Forgot her name

Sevorak

Last Saturday I went out to the bars with my roommates, and as we were walking back to the car I met a girl who works in the same business complex that I do. She said she's seen me go on walks with the guys in my office (I work in a software place, so we make an effort to get outside a couple times a day). We did the whole introduction thing, I asked what office she worked in, she told me and said I should come by sometime. I left with full intention of doing so, since she seemed cool and it can't hurt to get to know her and see if that impression was correct.

Problem is, I was pretty drunk at the time and I can't for the life of me remember her name or what she looks like. I remember she had shoulder length blonde hair, but I wouldn't be able to pick her out of a lineup of girls with such a hairstyle. Her office is pretty much directly across the walkway from mine, about 30 ft away, but unless she jumps out of her chair and says, "Nice to see you again, my name's ____ if you don't remember," when I walk in, I'm pretty screwed. I assume she's got a desk by the window, since it's hard to see out of the windows here if you're not right by them, but other than that and the hair I have nothing to go on.

Anyone have any advice for this situation, or am I screwed?

JPArbiter

ask your co workers if they got her name, and anyone else you know who was there.

if that is a bust, actually go walking around her section hoping she pops out and says hi. think back to that day hard. the memories are there, you just need to focus.

and yes do be honest with her regarding not remembering her name.

witch_ie

Forgetting her name is one thing and not really that big of a deal. Forgetting what she looks like though...

You could always walk around her office and see if you spot her or her name anywhere and see if it jogs your memory.

A-Rod

well i had the name problem once....but i just forgot her name, not her face. I suggest if you cant get her name through co-workers, maybe grab her msn....assuming you ask the right one.

CyberJackal

I imagine you'd recognize her if you saw her again. That sort of thing happens to me a lot, where I sometimes can't picture someone I just met but I'll still recognize them later.

If you get near her office or cubicle, chances are you'll see a name plate. But I hardly think forgetting her name at this point is such a horrible thing. Just ask.

Blowflu

Well, this is a risky way to get her to tell you her name.


Ask her how she spells her name. If you're lucky, she's got one of those names that can be spelled 3 different ways. If you're un-lucky, she'll have a name like Hope in which case you need to make with a joke or something. It works more that you'd think, and it's handy for guys (like me) who can't remember anyone's name. Really, this is a way of escaping the awkwardness of just asking her, with a bit of an added risk.

witch_ie

Honestly, I don't think she'll care if you forgot her name, especially if you take the time to figure out who she is even without the name. Pretending you didn't forget is just silly.

moonwaltz7

I second the idea that she won't care that you forgot her name. In fact, if you just asked her to repeat it next time you see her it should be no big deal. On the other hand, if you have to stumble through a few conversations without knowing it and ultimately end up asking her anyway, then it would be weird.

Gihgehls

Blowflu wrote: »

Well, this is a risky way to get her to tell you her name.


Ask her how she spells her name. If you're lucky, she's got one of those names that can be spelled 3 different ways. If you're un-lucky, she'll have a name like Hope in which case you need to make with a joke or something. It works more that you'd think, and it's handy for guys (like me) who can't remember anyone's name. Really, this is a way of escaping the awkwardness of just asking her, with a bit of an added risk.

I do this when I FIRST get their name. I find it helps me to remember if upon learning it I visualize the way it is spelled.

I think you'll be able to recognize her pretty easily, and don't stress about not remembering her name. Just apologize and ask for it again.

Blake T

The easy way. Go through the Alphabet think A and all the girls names you can think of, then go to B all the way to Z, I'll often just think of the girls name at E when her name begins with a J, it'll just click into place.


Alternatively.

Wander up to her smile slightly apologise and ask for her name because you've forgotten it.

At this stage she will be angry and tell you her name.

Immediatly laugh, say no, not you first name your last name because you know alot of (insert pretty girls name here) and you wanted to know her last name so you can differenciate.

She will no longer be angry at you.

Alternatively again get one of your friends to run in a catch one for the team and ask her name and report back.

rockmonkey

Alternatively: Head over to her department and hope she pops out and when she does say, "Hey, remember me? Sevorak? From the other night?

That way it gives her an opening to give you her name again. If she DOESN'T reply with her name, but instead says something like, "Of course!" then you politely mention you were hella trashed and couldn't remember her name but wanted to ask her to lunch so you decided on hunting her down no matter what the cost! Play the last bit off as a joke and then she'll think you're sweet AND funny.

EggyToast

Is there a secretary or office assistant in her wing? You could ask her -- "hey, I work across the hall; what's the name of that girl with the shoulder length blond hair? I ran into her the other day and she told me to stop by, but I didn't catch her name."

Hopefully some bells ring when you hear *something* familiar.

blue powder

Perhaps walk into the office, make sure you're seen. She may not want to walk upto you incase you're not looking for her or something. Once you're sure you've been seen, walk upto someone and say to them and explain your situation then say "so if she sees me speaking with you and asks what "that guy wanted" then you can tell her."

inert

i agree with rockmonkey on this one, i'd just go up and talk to her, and be honest about it. apologize, throw in a joke and maybe some flattery...it'll be cool.

CyberJackal

Here's another thought, if you really think the name thing matters. When you go to look for her, bring a friend along. Then, when you run into her, the friend can introduce him/herself to her and she should do the same.

But honestly, you only just met her, so I really don't think it's a big deal to ask her again. If anything, I'd say if she honestly gets pissed about it, you probably wouldn't want to hang around such an overly-sensitive individual anyway.

DrHookenstein

I'm pretty sure that regardless of how air-tight his excuse might be, unless he's a hell of a bluffer, it should still be obvious he's being dishonest.

Wouldn't it be best if he just says "Hey, it's Sevorak from the other night! I had a hella good time with you, and thought I'd see if you were up for [whatever]. By the way, I'm terrible with names, and worse when I've even whiffed alcohol--I couldn't for the life of me remember yours. Any chance you'd let me buy it from you again with lunch? [smile]" ?

METAzraeL

Seriously, you don't need to do all that name bullshit. You met once, after a stint in the pub. This in and of itself should clear you. Regardless, if anyone gets upset over a forgotten name from the first meeting, well, I'd be wary of their personality. If you guys had seen each other a couple times over coffee or whatever and you forgot her name, that's when you should be worried.

As for her appearance, I agree that you should just wander over there and see if you recognize her or she pops up.