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I touched her down in the Netherlands but never went inside of her for like 20 minutes. She had a really bad stomachache afterwards, and we know there was a correlation between activity and stomachache. What caused it? I think it was air entering her and going into her stomach.
Unless your foreplay involved an air compressor or a bicycle pump, I really doubt you were able to force enough air into her to cause serious problems.
Chances are the stomach ache wasn't actually related to whatever you were doing, it just happened at the same time and the two of you drew a connection.
Yeah, it went away after like 30 minutes, but she could barely walk afterwards. I didn't finger her. We know there was a correlation because she had done the same thing to herself for the first time two days before and the exact same thing happened..
Yeah, it went away after like 30 minutes, but she could barely walk afterwards. I didn't finger her. We know there was a correlation because she had done the same thing to herself for the first time two days before and the exact same thing happened..
Then there may be a larger problem here.
Has this always happened, or did it just come up recently?
Uh, has something happened in her past? It may be a psychosomatic response to an unfortunate incident in her youth, that's making the slight remembrance of it sick to her stomach.
or it could be since she is not used to being touched down there, it is a psychological response to something new for her that she is not quite sure is appropriate
Uh, has something happened in her past? It may be a psychosomatic response to an unfortunate incident in her youth, that's making the slight remembrance of it sick to her stomach.
You would be surprised how often this happens and how memories like that get repressed. If she still gets stomach aches after sexual activity she should go see a doctor.
Uh, has something happened in her past? It may be a psychosomatic response to an unfortunate incident in her youth, that's making the slight remembrance of it sick to her stomach.
You would be surprised how often this happens and how memories like that get repressed. If she still gets stomach aches after sexual activity she should go see a doctor.
Forgive me if this seems personal, BlackIce, but how old are you? And how old is she?
Based on my past experiences, I would say something bad did happen to her, but she repressed it. I'm not making any claims that I know what's going on for sure, but if I were a betting man...that's where I'd put my money. That, or she's been brought up ultra-conservative and the thought of someone down there makes her ill. Hey, it's been known to happen!
She should really ask one of her parents if they know anything about it, they might know more details. I had a friend who repressed an entire 2 month criminal trial, only to come raging forward one night on the phone to me. Oh yeah, that was a fun conversation.
This may be a little bit of a Too Much Information question here, but: Did she orgasm when you were touching her?
Rather than all this repressed emotion stuff, that's another way to go. I've seen women post in several sex tips/sex talk forums that if they are touched for a long period of time without orgasming it can lead to stomach aches. (It's been referred to as "blue ovaries" or "blue clit" before).
From what I've read it doesn't happen to all women obviously, as everyone is different, but it's definitely another reason to consider.
so she was worried, got stressed out and ended up with a stomach ache. I think perhaps she's nervous, insecure and those are prime ingrdients for upset stomachs
yeah if you just stopped, with out eityher her easing into it or actually climaxing, you have your suspect right there.
while I understand your concern about potential breakups, don't shy away from sexuality unless you feel it is the right thing to do. it is all part of the human interation, and as long as you are safe about it, and treat it as a chance to connect and share with your friend, then thier is nothing wrong with it
Don't worry about it. I use to get that a lot with my first sexual experiences. just the added pressure gives you a stomach ache. it happens if the guy is well endowed as well. no biggie, happens to a lot of girls.
Sounds like stress to me, especially if she's got a lot of guilt and uneasiness about sexual activities. I've gotten stomachaches like that before exams. If she's that freaked out about what you're doing, then maybe (probably!) she's just not ready yet. I'd prescribe a lot of talking before you two resume activities.
I would put my money on her emotions as well. I don't think women feel the "blue balls" syndrome in their stomach, but in their nether regions. I could just be experiencing it differently than her though.
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Unless your foreplay involved an air compressor or a bicycle pump, I really doubt you were able to force enough air into her to cause serious problems.
Chances are the stomach ache wasn't actually related to whatever you were doing, it just happened at the same time and the two of you drew a connection.
Did it go away?
Then there may be a larger problem here.
Has this always happened, or did it just come up recently?
If it keeps happening, she needs to see a doctor.
You would be surprised how often this happens and how memories like that get repressed. If she still gets stomach aches after sexual activity she should go see a doctor.
Forgive me if this seems personal, BlackIce, but how old are you? And how old is she?
Based on my past experiences, I would say something bad did happen to her, but she repressed it. I'm not making any claims that I know what's going on for sure, but if I were a betting man...that's where I'd put my money. That, or she's been brought up ultra-conservative and the thought of someone down there makes her ill. Hey, it's been known to happen!
She should really ask one of her parents if they know anything about it, they might know more details. I had a friend who repressed an entire 2 month criminal trial, only to come raging forward one night on the phone to me. Oh yeah, that was a fun conversation.
Rather than all this repressed emotion stuff, that's another way to go. I've seen women post in several sex tips/sex talk forums that if they are touched for a long period of time without orgasming it can lead to stomach aches. (It's been referred to as "blue ovaries" or "blue clit" before).
From what I've read it doesn't happen to all women obviously, as everyone is different, but it's definitely another reason to consider.
while I understand your concern about potential breakups, don't shy away from sexuality unless you feel it is the right thing to do. it is all part of the human interation, and as long as you are safe about it, and treat it as a chance to connect and share with your friend, then thier is nothing wrong with it