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Quick tidbit of girl trivia that I should already know by now:
Legoman05
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If you are obviously in the process of asking a girl for her number, and she does not offer it to you - is it not worth calling her?
I'm not after getting in her pants or anything, just want to hang out, maybe get some coffee/go dancing.
I'm not after getting in her pants or anything, just want to hang out, maybe get some coffee/go dancing.
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I would assume that she's not interested.
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Since the number wasn't offered in this time frame, he asked her for it, and got the number.
If I'm correct in this, then I would say yes, give her a call and ask for a friendly meeting in a public place (IE "You want to get some coffee or something?").
If I'm wrong and you jacked her number from her cell while she was away or something, then I would recomend against calling.
"Hi, I had fun hanging out with you today, can I get your number so we can arrange another day next week" is much better than leaving it up in the air so she can somehow read your mind and say "heres my number".
(Stammering can be kind of cute, by the way, especially if you have that whole awkward-but-sexy thing going on. Most girls don't mind too much if you're a little nervous as long as you fairly quickly suck it up and say something to us. Plus, better stammering than never talking and mooning over us in secret; that's just creepy.)
I asked if she would be cool hanging out sometime. "That'd be cool, but I'm kind of busy." "Yeah, maybe we could snag some coffee sometime though, can I call you?" "Sure, XXX-XXX-XXXX." "kthx, my ride is leaving, bai!"
So yeah - it's not like she was like no, and I'm looking it up anyway, it's that I've always been warned that the womenses were all perceptive and shit.
Stop reading msn relationship 'advice' columns, they'll rot your brain. We're just people.
Girls are great, if you don't analyze stuff. Just enjoy their company, crack a joke or 2, and be yourself.
Hell, she'll be so surprised to find a normal person she might just want to hang out again, specially if she has a really fun time.
Cat's right.
The worst thing you can do is over-analyze shit. Honestly, the best thing I ever learned when it came to first-encounter dating was that if you treat someone differently because you like them it'll just get weird.
Just call her.
-Robert E. Howard
Tower of the Elephant
What's with the double standard there?
Why is okay or expected that the girl will pussyfoot around and give the guy a false number if she doesnt want to talk to him, instead of just giving him a straight answer, especially when the guy is expected to provide a straight question?
I'd really like to know
anyways I'll stop there and if anyone wants to continue it in the other forum that's cool but I'm sure someone won't like this continuing here.
If someone scares you so much you fear for your personal safety when they're around, why would you try to ask them for their telephone number?
Being overly shy about asking for the number of someone you fancy and being terrified by some creepy person and wanting to deflect them without pissing them off when they're still around are two very different things.
Its called a joke, sweetums :roll:
I know for me personally, (and perhaps this should be made into a different thread) I like a lady who can tip toe around the black and white of the subject until the last moment. It's a way of feeling things out without compromising the aspect of desirability.
It's "The Game", the kind of thing you see in Gone with the Wind or any modern romantic comedy. Two people having an unspoken joust, the result of which usually involves heightening interest in the other person.
Long story short- Ask for the number, but do it with tact and "skill" as opposed to just "Give me it. We have fun."
What he is basically saying is fuck those girls. Treat them like people, not like little animals that you have to follow procedure for. Do whatever the fuck you want to do, however you want to do it. If she doesn't like it, then she doesn't like you, so just move on to the next one who will, god damnit.
You may be Prince Charming, but if you pick your nose and eat it, though that is no reflection on your personal character, whoever you're courting at that moment may just go ahead and cancel any remaining plans with you for the evening.
I guess my point is, sometimes a few minor aesthetic considerations should be made in your approach to a girl that help you get past that initial "first impression" threshold and let you reveal to her who you really are.
I'm not advocating pulling any sort of Casanova-style romantic kung-fu, just be sure that the style you adopt when approaching a girl is aptly suited to her interests as much as possible in those areas that don't radically alter who you are as a person.
Which I don't think is too far from what you're saying anyway.