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coldbird.
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befriended a girl in one of my classes
she introduced herself to me, actually
i took this as a sign that she dug me, i was wrong
she said she wanted to be 'friends', i obliged
we talked a lot, the class ended
i wanted to maintain the friendship, continue to see each other, etc.
she apparently didn't
so, i guess what i'm asking is, should i just never speak to her again
she introduced herself to me, actually
i took this as a sign that she dug me, i was wrong
she said she wanted to be 'friends', i obliged
we talked a lot, the class ended
i wanted to maintain the friendship, continue to see each other, etc.
she apparently didn't
so, i guess what i'm asking is, should i just never speak to her again
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Sorry man, but it sounds like you don't have much of a choice. Try and forget about her.
Also, just forget about her. She doesn't want to be friend, don't be a creep by trying to force yourself into being her friend. Just forget about her and find someone who does want your company.
i never understood that
I'm not saying you're a socially retarded freak who talking about mutilating their parents, but maybe you're just not her type of person. The exact same thing could happen to you if a guy came up and started talking to you.
Wait, What? o.0
Because they're people too? People befriend people, regardless of sex. Sometimes there is an untold sexual tension but very good friendships can exist, and many do.
Also, the girl in your OP would be considered an acquaintance.
Let 'em eat fucking pineapples!
i wouldn't really initiate a conversation with a girl unless i was attracted to her
i guess that's just me
i guess i should elaborate on what the 'acquaintanceship' was like
we would call each other every few days to have a 1-3 hour conversation
our histories, problems and whatnot.
we'd always meet before and after class, she'd wait for me if i was late. writing musings to each other in class.
sort of puerile, i guess, but whatever.
You could try to re-contact her, considering your OP stated that she only "apparently" didn't want to keep contact. Did you straight-out ask her if she did?
Let 'em eat fucking pineapples!
i guess it's case closed
Anyway, I think it's a little... unhealthy for you to only approach women in whom you have a romantic interest. As Veritas said, women are people too, and you should learn to interact with them as peers, not as "things with breasts and vaginas."
Perhaps in the future, allow yourself to get to know many people -- of both genders. This way, if it turns out someone, for whatever reason, doesn't want to continue the friend/acquaintanceship, you'll have other human beings to interact with.
Introducing herself to you? So what? I do that kind of shit all the time in my classes, and I don't talk to half the girls/guys I meet once the semester's over. That's why you meet a shitton of people in college; for every ten people you do meet, you might get two or three actual friendships outside the classroom.
This girl just needed an aquaintance. It sucks, but thems the breaks I guess. Just pick up your sticks and move on.
she was attractive, but a bit dense
fuck it.
relationships melt
like snow in springtime.
Yes. Maybe if you were friends with girls, you'd also know which signals were good, and which were bad. Bonus, right? I'm sure there's some girl out there who's waiting to meet you, but you don't know her because you don't have girlfriends. It makes no sense to me when people only have friends of their sex. Makes me sad, too. You're missing out.
but somehow i can always stand it a bit more in guys
maybe it's because I'm as much attracted to a girls mind as body
but god I've met some dumb ones
one of them decided, on a dateish thing to announce "i don't like black people" seconds after i mentioned how much i loved Lauren Hills music then ask "ooh no, you don't think I'm racist now do you?" then add "because i'm not"
if she was half as dumb as this girl you aren't missing out
There are intelligent women out there in the world. Please trust me on this. Man, I can't imagine not having friends of both genders. When the OP said, "Why would girls befriend guys?" it boggled my mind.
Um...why wouldn't they?
Guys keep their distance so they don't catch cooties:P
Or maybe wherever the OP was spend a lot of time predominantly male environment (Single sex school?) where guys were your buddies and wimminz were for sex and that was that. I know guys who are like that in my school.