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Homesickness/Missing People
Muramasa18
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Hey all. Here's a little background info: I was born in the UK, and lived there until I was 12. When my Dad sold his business, we as a family moved to Florida where we've lived for the past 6 years. 2 weeks ago, we moved back here to England.
My problem is this: I miss Florida. A lot. When I moved there, I wasn't leaving much behind in terms of friendships. I was pretty much the most unpopular kid in school, and I had maybe one friend. However, in my time in Florida, I made lots of fantastic friends, including a wonderful girlfriend who I'm absolutely head-over-heels in love with. And...I miss them a lot.
Also, y'know, here's another thing, my parents are both from the UK, and lived here much longer than I did. I lived here for 12 years, they lived here for ~45 years. I spent 1/3 of my life in Florida, and it was the most important/developmental 1/3. I spent my teenage years there, and to me, the place just seems more like home than the UK.
I'm on an E2 Visa which lasts until 2011 right now, and I suppose after I'm done with college here in the UK I could see about going back/getting a green card. But, my main question is how do I deal with all the loneliess/homesickness? I'm trying to get a summer job here but no luck yet, and I'm attending University of Gloucestershire in September. I'm trying to go visit Florida people over the summer but I can't really afford my own plane ticket. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
My problem is this: I miss Florida. A lot. When I moved there, I wasn't leaving much behind in terms of friendships. I was pretty much the most unpopular kid in school, and I had maybe one friend. However, in my time in Florida, I made lots of fantastic friends, including a wonderful girlfriend who I'm absolutely head-over-heels in love with. And...I miss them a lot.
Also, y'know, here's another thing, my parents are both from the UK, and lived here much longer than I did. I lived here for 12 years, they lived here for ~45 years. I spent 1/3 of my life in Florida, and it was the most important/developmental 1/3. I spent my teenage years there, and to me, the place just seems more like home than the UK.
I'm on an E2 Visa which lasts until 2011 right now, and I suppose after I'm done with college here in the UK I could see about going back/getting a green card. But, my main question is how do I deal with all the loneliess/homesickness? I'm trying to get a summer job here but no luck yet, and I'm attending University of Gloucestershire in September. I'm trying to go visit Florida people over the summer but I can't really afford my own plane ticket. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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all i can really think is just to distract yourself as much as possible. go out to places and try to meet people. try to avoid being by yourself for a long time to where your thoughts drift back to the reason why you're by yourself.
the goal isnt really to forget the people you loved in florida, as much as it is to take them away from your main focus, otherwise you'll just keep being miserable...
hope things get better-
You may want to look into transferring to a Florida school (probably after this semester/year), so you can be with your GF.
Also--
I got this advice from an exceptionally dorky friend when I told her that I missed a lot of friends~
Make a webforum for you and your friends. Just a little something you can post stories on, talk about stuff that interests you and have a place to drop messages for your friends.
I think this only works when your friends are familiar with webforums and the likes and already spend a part of their social life on-line.
I start college in the fall, so I'll have stuff to do then, but for summer I've pretty much got nothing, though my brother's coming over soon from Chicago so I guess I'll spend a bunch of time with him. Thanks for the replies, all.
A little more backstory on the situation, if you care: my parents started thinking of moving back to the UK around 2 years ago. However, we decided that we'd wait for me to finish high school there. At the time I thought I might as well, seeing as how I am English anyway. I hadn't met my girlfriend at that stage. I met her at the start of senior year, and we started dating on New Years Day 2007. We both knew before we started dating that I was going back, so we knew I'd have to leave at some point and go into a long-distance relationship. Well, fast forward 5 months through an incredible relationship where we didn't have a single fight and spent almost all our free time together, and here we are, stuck long-distance. We're both ready and willing to continue our relationship through college. I'm pretty sure I want to move back to Florida after college and become a US citizen. We've been talking about marriage for a month or so...I know it sounds rash, but I don't care how young we are. She's going to UCF in the fall, and we do want to get married after college.
Just wanted to tell my story a little more, thanks for reading.
If you have immediate family(parent, sibling, wife or child) in the US you could get a family sponsorship or you could get a corporate sponsored visa by signing a contract with a company after you graduate. Other than that the only other option is to marry someone from the US and come on a family sponsorship.
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I dunno. I guess there's nothing to do but wait and see how things turn out.
the girlfriend thing is harsh, but marriage is the WRONG idea, you'll hate me for saying this but emotionally you both won't be grounded enough for it, my suggestion would be this, go to uni take it slow at long distance and see if anything changes...enjoy uni, trust me, if your both mature enough 6 months or so between seeing each other won't be as bad as you think (i was in a LD releationship for a year and a half) and its so worth it when you see each other.
anyway good luck with whatever you choose.
Definitely try to make new friends, but let it happen easily. This summer is probably going to be rough as you won't be in college yet. You might try getting to know the area around your college real well as that will come in handy when there are new students around to become friends with.