User regular
    edited April 9
    Hardtarget wrote: »
    That slogan has been extensively discussed, including that there's no good answers. Gniz has given some very thoughtful insights into it, and i support her take. If you're worried about Jewish representation, she's also Jewish to boot!
    That's cool, I'm glad that a Jewish person is happy and can speak for all Jews on CoRe, that's how representation works right? :tongue:

    Anyways, this is a democratic process and frankly the response in this thread is pretty messed up. You may not like the results, but as has been said multiple times before, most people on the forums have NO IDEA anything has happened or that these conversations about specific people are an issue for some folks. It's wild to me people will say things like FUCK THIS ENTIRE GROUP OF PEOPLE WHO VOTED THIS WAY, again, most people have NO IDEA.

    Congrats to all the winners, I'm hoping for some good leadership at CoRe.

    kinda weird you'd take issue with people's response to this process immediately after a snarky, sarcastic, shit-stirring drive-by response to part of this process that you apparently didn't like

    Houk on
  • HardtargetHardtarget There Are Four Lights VancouverRegistered User regular
    edited April 9
    Houk wrote: »
    Hardtarget wrote: »
    That slogan has been extensively discussed, including that there's no good answers. Gniz has given some very thoughtful insights into it, and i support her take. If you're worried about Jewish representation, she's also Jewish to boot!
    That's cool, I'm glad that a Jewish person is happy and can speak for all Jews on CoRe, that's how representation works right? :tongue:

    Anyways, this is a democratic process and frankly the response in this thread is pretty messed up. You may not like the results, but as has been said multiple times before, most people on the forums have NO IDEA anything has happened or that these conversations about specific people are an issue for some folks. It's wild to me people will say things like FUCK THIS ENTIRE GROUP OF PEOPLE WHO VOTED THIS WAY, again, most people have NO IDEA.

    Congrats to all the winners, I'm hoping for some good leadership at CoRe.

    kinda weird you'd take issue with people's response to this process immediately after a snarky, sarcastic, shit-stirring drive-by response to part of this process that you apparently didn't like

    sure but I'm actually involved and know about it, you'll note I didn't have any issues with the election itself but on a personal level i think a specific mod/admin decision is wrong so I'm being snarky about it
    edit - also my snarky comment has nothing to do with this process so..?

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  • CalicaCalica Registered User regular
    edited April 9
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations tynic ElJeffe "Raijin Quickfoot" Tef ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (@syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    Calica on
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  • CalicaCalica Registered User regular
    edited April 9
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations tynic ElJeffe "Raijin Quickfoot" Tef ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol. (Which makes sense, because I don't like to spend time in threads where people are yelling at each other. Not my circus, etc.)

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side. Whatever that is.

    edit: removed batsignals, sorry everyone

    Calica on
  • Space PickleSpace Pickle Registered User regular
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (@syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    Honestly I don't know either, what I gather is that maybe some of us straight/white posters don't always understand the ways in which we can be unintentionally hurtful to marginalized people. So we might think we're asking a perfectly innocuous question or making a very reasonable, in-bounds comment, but we aren't aware of the hurt we're causing. We do this enough times and the other party flips out and gets themselves banned, and we don't realize what we've done.

    There appear to be some smaller issues like I think people feel strongly about retaining the SE++ style of a random board with topical megathreads, but I think this is the biggest issue.

  • Speed RacerSpeed Racer Scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratchRegistered User regular
    edited April 9
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol.

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side.

    People have not been vague about it at all. These threads have moved fast so I understand if you missed things but there have been extensive discussions about this

    It is difficult to summarize everything but if I was going to boil it down:

    -the mod forum thing. This matters more to some people than others; it matters to me! He lied to us and others lied to us on his behalf. I don't know why anyone would trust him with anything at all after that.

    -lanz posted a very long and detailed accounting of how, in her view, jeffe targeted her and harassed her for years under the cover of just enforcing the rules. Maybe you believe her, maybe you don't (I do), but the charge being levied against him is in essence that he will find a way to abuse whatever authority he is granted and will launder it under just being an aw shucks just trying to do my best I'm kinda the forum dad shtick

    -more generally, many, many people have talked about how they feel dnd has fostered a toxic culture, where bad faith actors and assholes can run roughsgod over people as long as they use the right tone/hold the right opinions/are friends with the right people. There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as one example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences. Jeffe is not solely responsible for this, however, as a very active and very long-running dnd mod, people who assert that dnd is toxic put a significant portion of the blame on him for not doing a better job moderating it.

    You can agree with those assessments or not but that is the long and short of it

    Speed Racer on
  • ChicoBlueChicoBlue Registered User regular
    edited April 9
    ChicoBlue was warned for this.
    I know that there's currently a lot of contention about whether or not public discords are a "part of the forum" as it were and if they should be included in board/moderator considerations, but I do have a receipt that I'm sorry for not releasing earlier. I've blurred out the names so as not to distinctly target anyone at this time, and if people think that it is pertinent enough, I'll unblur it.

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    Hahnsoo1 on
  • CalicaCalica Registered User regular
    edited April 9
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations tynic ElJeffe "Raijin Quickfoot" Tef ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    Honestly I don't know either, what I gather is that maybe some of us straight/white posters don't always understand the ways in which we can be unintentionally hurtful to marginalized people. So we might think we're asking a perfectly innocuous question or making a very reasonable, in-bounds comment, but we aren't aware of the hurt we're causing. We do this enough times and the other party flips out and gets themselves banned, and we don't realize what we've done.

    There appear to be some smaller issues like I think people feel strongly about retaining the SE++ style of a random board with topical megathreads, but I think this is the biggest issue.

    Is that what people mean when they say minorities get bullied off the forums?

    I've said some unintentionally hurtful things, and the people who were hurt pointed that out to me - like adults - and I apologized, and we all moved on, as far as I could tell.

    I can and will take responsibility for hurting people, but only if I know I've done it. I do not think this is unreasonable.

    (edit: I know it's not about me; I'm just using my own experience as an example because that's what I've got)

    Calica on
  • KnightKnight Dead Dead Dead Registered User regular
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (@syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    Honestly I don't know either, what I gather is that maybe some of us straight/white posters don't always understand the ways in which we can be unintentionally hurtful to marginalized people. So we might think we're asking a perfectly innocuous question or making a very reasonable, in-bounds comment, but we aren't aware of the hurt we're causing. We do this enough times and the other party flips out and gets themselves banned, and we don't realize what we've done.

    then perhaps we should listen to them instead of elevating their abusers.

    alas.

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  • HoukHouk Nipples The EchidnaRegistered User regular
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (@syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    Honestly I don't know either, what I gather is that maybe some of us straight/white posters don't always understand the ways in which we can be unintentionally hurtful to marginalized people. So we might think we're asking a perfectly innocuous question or making a very reasonable, in-bounds comment, but we aren't aware of the hurt we're causing. We do this enough times and the other party flips out and gets themselves banned, and we don't realize what we've done.

    There appear to be some smaller issues like I think people feel strongly about retaining the SE++ style of a random board with topical megathreads, but I think this is the biggest issue.

    I'm willing to maybe grant you an element of "aw shucks I'm just a well-meaning straight white cis guy, I didn't mean no harm" if you're willing to grant there's also an element of "I know exactly what I'm doing and when called on it I'm going to hide behind the evergreen 'aw shucks' defense"

    like it's undeniable that there are people on this forum who weaponize their privilege specifically to target and push away already marginalized folks

  • HoukHouk Nipples The EchidnaRegistered User regular
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations tynic ElJeffe "Raijin Quickfoot" Tef ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    Honestly I don't know either, what I gather is that maybe some of us straight/white posters don't always understand the ways in which we can be unintentionally hurtful to marginalized people. So we might think we're asking a perfectly innocuous question or making a very reasonable, in-bounds comment, but we aren't aware of the hurt we're causing. We do this enough times and the other party flips out and gets themselves banned, and we don't realize what we've done.

    There appear to be some smaller issues like I think people feel strongly about retaining the SE++ style of a random board with topical megathreads, but I think this is the biggest issue.

    Is that what people mean when they say minorities get bullied off the forums?

    I've said some unintentionally hurtful things, and the people who were hurt pointed that out to me - like adults - and I apologized, and we all moved on, as far as I could tell.

    I can and will take responsibility for hurting people, but only if I know I've done it. I do not think this is unreasonable.

    (edit: I know it's not about me; I'm just using my own experience as an example because that's what I've got)

    we're specifically upset about a person who was in a position of power and did not take responsibility for hurting people, over and over, despite them being told how they were hurting people, over and over

    like, that's kind of the crux of the whole thing

  • Space PickleSpace Pickle Registered User regular
    Houk wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (@syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    Honestly I don't know either, what I gather is that maybe some of us straight/white posters don't always understand the ways in which we can be unintentionally hurtful to marginalized people. So we might think we're asking a perfectly innocuous question or making a very reasonable, in-bounds comment, but we aren't aware of the hurt we're causing. We do this enough times and the other party flips out and gets themselves banned, and we don't realize what we've done.

    There appear to be some smaller issues like I think people feel strongly about retaining the SE++ style of a random board with topical megathreads, but I think this is the biggest issue.

    I'm willing to maybe grant you an element of "aw shucks I'm just a well-meaning straight white cis guy, I didn't mean no harm" if you're willing to grant there's also an element of "I know exactly what I'm doing and when called on it I'm going to hide behind the evergreen 'aw shucks' defense"

    like it's undeniable that there are people on this forum who weaponize their privilege specifically to target and push away already marginalized folks

    I don't disupte this. I usually check out of political threads when they turn angry so I can't speak to any of it personally. I'm trying to say that if you haven't been educated on equity issues there are a lot of ways to get it wrong.

  • HoukHouk Nipples The EchidnaRegistered User regular
    Houk wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (@syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    Honestly I don't know either, what I gather is that maybe some of us straight/white posters don't always understand the ways in which we can be unintentionally hurtful to marginalized people. So we might think we're asking a perfectly innocuous question or making a very reasonable, in-bounds comment, but we aren't aware of the hurt we're causing. We do this enough times and the other party flips out and gets themselves banned, and we don't realize what we've done.

    There appear to be some smaller issues like I think people feel strongly about retaining the SE++ style of a random board with topical megathreads, but I think this is the biggest issue.

    I'm willing to maybe grant you an element of "aw shucks I'm just a well-meaning straight white cis guy, I didn't mean no harm" if you're willing to grant there's also an element of "I know exactly what I'm doing and when called on it I'm going to hide behind the evergreen 'aw shucks' defense"

    like it's undeniable that there are people on this forum who weaponize their privilege specifically to target and push away already marginalized folks

    I don't disupte this. I usually check out of political threads when they turn angry so I can't speak to any of it personally. I'm trying to say that if you haven't been educated on equity issues there are a lot of ways to get it wrong.

    you're not wrong in a vacuum but we're all adults here, none of us are rowdy teens who just don't have the life experience to know what the issues at play are. the longer you've (royal you) been around any part of these forums the harder it is for me to believe that you just aren't aware these issues exist. at some point it's also your responsibility to be pro-active and take at least a couple steps into the world outside yourself

  • Phoenix-DPhoenix-D Registered User regular
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol.

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side.

    People have not been vague about it at all. These threads have moved fast so I understand if you missed things but there have been extensive discussions about this

    It is difficult to summarize everything but if I was going to boil it down:

    -the mod forum thing. This matters more to some people than others; it matters to me! He lied to us and others lied to us on his behalf. I don't know why anyone would trust him with anything at all after that.

    -lanz posted a very long and detailed accounting of how, in her view, jeffe targeted her and harassed her for years under the cover of just enforcing the rules. Maybe you believe her, maybe you don't (I do), but the charge being levied against him is in essence that he will find a way to abuse whatever authority he is granted and will launder it under just being an aw shucks just trying to do my best I'm kinda the forum dad shtick

    -more generally, many, many people have talked about how they feel dnd has fostered a toxic culture, where bad faith actors and assholes can run roughsgod over people as long as they use the right tone/hold the right opinions/are friends with the right people. There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as o[/i]ne example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences. Jeffe is not solely responsible for this, however, as a very active and very long-running dnd mod, people who assert that dnd is toxic put a significant portion of the blame on him for not doing a better job moderating it.

    You can agree with those assessments or not but that is the long and short of it

    The bit here about having empathy and respecting lived experiences is kind of funny, because you're not doing that *at all* in this post. Specifically, you're ignoring why some of us had concerns about that rule to pretend we're all toxic assholes. Here's a quote of one of the posts talking about the *actual* concern a lot of us had:
    The issue is how quickly people are dismissive of "minorities who don't agree with my political opinions"

    We had a Jewish poster show up and talk about, for like the 10th time, how uncomfortable certain actions on this forum are making them. They were told by another poster that they don't represent the majority of views of their minority and that their feelings of discomfort are incorrect. Their issues have been discussed and settled! No use doing it any further. They were condescended to, it flagrantly broke the spirit of rule 5, but a significant chunk of the people defending rule 5 agreed with the post dismissing that minority poster's views immediately because they did not fall within an anarcho-socialist political view. We've had a trans poster do the same thing -- they were just ignored for having a political opinion that is inconvenient for the discussion being had. We've had a poster say that "preserving the culture of D&D" is all about protecting cishet white middle aged men, while someone who just said they are not a cishet white middle aged man spoke up to say that they actually really like the culture of D&D as it is.

    I....don't know how to square this one. It really really looks like we're picking and choosing which minorities "count" based on how much their political opinion jives with a leftist perspective and it directly goes against listening to the lived experiences of a ton of underprivileged people.

    If someone is being openly transphobic, racist, whatever, yeah man ban the hell out of them regardless of their status as a minority group or not. But there's been a lot of dismissing the views of underprivileged people who aren't doing that (exclusively when their views do not conveniently fit a leftist political framework but are still left of center) and it's weird seeing so many people be comfortable with that while openly advocating for a rule that specifically prohibits that.

  • Speed RacerSpeed Racer Scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratchRegistered User regular
    edited April 9
    Yeah I'm not relitigating this, i was around for the first bout of discussion and it was fucking gross

    Speed Racer on
  • Romanian My EscutcheonRomanian My Escutcheon Two of Forks Registered User regular
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol.

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side.

    People have not been vague about it at all. These threads have moved fast so I understand if you missed things but there have been extensive discussions about this

    It is difficult to summarize everything but if I was going to boil it down:

    -the mod forum thing. This matters more to some people than others; it matters to me! He lied to us and others lied to us on his behalf. I don't know why anyone would trust him with anything at all after that.

    -lanz posted a very long and detailed accounting of how, in her view, jeffe targeted her and harassed her for years under the cover of just enforcing the rules. Maybe you believe her, maybe you don't (I do), but the charge being levied against him is in essence that he will find a way to abuse whatever authority he is granted and will launder it under just being an aw shucks just trying to do my best I'm kinda the forum dad shtick

    -more generally, many, many people have talked about how they feel dnd has fostered a toxic culture, where bad faith actors and assholes can run roughsgod over people as long as they use the right tone/hold the right opinions/are friends with the right people. There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as o[/i]ne example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences. Jeffe is not solely responsible for this, however, as a very active and very long-running dnd mod, people who assert that dnd is toxic put a significant portion of the blame on him for not doing a better job moderating it.

    You can agree with those assessments or not but that is the long and short of it

    The bit here about having empathy and respecting lived experiences is kind of funny, because you're not doing that *at all* in this post. Specifically, you're ignoring why some of us had concerns about that rule to pretend we're all toxic assholes. Here's a quote of one of the posts talking about the *actual* concern a lot of us had:
    The issue is how quickly people are dismissive of "minorities who don't agree with my political opinions"

    We had a Jewish poster show up and talk about, for like the 10th time, how uncomfortable certain actions on this forum are making them. They were told by another poster that they don't represent the majority of views of their minority and that their feelings of discomfort are incorrect. Their issues have been discussed and settled! No use doing it any further. They were condescended to, it flagrantly broke the spirit of rule 5, but a significant chunk of the people defending rule 5 agreed with the post dismissing that minority poster's views immediately because they did not fall within an anarcho-socialist political view. We've had a trans poster do the same thing -- they were just ignored for having a political opinion that is inconvenient for the discussion being had. We've had a poster say that "preserving the culture of D&D" is all about protecting cishet white middle aged men, while someone who just said they are not a cishet white middle aged man spoke up to say that they actually really like the culture of D&D as it is.

    I....don't know how to square this one. It really really looks like we're picking and choosing which minorities "count" based on how much their political opinion jives with a leftist perspective and it directly goes against listening to the lived experiences of a ton of underprivileged people.

    If someone is being openly transphobic, racist, whatever, yeah man ban the hell out of them regardless of their status as a minority group or not. But there's been a lot of dismissing the views of underprivileged people who aren't doing that (exclusively when their views do not conveniently fit a leftist political framework but are still left of center) and it's weird seeing so many people be comfortable with that while openly advocating for a rule that specifically prohibits that.

    So are you just going to keep talking past Lanz' documented history of being abused and harassed by Jeffe while you cherry pick examples that support your completely disingenuous argument?

    Because seriously, it's cited right there in the post Speed made that you're chastising him for while conveniently talking past the available evidence that Jeffe engaged in abusive behavior against a community member he disliked, among all of the other patently disqualifying actions he took.

    Then again, I can see how tacitly acknowledging that you're defending a known harasser and abuser would be devastating to your attempt to grasp at straws to disregard the credible record of his victim.

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  • Phoenix-DPhoenix-D Registered User regular
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol.

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side.

    People have not been vague about it at all. These threads have moved fast so I understand if you missed things but there have been extensive discussions about this

    It is difficult to summarize everything but if I was going to boil it down:

    -the mod forum thing. This matters more to some people than others; it matters to me! He lied to us and others lied to us on his behalf. I don't know why anyone would trust him with anything at all after that.

    -lanz posted a very long and detailed accounting of how, in her view, jeffe targeted her and harassed her for years under the cover of just enforcing the rules. Maybe you believe her, maybe you don't (I do), but the charge being levied against him is in essence that he will find a way to abuse whatever authority he is granted and will launder it under just being an aw shucks just trying to do my best I'm kinda the forum dad shtick

    -more generally, many, many people have talked about how they feel dnd has fostered a toxic culture, where bad faith actors and assholes can run roughsgod over people as long as they use the right tone/hold the right opinions/are friends with the right people. There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as o[/i]ne example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences. Jeffe is not solely responsible for this, however, as a very active and very long-running dnd mod, people who assert that dnd is toxic put a significant portion of the blame on him for not doing a better job moderating it.

    You can agree with those assessments or not but that is the long and short of it

    The bit here about having empathy and respecting lived experiences is kind of funny, because you're not doing that *at all* in this post. Specifically, you're ignoring why some of us had concerns about that rule to pretend we're all toxic assholes. Here's a quote of one of the posts talking about the *actual* concern a lot of us had:
    The issue is how quickly people are dismissive of "minorities who don't agree with my political opinions"

    We had a Jewish poster show up and talk about, for like the 10th time, how uncomfortable certain actions on this forum are making them. They were told by another poster that they don't represent the majority of views of their minority and that their feelings of discomfort are incorrect. Their issues have been discussed and settled! No use doing it any further. They were condescended to, it flagrantly broke the spirit of rule 5, but a significant chunk of the people defending rule 5 agreed with the post dismissing that minority poster's views immediately because they did not fall within an anarcho-socialist political view. We've had a trans poster do the same thing -- they were just ignored for having a political opinion that is inconvenient for the discussion being had. We've had a poster say that "preserving the culture of D&D" is all about protecting cishet white middle aged men, while someone who just said they are not a cishet white middle aged man spoke up to say that they actually really like the culture of D&D as it is.

    I....don't know how to square this one. It really really looks like we're picking and choosing which minorities "count" based on how much their political opinion jives with a leftist perspective and it directly goes against listening to the lived experiences of a ton of underprivileged people.

    If someone is being openly transphobic, racist, whatever, yeah man ban the hell out of them regardless of their status as a minority group or not. But there's been a lot of dismissing the views of underprivileged people who aren't doing that (exclusively when their views do not conveniently fit a leftist political framework but are still left of center) and it's weird seeing so many people be comfortable with that while openly advocating for a rule that specifically prohibits that.

    So are you just going to keep talking past Lanz' documented history of being abused and harassed by Jeffe while you cherry pick examples that support your completely disingenuous argument?

    Because seriously, it's cited right there in the post Speed made that you're chastising him for while conveniently talking past the available evidence that Jeffe engaged in abusive behavior against a community member he disliked, among all of the other patently disqualifying actions he took.

    Then again, I can see how tacitly acknowledging that you're defending a known harasser and abuser would be devastating to your attempt to grasp at straws to disregard the credible record of his victim.

    Here's that famous SE empathy and respect folks! If a post misrepresents you and *also* mentions ElJeffe, you aren't allowed to respond the part of it that misrepresents you.

  • discriderdiscrider Registered User regular
    rhylith wrote: »
    I do think a lot of people panic voted early because of the technical issues on the forum that first day. I know I did. While I do not regret my choices the Q&A definitely could have shuffled some rankings around slightly and bumped one candidate up a lot.

    I also thought I understood how STV worked but seeing it in action I don’t have a great feel for how my choices after #1 were distributed. Might prefer something more like ranked choice in the future because it’s easier to parse, but we can cross that bridge in three years.

    I am profoundly disappointed that some folks thought Jeffe was a good choice for the long term health of the new forum with how contentious he is and how many people have felt wronged by him.

    I am glad that two of my top 5 made it in (I posted who I picked you can look it up I ain’t ashamed) and especially glad that Tynic won the first vote outright by about ten miles.

    It gets a bit complex.

    Say you vote, and your preferences are:
    #1 A
    #2 B
    #3 C

    And say the candidates need 100 votes to win, but the final results are something like:
    A - 200 votes
    B - 150 votes
    C - 100 votes
    (other candidates also received votes, but that is not important here)

    With the system of STV that was selected (Meek system?), candidates that have more than 100 votes overflow to the next candidate based on how many votes they needed to win.

    As A only needed 100, but got 200 votes, they keep 50% of your vote, and 50% of your vote flows onto your next candidate.
    Then B only needed 100 votes, but got 150 votes, so they keep 100/150 => 66% of your remaining vote, and the rest flows onto the next candidate.

    So from what I understand, at the end your single vote looks like:

    A - 1/2 a vote.
    B - 1/3 = (1/2*2/3) a vote.
    C - 1/6 = (1/2*1/3) a vote.
    Your vote flowed on, until all your vote was distributed.
    Or until you stopped listing candidates on your ballot, or until the number of candidates left in contention matched the number of vacant positions.

    These fractions are updated every time a candidate overflows past the number of votes needed to win the election, and these are shown in the graphs in the OP as decimal fractions against the winning candidates.

  • Romanian My EscutcheonRomanian My Escutcheon Two of Forks Registered User regular
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol.

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side.

    People have not been vague about it at all. These threads have moved fast so I understand if you missed things but there have been extensive discussions about this

    It is difficult to summarize everything but if I was going to boil it down:

    -the mod forum thing. This matters more to some people than others; it matters to me! He lied to us and others lied to us on his behalf. I don't know why anyone would trust him with anything at all after that.

    -lanz posted a very long and detailed accounting of how, in her view, jeffe targeted her and harassed her for years under the cover of just enforcing the rules. Maybe you believe her, maybe you don't (I do), but the charge being levied against him is in essence that he will find a way to abuse whatever authority he is granted and will launder it under just being an aw shucks just trying to do my best I'm kinda the forum dad shtick

    -more generally, many, many people have talked about how they feel dnd has fostered a toxic culture, where bad faith actors and assholes can run roughsgod over people as long as they use the right tone/hold the right opinions/are friends with the right people. There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as o[/i]ne example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences. Jeffe is not solely responsible for this, however, as a very active and very long-running dnd mod, people who assert that dnd is toxic put a significant portion of the blame on him for not doing a better job moderating it.

    You can agree with those assessments or not but that is the long and short of it

    The bit here about having empathy and respecting lived experiences is kind of funny, because you're not doing that *at all* in this post. Specifically, you're ignoring why some of us had concerns about that rule to pretend we're all toxic assholes. Here's a quote of one of the posts talking about the *actual* concern a lot of us had:
    The issue is how quickly people are dismissive of "minorities who don't agree with my political opinions"

    We had a Jewish poster show up and talk about, for like the 10th time, how uncomfortable certain actions on this forum are making them. They were told by another poster that they don't represent the majority of views of their minority and that their feelings of discomfort are incorrect. Their issues have been discussed and settled! No use doing it any further. They were condescended to, it flagrantly broke the spirit of rule 5, but a significant chunk of the people defending rule 5 agreed with the post dismissing that minority poster's views immediately because they did not fall within an anarcho-socialist political view. We've had a trans poster do the same thing -- they were just ignored for having a political opinion that is inconvenient for the discussion being had. We've had a poster say that "preserving the culture of D&D" is all about protecting cishet white middle aged men, while someone who just said they are not a cishet white middle aged man spoke up to say that they actually really like the culture of D&D as it is.

    I....don't know how to square this one. It really really looks like we're picking and choosing which minorities "count" based on how much their political opinion jives with a leftist perspective and it directly goes against listening to the lived experiences of a ton of underprivileged people.

    If someone is being openly transphobic, racist, whatever, yeah man ban the hell out of them regardless of their status as a minority group or not. But there's been a lot of dismissing the views of underprivileged people who aren't doing that (exclusively when their views do not conveniently fit a leftist political framework but are still left of center) and it's weird seeing so many people be comfortable with that while openly advocating for a rule that specifically prohibits that.

    So are you just going to keep talking past Lanz' documented history of being abused and harassed by Jeffe while you cherry pick examples that support your completely disingenuous argument?

    Because seriously, it's cited right there in the post Speed made that you're chastising him for while conveniently talking past the available evidence that Jeffe engaged in abusive behavior against a community member he disliked, among all of the other patently disqualifying actions he took.

    Then again, I can see how tacitly acknowledging that you're defending a known harasser and abuser would be devastating to your attempt to grasp at straws to disregard the credible record of his victim.

    Here's that famous SE empathy and respect folks! If a post misrepresents you and *also* mentions ElJeffe, you aren't allowed to respond the part of it that misrepresents you.

    You know, the weird thing is you could actually respond to both points being made.

    Unless you actually don't want to disavow abuses of power and targeted campaigns of harassment that caused significant emotional harm to another member of the community because you think it's more important to defend an abuser.

    That would be pretty fucked up, though I guess based on some of the aforementioned grasping at straws that has gone on, there are members of this community who don't think serial abuse is a problem if a guy they like is the one doing it.

    Also: SE empathy and respect? I thought we all voted to tear those boundaries down in the interest of creating a more harmonious community. When you say things like that, it makes me think maybe you aren't taking that whole "blank slate" request super seriously. I'm very surprised by that. Completely.

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  • Phoenix-DPhoenix-D Registered User regular
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol.

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side.

    People have not been vague about it at all. These threads have moved fast so I understand if you missed things but there have been extensive discussions about this

    It is difficult to summarize everything but if I was going to boil it down:

    -the mod forum thing. This matters more to some people than others; it matters to me! He lied to us and others lied to us on his behalf. I don't know why anyone would trust him with anything at all after that.

    -lanz posted a very long and detailed accounting of how, in her view, jeffe targeted her and harassed her for years under the cover of just enforcing the rules. Maybe you believe her, maybe you don't (I do), but the charge being levied against him is in essence that he will find a way to abuse whatever authority he is granted and will launder it under just being an aw shucks just trying to do my best I'm kinda the forum dad shtick

    -more generally, many, many people have talked about how they feel dnd has fostered a toxic culture, where bad faith actors and assholes can run roughsgod over people as long as they use the right tone/hold the right opinions/are friends with the right people. There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as o[/i]ne example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences. Jeffe is not solely responsible for this, however, as a very active and very long-running dnd mod, people who assert that dnd is toxic put a significant portion of the blame on him for not doing a better job moderating it.

    You can agree with those assessments or not but that is the long and short of it

    The bit here about having empathy and respecting lived experiences is kind of funny, because you're not doing that *at all* in this post. Specifically, you're ignoring why some of us had concerns about that rule to pretend we're all toxic assholes. Here's a quote of one of the posts talking about the *actual* concern a lot of us had:
    The issue is how quickly people are dismissive of "minorities who don't agree with my political opinions"

    We had a Jewish poster show up and talk about, for like the 10th time, how uncomfortable certain actions on this forum are making them. They were told by another poster that they don't represent the majority of views of their minority and that their feelings of discomfort are incorrect. Their issues have been discussed and settled! No use doing it any further. They were condescended to, it flagrantly broke the spirit of rule 5, but a significant chunk of the people defending rule 5 agreed with the post dismissing that minority poster's views immediately because they did not fall within an anarcho-socialist political view. We've had a trans poster do the same thing -- they were just ignored for having a political opinion that is inconvenient for the discussion being had. We've had a poster say that "preserving the culture of D&D" is all about protecting cishet white middle aged men, while someone who just said they are not a cishet white middle aged man spoke up to say that they actually really like the culture of D&D as it is.

    I....don't know how to square this one. It really really looks like we're picking and choosing which minorities "count" based on how much their political opinion jives with a leftist perspective and it directly goes against listening to the lived experiences of a ton of underprivileged people.

    If someone is being openly transphobic, racist, whatever, yeah man ban the hell out of them regardless of their status as a minority group or not. But there's been a lot of dismissing the views of underprivileged people who aren't doing that (exclusively when their views do not conveniently fit a leftist political framework but are still left of center) and it's weird seeing so many people be comfortable with that while openly advocating for a rule that specifically prohibits that.

    So are you just going to keep talking past Lanz' documented history of being abused and harassed by Jeffe while you cherry pick examples that support your completely disingenuous argument?

    Because seriously, it's cited right there in the post Speed made that you're chastising him for while conveniently talking past the available evidence that Jeffe engaged in abusive behavior against a community member he disliked, among all of the other patently disqualifying actions he took.

    Then again, I can see how tacitly acknowledging that you're defending a known harasser and abuser would be devastating to your attempt to grasp at straws to disregard the credible record of his victim.

    Here's that famous SE empathy and respect folks! If a post misrepresents you and *also* mentions ElJeffe, you aren't allowed to respond the part of it that misrepresents you.

    You know, the weird thing is you could actually respond to both points being made.

    Unless you actually don't want to disavow abuses of power and targeted campaigns of harassment that caused significant emotional harm to another member of the community because you think it's more important to defend an abuser.

    That would be pretty fucked up, though I guess based on some of the aforementioned grasping at straws that has gone on, there are members of this community who don't think serial abuse is a problem if a guy they like is the one doing it.

    Also: SE empathy and respect? I thought we all voted to tear those boundaries down in the interest of creating a more harmonious community. When you say things like that, it makes me think maybe you aren't taking that whole "blank slate" request super seriously. I'm very surprised by that. Completely.

    I'm responding to a thread that makes D&D out to be The problem in the community and you're surprised I'm talking about SE people. Well, "surprised", considering you're mostly just talking to the post you made up in your head.

  • Romanian My EscutcheonRomanian My Escutcheon Two of Forks Registered User regular
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol.

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side.

    People have not been vague about it at all. These threads have moved fast so I understand if you missed things but there have been extensive discussions about this

    It is difficult to summarize everything but if I was going to boil it down:

    -the mod forum thing. This matters more to some people than others; it matters to me! He lied to us and others lied to us on his behalf. I don't know why anyone would trust him with anything at all after that.

    -lanz posted a very long and detailed accounting of how, in her view, jeffe targeted her and harassed her for years under the cover of just enforcing the rules. Maybe you believe her, maybe you don't (I do), but the charge being levied against him is in essence that he will find a way to abuse whatever authority he is granted and will launder it under just being an aw shucks just trying to do my best I'm kinda the forum dad shtick

    -more generally, many, many people have talked about how they feel dnd has fostered a toxic culture, where bad faith actors and assholes can run roughsgod over people as long as they use the right tone/hold the right opinions/are friends with the right people. There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as o[/i]ne example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences. Jeffe is not solely responsible for this, however, as a very active and very long-running dnd mod, people who assert that dnd is toxic put a significant portion of the blame on him for not doing a better job moderating it.

    You can agree with those assessments or not but that is the long and short of it

    The bit here about having empathy and respecting lived experiences is kind of funny, because you're not doing that *at all* in this post. Specifically, you're ignoring why some of us had concerns about that rule to pretend we're all toxic assholes. Here's a quote of one of the posts talking about the *actual* concern a lot of us had:
    The issue is how quickly people are dismissive of "minorities who don't agree with my political opinions"

    We had a Jewish poster show up and talk about, for like the 10th time, how uncomfortable certain actions on this forum are making them. They were told by another poster that they don't represent the majority of views of their minority and that their feelings of discomfort are incorrect. Their issues have been discussed and settled! No use doing it any further. They were condescended to, it flagrantly broke the spirit of rule 5, but a significant chunk of the people defending rule 5 agreed with the post dismissing that minority poster's views immediately because they did not fall within an anarcho-socialist political view. We've had a trans poster do the same thing -- they were just ignored for having a political opinion that is inconvenient for the discussion being had. We've had a poster say that "preserving the culture of D&D" is all about protecting cishet white middle aged men, while someone who just said they are not a cishet white middle aged man spoke up to say that they actually really like the culture of D&D as it is.

    I....don't know how to square this one. It really really looks like we're picking and choosing which minorities "count" based on how much their political opinion jives with a leftist perspective and it directly goes against listening to the lived experiences of a ton of underprivileged people.

    If someone is being openly transphobic, racist, whatever, yeah man ban the hell out of them regardless of their status as a minority group or not. But there's been a lot of dismissing the views of underprivileged people who aren't doing that (exclusively when their views do not conveniently fit a leftist political framework but are still left of center) and it's weird seeing so many people be comfortable with that while openly advocating for a rule that specifically prohibits that.

    So are you just going to keep talking past Lanz' documented history of being abused and harassed by Jeffe while you cherry pick examples that support your completely disingenuous argument?

    Because seriously, it's cited right there in the post Speed made that you're chastising him for while conveniently talking past the available evidence that Jeffe engaged in abusive behavior against a community member he disliked, among all of the other patently disqualifying actions he took.

    Then again, I can see how tacitly acknowledging that you're defending a known harasser and abuser would be devastating to your attempt to grasp at straws to disregard the credible record of his victim.

    Here's that famous SE empathy and respect folks! If a post misrepresents you and *also* mentions ElJeffe, you aren't allowed to respond the part of it that misrepresents you.

    You know, the weird thing is you could actually respond to both points being made.

    Unless you actually don't want to disavow abuses of power and targeted campaigns of harassment that caused significant emotional harm to another member of the community because you think it's more important to defend an abuser.

    That would be pretty fucked up, though I guess based on some of the aforementioned grasping at straws that has gone on, there are members of this community who don't think serial abuse is a problem if a guy they like is the one doing it.

    Also: SE empathy and respect? I thought we all voted to tear those boundaries down in the interest of creating a more harmonious community. When you say things like that, it makes me think maybe you aren't taking that whole "blank slate" request super seriously. I'm very surprised by that. Completely.

    I'm responding to a thread that makes D&D out to be The problem in the community and you're surprised I'm talking about SE people. Well, "surprised", considering you're mostly just talking to the post you made up in your head.

    Nobody said D&D is the problem. People were (justifiably upset, IMO) that Jeffe got votes at all in spite of his documented history of abuse and malfeasance as a moderator and supposed community leader.

    It's rich you're accusing me of talking to a post I made up when you're the one who immediately leapt to "See, see, it's the SE++ people being mean to D&D again!!!" in a complete void of any statement to that effect.

    I would recommend examining that instinct. Though probably after you actually interrogate why it's so important to you to keep going to bat for Jeffe when he can't even defend himself or answer basic questions about his conduct.

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  • Phoenix-DPhoenix-D Registered User regular
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol.

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side.

    People have not been vague about it at all. These threads have moved fast so I understand if you missed things but there have been extensive discussions about this

    It is difficult to summarize everything but if I was going to boil it down:

    -the mod forum thing. This matters more to some people than others; it matters to me! He lied to us and others lied to us on his behalf. I don't know why anyone would trust him with anything at all after that.

    -lanz posted a very long and detailed accounting of how, in her view, jeffe targeted her and harassed her for years under the cover of just enforcing the rules. Maybe you believe her, maybe you don't (I do), but the charge being levied against him is in essence that he will find a way to abuse whatever authority he is granted and will launder it under just being an aw shucks just trying to do my best I'm kinda the forum dad shtick

    -more generally, many, many people have talked about how they feel dnd has fostered a toxic culture, where bad faith actors and assholes can run roughsgod over people as long as they use the right tone/hold the right opinions/are friends with the right people. There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as o[/i]ne example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences. Jeffe is not solely responsible for this, however, as a very active and very long-running dnd mod, people who assert that dnd is toxic put a significant portion of the blame on him for not doing a better job moderating it.

    You can agree with those assessments or not but that is the long and short of it

    The bit here about having empathy and respecting lived experiences is kind of funny, because you're not doing that *at all* in this post. Specifically, you're ignoring why some of us had concerns about that rule to pretend we're all toxic assholes. Here's a quote of one of the posts talking about the *actual* concern a lot of us had:
    The issue is how quickly people are dismissive of "minorities who don't agree with my political opinions"

    We had a Jewish poster show up and talk about, for like the 10th time, how uncomfortable certain actions on this forum are making them. They were told by another poster that they don't represent the majority of views of their minority and that their feelings of discomfort are incorrect. Their issues have been discussed and settled! No use doing it any further. They were condescended to, it flagrantly broke the spirit of rule 5, but a significant chunk of the people defending rule 5 agreed with the post dismissing that minority poster's views immediately because they did not fall within an anarcho-socialist political view. We've had a trans poster do the same thing -- they were just ignored for having a political opinion that is inconvenient for the discussion being had. We've had a poster say that "preserving the culture of D&D" is all about protecting cishet white middle aged men, while someone who just said they are not a cishet white middle aged man spoke up to say that they actually really like the culture of D&D as it is.

    I....don't know how to square this one. It really really looks like we're picking and choosing which minorities "count" based on how much their political opinion jives with a leftist perspective and it directly goes against listening to the lived experiences of a ton of underprivileged people.

    If someone is being openly transphobic, racist, whatever, yeah man ban the hell out of them regardless of their status as a minority group or not. But there's been a lot of dismissing the views of underprivileged people who aren't doing that (exclusively when their views do not conveniently fit a leftist political framework but are still left of center) and it's weird seeing so many people be comfortable with that while openly advocating for a rule that specifically prohibits that.

    So are you just going to keep talking past Lanz' documented history of being abused and harassed by Jeffe while you cherry pick examples that support your completely disingenuous argument?

    Because seriously, it's cited right there in the post Speed made that you're chastising him for while conveniently talking past the available evidence that Jeffe engaged in abusive behavior against a community member he disliked, among all of the other patently disqualifying actions he took.

    Then again, I can see how tacitly acknowledging that you're defending a known harasser and abuser would be devastating to your attempt to grasp at straws to disregard the credible record of his victim.

    Here's that famous SE empathy and respect folks! If a post misrepresents you and *also* mentions ElJeffe, you aren't allowed to respond the part of it that misrepresents you.

    You know, the weird thing is you could actually respond to both points being made.

    Unless you actually don't want to disavow abuses of power and targeted campaigns of harassment that caused significant emotional harm to another member of the community because you think it's more important to defend an abuser.

    That would be pretty fucked up, though I guess based on some of the aforementioned grasping at straws that has gone on, there are members of this community who don't think serial abuse is a problem if a guy they like is the one doing it.

    Also: SE empathy and respect? I thought we all voted to tear those boundaries down in the interest of creating a more harmonious community. When you say things like that, it makes me think maybe you aren't taking that whole "blank slate" request super seriously. I'm very surprised by that. Completely.

    I'm responding to a thread that makes D&D out to be The problem in the community and you're surprised I'm talking about SE people. Well, "surprised", considering you're mostly just talking to the post you made up in your head.

    Nobody said D&D is the problem. People were (justifiably upset, IMO) that Jeffe got votes at all in spite of his documented history of abuse and malfeasance as a moderator and supposed community leader.

    It's rich you're accusing me of talking to a post I made up when you're the one who immediately leapt to "See, see, it's the SE++ people being mean to D&D again!!!" in a complete void of any statement to that effect.

    I would recommend examining that instinct. Though probably after you actually interrogate why it's so important to you to keep going to bat for Jeffe when he can't even defend himself or answer basic questions about his conduct.

    Did you actually read the thread you're replying to?
    There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as o[/i]ne example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences.

  • HerrCronHerrCron It that wickedly supports taxation Registered User regular
    discrider wrote: »
    rhylith wrote: »
    I do think a lot of people panic voted early because of the technical issues on the forum that first day. I know I did. While I do not regret my choices the Q&A definitely could have shuffled some rankings around slightly and bumped one candidate up a lot.

    I also thought I understood how STV worked but seeing it in action I don’t have a great feel for how my choices after #1 were distributed. Might prefer something more like ranked choice in the future because it’s easier to parse, but we can cross that bridge in three years.

    I am profoundly disappointed that some folks thought Jeffe was a good choice for the long term health of the new forum with how contentious he is and how many people have felt wronged by him.

    I am glad that two of my top 5 made it in (I posted who I picked you can look it up I ain’t ashamed) and especially glad that Tynic won the first vote outright by about ten miles.

    It gets a bit complex.

    Say you vote, and your preferences are:
    #1 A
    #2 B
    #3 C

    And say the candidates need 100 votes to win, but the final results are something like:
    A - 200 votes
    B - 150 votes
    C - 100 votes
    (other candidates also received votes, but that is not important here)

    With the system of STV that was selected (Meek system?), candidates that have more than 100 votes overflow to the next candidate based on how many votes they needed to win.

    As A only needed 100, but got 200 votes, they keep 50% of your vote, and 50% of your vote flows onto your next candidate.
    Then B only needed 100 votes, but got 150 votes, so they keep 100/150 => 66% of your remaining vote, and the rest flows onto the next candidate.

    So from what I understand, at the end your single vote looks like:

    A - 1/2 a vote.
    B - 1/3 = (1/2*2/3) a vote.
    C - 1/6 = (1/2*1/3) a vote.
    Your vote flowed on, until all your vote was distributed.
    Or until you stopped listing candidates on your ballot, or until the number of candidates left in contention matched the number of vacant positions.

    These fractions are updated every time a candidate overflows past the number of votes needed to win the election, and these are shown in the graphs in the OP as decimal fractions against the winning candidates.

    Meek STV is one of the best STV systems, but it is also a bit more complicated and I think you could only really do it if the vote was electronic, but this is definitely the right of it.
    This link explains it a bit more.

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    Let's everyone stop having an interforum slap-fight here. That's not what we're here to discuss, hell, that's not even a thing on the new forums that we could all be posting on instead, and we're just redoing fights that we've had a hundred times before at this point.

  • Romanian My EscutcheonRomanian My Escutcheon Two of Forks Registered User regular
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    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol.

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side.

    People have not been vague about it at all. These threads have moved fast so I understand if you missed things but there have been extensive discussions about this

    It is difficult to summarize everything but if I was going to boil it down:

    -the mod forum thing. This matters more to some people than others; it matters to me! He lied to us and others lied to us on his behalf. I don't know why anyone would trust him with anything at all after that.

    -lanz posted a very long and detailed accounting of how, in her view, jeffe targeted her and harassed her for years under the cover of just enforcing the rules. Maybe you believe her, maybe you don't (I do), but the charge being levied against him is in essence that he will find a way to abuse whatever authority he is granted and will launder it under just being an aw shucks just trying to do my best I'm kinda the forum dad shtick

    -more generally, many, many people have talked about how they feel dnd has fostered a toxic culture, where bad faith actors and assholes can run roughsgod over people as long as they use the right tone/hold the right opinions/are friends with the right people. There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as o[/i]ne example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences. Jeffe is not solely responsible for this, however, as a very active and very long-running dnd mod, people who assert that dnd is toxic put a significant portion of the blame on him for not doing a better job moderating it.

    You can agree with those assessments or not but that is the long and short of it

    The bit here about having empathy and respecting lived experiences is kind of funny, because you're not doing that *at all* in this post. Specifically, you're ignoring why some of us had concerns about that rule to pretend we're all toxic assholes. Here's a quote of one of the posts talking about the *actual* concern a lot of us had:
    The issue is how quickly people are dismissive of "minorities who don't agree with my political opinions"

    We had a Jewish poster show up and talk about, for like the 10th time, how uncomfortable certain actions on this forum are making them. They were told by another poster that they don't represent the majority of views of their minority and that their feelings of discomfort are incorrect. Their issues have been discussed and settled! No use doing it any further. They were condescended to, it flagrantly broke the spirit of rule 5, but a significant chunk of the people defending rule 5 agreed with the post dismissing that minority poster's views immediately because they did not fall within an anarcho-socialist political view. We've had a trans poster do the same thing -- they were just ignored for having a political opinion that is inconvenient for the discussion being had. We've had a poster say that "preserving the culture of D&D" is all about protecting cishet white middle aged men, while someone who just said they are not a cishet white middle aged man spoke up to say that they actually really like the culture of D&D as it is.

    I....don't know how to square this one. It really really looks like we're picking and choosing which minorities "count" based on how much their political opinion jives with a leftist perspective and it directly goes against listening to the lived experiences of a ton of underprivileged people.

    If someone is being openly transphobic, racist, whatever, yeah man ban the hell out of them regardless of their status as a minority group or not. But there's been a lot of dismissing the views of underprivileged people who aren't doing that (exclusively when their views do not conveniently fit a leftist political framework but are still left of center) and it's weird seeing so many people be comfortable with that while openly advocating for a rule that specifically prohibits that.

    So are you just going to keep talking past Lanz' documented history of being abused and harassed by Jeffe while you cherry pick examples that support your completely disingenuous argument?

    Because seriously, it's cited right there in the post Speed made that you're chastising him for while conveniently talking past the available evidence that Jeffe engaged in abusive behavior against a community member he disliked, among all of the other patently disqualifying actions he took.

    Then again, I can see how tacitly acknowledging that you're defending a known harasser and abuser would be devastating to your attempt to grasp at straws to disregard the credible record of his victim.

    Here's that famous SE empathy and respect folks! If a post misrepresents you and *also* mentions ElJeffe, you aren't allowed to respond the part of it that misrepresents you.

    You know, the weird thing is you could actually respond to both points being made.

    Unless you actually don't want to disavow abuses of power and targeted campaigns of harassment that caused significant emotional harm to another member of the community because you think it's more important to defend an abuser.

    That would be pretty fucked up, though I guess based on some of the aforementioned grasping at straws that has gone on, there are members of this community who don't think serial abuse is a problem if a guy they like is the one doing it.

    Also: SE empathy and respect? I thought we all voted to tear those boundaries down in the interest of creating a more harmonious community. When you say things like that, it makes me think maybe you aren't taking that whole "blank slate" request super seriously. I'm very surprised by that. Completely.

    I'm responding to a thread that makes D&D out to be The problem in the community and you're surprised I'm talking about SE people. Well, "surprised", considering you're mostly just talking to the post you made up in your head.

    Nobody said D&D is the problem. People were (justifiably upset, IMO) that Jeffe got votes at all in spite of his documented history of abuse and malfeasance as a moderator and supposed community leader.

    It's rich you're accusing me of talking to a post I made up when you're the one who immediately leapt to "See, see, it's the SE++ people being mean to D&D again!!!" in a complete void of any statement to that effect.

    I would recommend examining that instinct. Though probably after you actually interrogate why it's so important to you to keep going to bat for Jeffe when he can't even defend himself or answer basic questions about his conduct.

    Did you actually read the thread you're replying to?
    There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as o[/i]ne example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences.

    I did, in fact, read that comment, and it's irrelevant to the actual conversation being had here about how you keep talking past Jeffe's documented history of harassment and abuse.

    It's also not a wholesale condemnation of D&D, but pointing out that an atmosphere of hostility was being fostered there - which isn't a false statement in the slightest, there's a reason we voted to restructure the board, and it was also intended to address issues with the culture of SE++ - and pointing out how several users from that community took issue with the stated goal of the new rules. These are objective statements, not wholesale condemnations.

    If you do read them as wholesale condemnations, that says more about you than anyone else.

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    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol.

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side.

    People have not been vague about it at all. These threads have moved fast so I understand if you missed things but there have been extensive discussions about this

    It is difficult to summarize everything but if I was going to boil it down:

    -the mod forum thing. This matters more to some people than others; it matters to me! He lied to us and others lied to us on his behalf. I don't know why anyone would trust him with anything at all after that.

    -lanz posted a very long and detailed accounting of how, in her view, jeffe targeted her and harassed her for years under the cover of just enforcing the rules. Maybe you believe her, maybe you don't (I do), but the charge being levied against him is in essence that he will find a way to abuse whatever authority he is granted and will launder it under just being an aw shucks just trying to do my best I'm kinda the forum dad shtick

    -more generally, many, many people have talked about how they feel dnd has fostered a toxic culture, where bad faith actors and assholes can run roughsgod over people as long as they use the right tone/hold the right opinions/are friends with the right people. There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as o[/i]ne example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences. Jeffe is not solely responsible for this, however, as a very active and very long-running dnd mod, people who assert that dnd is toxic put a significant portion of the blame on him for not doing a better job moderating it.

    You can agree with those assessments or not but that is the long and short of it

    The bit here about having empathy and respecting lived experiences is kind of funny, because you're not doing that *at all* in this post. Specifically, you're ignoring why some of us had concerns about that rule to pretend we're all toxic assholes. Here's a quote of one of the posts talking about the *actual* concern a lot of us had:
    The issue is how quickly people are dismissive of "minorities who don't agree with my political opinions"

    We had a Jewish poster show up and talk about, for like the 10th time, how uncomfortable certain actions on this forum are making them. They were told by another poster that they don't represent the majority of views of their minority and that their feelings of discomfort are incorrect. Their issues have been discussed and settled! No use doing it any further. They were condescended to, it flagrantly broke the spirit of rule 5, but a significant chunk of the people defending rule 5 agreed with the post dismissing that minority poster's views immediately because they did not fall within an anarcho-socialist political view. We've had a trans poster do the same thing -- they were just ignored for having a political opinion that is inconvenient for the discussion being had. We've had a poster say that "preserving the culture of D&D" is all about protecting cishet white middle aged men, while someone who just said they are not a cishet white middle aged man spoke up to say that they actually really like the culture of D&D as it is.

    I....don't know how to square this one. It really really looks like we're picking and choosing which minorities "count" based on how much their political opinion jives with a leftist perspective and it directly goes against listening to the lived experiences of a ton of underprivileged people.

    If someone is being openly transphobic, racist, whatever, yeah man ban the hell out of them regardless of their status as a minority group or not. But there's been a lot of dismissing the views of underprivileged people who aren't doing that (exclusively when their views do not conveniently fit a leftist political framework but are still left of center) and it's weird seeing so many people be comfortable with that while openly advocating for a rule that specifically prohibits that.

    So are you just going to keep talking past Lanz' documented history of being abused and harassed by Jeffe while you cherry pick examples that support your completely disingenuous argument?

    Because seriously, it's cited right there in the post Speed made that you're chastising him for while conveniently talking past the available evidence that Jeffe engaged in abusive behavior against a community member he disliked, among all of the other patently disqualifying actions he took.

    Then again, I can see how tacitly acknowledging that you're defending a known harasser and abuser would be devastating to your attempt to grasp at straws to disregard the credible record of his victim.

    Here's that famous SE empathy and respect folks! If a post misrepresents you and *also* mentions ElJeffe, you aren't allowed to respond the part of it that misrepresents you.

    You know, the weird thing is you could actually respond to both points being made.

    Unless you actually don't want to disavow abuses of power and targeted campaigns of harassment that caused significant emotional harm to another member of the community because you think it's more important to defend an abuser.

    That would be pretty fucked up, though I guess based on some of the aforementioned grasping at straws that has gone on, there are members of this community who don't think serial abuse is a problem if a guy they like is the one doing it.

    Also: SE empathy and respect? I thought we all voted to tear those boundaries down in the interest of creating a more harmonious community. When you say things like that, it makes me think maybe you aren't taking that whole "blank slate" request super seriously. I'm very surprised by that. Completely.

    I'm responding to a thread that makes D&D out to be The problem in the community and you're surprised I'm talking about SE people. Well, "surprised", considering you're mostly just talking to the post you made up in your head.

    Nobody said D&D is the problem. People were (justifiably upset, IMO) that Jeffe got votes at all in spite of his documented history of abuse and malfeasance as a moderator and supposed community leader.

    It's rich you're accusing me of talking to a post I made up when you're the one who immediately leapt to "See, see, it's the SE++ people being mean to D&D again!!!" in a complete void of any statement to that effect.

    I would recommend examining that instinct. Though probably after you actually interrogate why it's so important to you to keep going to bat for Jeffe when he can't even defend himself or answer basic questions about his conduct.
    Jaguar wrote: »
    Honestly didn't realize the rot in DnD was bad enough to elect Jeffe to the board, much less second ballot

    I wish y'all luck in improving Core, but man I would not want to be wasting spoons dealing with the apparently hundreds of assholes over there

    Your example is a person who has posted 9 times since 2003?

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  • Romanian My EscutcheonRomanian My Escutcheon Two of Forks Registered User regular
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol.

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side.

    People have not been vague about it at all. These threads have moved fast so I understand if you missed things but there have been extensive discussions about this

    It is difficult to summarize everything but if I was going to boil it down:

    -the mod forum thing. This matters more to some people than others; it matters to me! He lied to us and others lied to us on his behalf. I don't know why anyone would trust him with anything at all after that.

    -lanz posted a very long and detailed accounting of how, in her view, jeffe targeted her and harassed her for years under the cover of just enforcing the rules. Maybe you believe her, maybe you don't (I do), but the charge being levied against him is in essence that he will find a way to abuse whatever authority he is granted and will launder it under just being an aw shucks just trying to do my best I'm kinda the forum dad shtick

    -more generally, many, many people have talked about how they feel dnd has fostered a toxic culture, where bad faith actors and assholes can run roughsgod over people as long as they use the right tone/hold the right opinions/are friends with the right people. There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as o[/i]ne example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences. Jeffe is not solely responsible for this, however, as a very active and very long-running dnd mod, people who assert that dnd is toxic put a significant portion of the blame on him for not doing a better job moderating it.

    You can agree with those assessments or not but that is the long and short of it

    The bit here about having empathy and respecting lived experiences is kind of funny, because you're not doing that *at all* in this post. Specifically, you're ignoring why some of us had concerns about that rule to pretend we're all toxic assholes. Here's a quote of one of the posts talking about the *actual* concern a lot of us had:
    The issue is how quickly people are dismissive of "minorities who don't agree with my political opinions"

    We had a Jewish poster show up and talk about, for like the 10th time, how uncomfortable certain actions on this forum are making them. They were told by another poster that they don't represent the majority of views of their minority and that their feelings of discomfort are incorrect. Their issues have been discussed and settled! No use doing it any further. They were condescended to, it flagrantly broke the spirit of rule 5, but a significant chunk of the people defending rule 5 agreed with the post dismissing that minority poster's views immediately because they did not fall within an anarcho-socialist political view. We've had a trans poster do the same thing -- they were just ignored for having a political opinion that is inconvenient for the discussion being had. We've had a poster say that "preserving the culture of D&D" is all about protecting cishet white middle aged men, while someone who just said they are not a cishet white middle aged man spoke up to say that they actually really like the culture of D&D as it is.

    I....don't know how to square this one. It really really looks like we're picking and choosing which minorities "count" based on how much their political opinion jives with a leftist perspective and it directly goes against listening to the lived experiences of a ton of underprivileged people.

    If someone is being openly transphobic, racist, whatever, yeah man ban the hell out of them regardless of their status as a minority group or not. But there's been a lot of dismissing the views of underprivileged people who aren't doing that (exclusively when their views do not conveniently fit a leftist political framework but are still left of center) and it's weird seeing so many people be comfortable with that while openly advocating for a rule that specifically prohibits that.

    So are you just going to keep talking past Lanz' documented history of being abused and harassed by Jeffe while you cherry pick examples that support your completely disingenuous argument?

    Because seriously, it's cited right there in the post Speed made that you're chastising him for while conveniently talking past the available evidence that Jeffe engaged in abusive behavior against a community member he disliked, among all of the other patently disqualifying actions he took.

    Then again, I can see how tacitly acknowledging that you're defending a known harasser and abuser would be devastating to your attempt to grasp at straws to disregard the credible record of his victim.

    Here's that famous SE empathy and respect folks! If a post misrepresents you and *also* mentions ElJeffe, you aren't allowed to respond the part of it that misrepresents you.

    You know, the weird thing is you could actually respond to both points being made.

    Unless you actually don't want to disavow abuses of power and targeted campaigns of harassment that caused significant emotional harm to another member of the community because you think it's more important to defend an abuser.

    That would be pretty fucked up, though I guess based on some of the aforementioned grasping at straws that has gone on, there are members of this community who don't think serial abuse is a problem if a guy they like is the one doing it.

    Also: SE empathy and respect? I thought we all voted to tear those boundaries down in the interest of creating a more harmonious community. When you say things like that, it makes me think maybe you aren't taking that whole "blank slate" request super seriously. I'm very surprised by that. Completely.

    I'm responding to a thread that makes D&D out to be The problem in the community and you're surprised I'm talking about SE people. Well, "surprised", considering you're mostly just talking to the post you made up in your head.

    Nobody said D&D is the problem. People were (justifiably upset, IMO) that Jeffe got votes at all in spite of his documented history of abuse and malfeasance as a moderator and supposed community leader.

    It's rich you're accusing me of talking to a post I made up when you're the one who immediately leapt to "See, see, it's the SE++ people being mean to D&D again!!!" in a complete void of any statement to that effect.

    I would recommend examining that instinct. Though probably after you actually interrogate why it's so important to you to keep going to bat for Jeffe when he can't even defend himself or answer basic questions about his conduct.
    Jaguar wrote: »
    Honestly didn't realize the rot in DnD was bad enough to elect Jeffe to the board, much less second ballot

    I wish y'all luck in improving Core, but man I would not want to be wasting spoons dealing with the apparently hundreds of assholes over there

    Your example is a person who has posted 9 times since 2003?

    Also, I don't think Phoenix or Speed cited Jaguar's post.

    If they did, I missed it, and I'd like to make it clear that I disagree with that sentiment.

    Jeffe on the Board is an affront to the stated goals of our community, but stating we're just returning to the old culture of toxicity isn't fair to the work of the Transition Team or the interim mods in my mind.

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  • CalicaCalica Registered User regular
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol.

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side.

    People have not been vague about it at all. These threads have moved fast so I understand if you missed things but there have been extensive discussions about this

    It is difficult to summarize everything but if I was going to boil it down:

    -the mod forum thing. This matters more to some people than others; it matters to me! He lied to us and others lied to us on his behalf. I don't know why anyone would trust him with anything at all after that.

    -lanz posted a very long and detailed accounting of how, in her view, jeffe targeted her and harassed her for years under the cover of just enforcing the rules. Maybe you believe her, maybe you don't (I do), but the charge being levied against him is in essence that he will find a way to abuse whatever authority he is granted and will launder it under just being an aw shucks just trying to do my best I'm kinda the forum dad shtick

    -more generally, many, many people have talked about how they feel dnd has fostered a toxic culture, where bad faith actors and assholes can run roughsgod over people as long as they use the right tone/hold the right opinions/are friends with the right people. There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as one example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences. Jeffe is not solely responsible for this, however, as a very active and very long-running dnd mod, people who assert that dnd is toxic put a significant portion of the blame on him for not doing a better job moderating it.

    You can agree with those assessments or not but that is the long and short of it

    Just to clarify: I didn't see Lanz's post because I didn't read to the end of the QA thread (assuming that's where it was posted?) because I'd already decided whom I was voting for and I've only got so much time, so that's on me. Thanks for the explanation, though!

  • HoukHouk Nipples The EchidnaRegistered User regular
    edited April 9
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Phoenix-D wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    Calica wrote: »
    syndalis wrote: »
    I will keep going back to the fact that 600 people or so voted, and most probably saw the drama happening in here and tuned out and went back to playing games, discussing LEGO, or something else. I look at the list of names that have seats and I see people I would recognize if I was a frequent poster in the various active boards in the community.

    Hundreds voted for the guy who moderated the most active subforum on the boards for a decade. 1300 people migrated to the new community. Their reasons are probably diverse as to why... anything from name recognition, to liking what D&D was for them, to whatever else. Their reasons are not bad (for the most part, I cannot pretend to know the hearts of everyone and there are probably a few spite voting, sure), and they are not bad people. They are forumers, just like you and me.

    The good news (for everyone) is that it does look like all sides of the longrunning argument / cultural divide here at the PAF are part of the five tasked with governing and steering CoRe. They have to put this shit aside and do the messy work for all of us. And honestly, I do trust that when they have to virtually sit across from each other and do the work, they all will.

    I feel like the community chose, in aggregate, very well.

    Congratulations @tynic @ElJeffe @Raijin Quickfoot @Tef @ahava - you clearly have your work cut out for you, and I will help in any way I can to try and help steer this towards success. I hope all of us do.

    Okay.

    I keep seeing people allude to this, in the QA threads and elsewhere, always very carefully not naming names or saying anything that actually sheds any light, and I still have no idea what the fuck y'all are talking about.

    For the record: I didn't vote for ElJeffe, but that's purely because I could see from the QA threads how strongly people feel about them (can't find explicitly stated pronouns right now; erring on the side of ambiguity). I know about the mod forum thing, but obviously there's history there and a lot of people are assuming everyone knows what it is when that is very much not the case.

    (syndalis, I quoted you because of your concise phrasing bolded above, not for any other particular reason :smile: )

    It's kind of between D&D and SE++, Kind of about moderation, Kind of about difference in political opinion.

    I could run down every single aspect of it. but honestly I think it's one of those the more you know the less you understand type of situations.

    I'm active in (parts of) D&D and (parts of) SE++ and the biggest difference I see is tone.

    Which means I must not be in the right threads to see/grasp the vitriol.

    Which probably describes a huge majority of posters on the forums, both those who voted for ElJeffe and those who didn't. Which makes it extra obnoxious when people act like everyone 1) knew the things they're vaguely alluding to and 2) deliberately picked the wrong side.

    People have not been vague about it at all. These threads have moved fast so I understand if you missed things but there have been extensive discussions about this

    It is difficult to summarize everything but if I was going to boil it down:

    -the mod forum thing. This matters more to some people than others; it matters to me! He lied to us and others lied to us on his behalf. I don't know why anyone would trust him with anything at all after that.

    -lanz posted a very long and detailed accounting of how, in her view, jeffe targeted her and harassed her for years under the cover of just enforcing the rules. Maybe you believe her, maybe you don't (I do), but the charge being levied against him is in essence that he will find a way to abuse whatever authority he is granted and will launder it under just being an aw shucks just trying to do my best I'm kinda the forum dad shtick

    -more generally, many, many people have talked about how they feel dnd has fostered a toxic culture, where bad faith actors and assholes can run roughsgod over people as long as they use the right tone/hold the right opinions/are friends with the right people. There have been at least a half dozen threads hashing this out, I couldn't possibly sum it all up here, but as o[/i]ne example of the kind of toxicity dnd is accused of fostering, look back at when a bunch of dnd regulars argued very hard against a rule about treating others with empathy and dignity and respecting their lived experiences. Jeffe is not solely responsible for this, however, as a very active and very long-running dnd mod, people who assert that dnd is toxic put a significant portion of the blame on him for not doing a better job moderating it.

    You can agree with those assessments or not but that is the long and short of it

    The bit here about having empathy and respecting lived experiences is kind of funny, because you're not doing that *at all* in this post. Specifically, you're ignoring why some of us had concerns about that rule to pretend we're all toxic assholes. Here's a quote of one of the posts talking about the *actual* concern a lot of us had:
    The issue is how quickly people are dismissive of "minorities who don't agree with my political opinions"

    We had a Jewish poster show up and talk about, for like the 10th time, how uncomfortable certain actions on this forum are making them. They were told by another poster that they don't represent the majority of views of their minority and that their feelings of discomfort are incorrect. Their issues have been discussed and settled! No use doing it any further. They were condescended to, it flagrantly broke the spirit of rule 5, but a significant chunk of the people defending rule 5 agreed with the post dismissing that minority poster's views immediately because they did not fall within an anarcho-socialist political view. We've had a trans poster do the same thing -- they were just ignored for having a political opinion that is inconvenient for the discussion being had. We've had a poster say that "preserving the culture of D&D" is all about protecting cishet white middle aged men, while someone who just said they are not a cishet white middle aged man spoke up to say that they actually really like the culture of D&D as it is.

    I....don't know how to square this one. It really really looks like we're picking and choosing which minorities "count" based on how much their political opinion jives with a leftist perspective and it directly goes against listening to the lived experiences of a ton of underprivileged people.

    If someone is being openly transphobic, racist, whatever, yeah man ban the hell out of them regardless of their status as a minority group or not. But there's been a lot of dismissing the views of underprivileged people who aren't doing that (exclusively when their views do not conveniently fit a leftist political framework but are still left of center) and it's weird seeing so many people be comfortable with that while openly advocating for a rule that specifically prohibits that.

    So are you just going to keep talking past Lanz' documented history of being abused and harassed by Jeffe while you cherry pick examples that support your completely disingenuous argument?

    Because seriously, it's cited right there in the post Speed made that you're chastising him for while conveniently talking past the available evidence that Jeffe engaged in abusive behavior against a community member he disliked, among all of the other patently disqualifying actions he took.

    Then again, I can see how tacitly acknowledging that you're defending a known harasser and abuser would be devastating to your attempt to grasp at straws to disregard the credible record of his victim.

    Here's that famous SE empathy and respect folks! If a post misrepresents you and *also* mentions ElJeffe, you aren't allowed to respond the part of it that misrepresents you.

    "so much for the tolerant left" ass post here

    it's almost funny how stringently people are clinging to the whole outdated SE vs D&D "schism" bs

    Houk on
  • ChicoBlueChicoBlue Registered User regular
    I understand and accept the warning given to me in this thread for my last post, and I would just like to say that I hope that the pleasant sounding platitudes about concern for propriety and community in that post and this one will mean that no one will take issue with any of the actual content or intent involved in any actions of mine in the past and that I will face no further consequences.

    Apologies have been sent out to the affected parties and I hope that you will all do the moderation staff and the community at large a favor by moving on.

    Let's get out there and make something really special!

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