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Has anyone had their Ex text them for dumb reasons?
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My Ex texts me out of no where every few months or so and it really pisses me off. I thought we established that we can't talk anymore but she will text me and ask how my life is going or today she fucking text me asking me if I wanted to buy a car from a friend. Why is she doing this, it just brings back memories for me and causes problems.
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(I think you can block numbers, and therefore text messages...)
Its a different number half the time and I don't want to even hear her voice. Fuck, wanted to move to not be in the same city.
My guess is that she's messaging you because she's one of those people who hates the idea of losing a friend. She may or may not care about the people she has relationships with, but she hates knowing that she has driven someone away and/or that there is someone out there who (*gasp*) doesn't really want to be her friend. Makes her feel like less of a good person, a jerk, that her actions have consequences, etc.
Tough shit for her, eh?
Seems that you value the separation and don't want to speak with her, and that she's too insecure to deal with that state of affairs. Give her a stern warning to tell her in explicit terms that if you ever want to reestablish contact, you'll be the one to do that, and that if she has any respect for you and your feelings she'll quit bothering you until then.
If that doesn't work then unfortunately you're probably going to have to change numbers, if it bothers you that much. Most cell phone carriers don't offer the service of blocking numbers, for whatever reason.
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Every now and then it's good to just change your phone number around and let only those who need to know it know the new one....
Why not just just change your number?
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Thats exactly how she is to an extreme.
Yeah, I think we should just make a sticky for girl problems because I would have just posted that in there to avoid another entire thread devoted to another problem.
That would be the best course of action. I hope it is not over 20 bucks to do though.
Wireless companies should do it for free, as your account number doesn't change, just the phone number. I had to contact Cingular once for a Blackberry user I work with after he was getting repeated text messages from some foreign country. They did it quickly and easily. Didn't even have to switch SIM cards or take the device in - it all happens on their end.
I don't believe it - I'm on my THIRD PS3, and my FIRST XBOX360. What the heck?
Not responding to her is the best thing you can do. Who knows, maybe she'll think you changed numbers.
She also called me up and asked me to come over for drinks with her and her friend, ostensibly to meet the friend.
I didn't go, but I did then meet the friend later, without her present. Who was cool.
I wish she wouldn't, because the 1.5 years I had with her were great right up until the moment we parted and I'd rather not be reminded of the fact that that time is gone and done.
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I did the last 2 texts and now that I think about she did this as a test I bet because I didn't respond to her, How are you doing? Texts.
Thats exactly how I feel and that is about how long we went out for. All it does it bring up memories for me while she is all happy and has another boy friend. It does nothing to make me feel good.
I had similar feelings after the end of my last relationship (4.5 years). We were best friends after all that time and tried to remain that way. After about a year of being friends while she dated other people and I existed in misery, I told her to go away because I wasn't moving on with her around all the time.
Months and months later of not talking at all after having talked every day for over 5 years, one AIM conversation brought all the feelings back.
It's rough. Just tell her to leave you alone because she's not helping. If she persists, it's likely because she still cares for you as a friend. At that point, I'd lay down the guilt trip on her. That'll likely do the trick, though it sucks to get to that point.
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Tell her how you feel about these intrusions into your life, and tell her that you're sorry, but you just don't want any contact with her. Be firm about it.
Sure, you'll have to sit down and talk to her for an hour, but if all goes well, it will be the last time you ever have to see her. And then you can start to move on.
Honesty and confronting your problems directly are the best way to get things accomplished, man. Irritation now can save you months of progressive mind-death down the road. Text messages and passive-aggressive number changing haven't worked so far.
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Different chat contexts I'll grant you, but re-reading it always cheers me up.
Yeah, reading that makes you both sound like immature dolts, so it sure makes me feel better about my exes.
OP, she may just want to try to regain a friendship with you. Not really unusual or weird, given that she apparently cared about you enough for a relationship. Different people have different amounts of time to get over things. If you're not over her or just don't want to talk to her, feel free to tell her not to contact you and then proceed to ignore her attempts. Don't drag it out into a long, obnoxious conversation and then put it on the internet so you can show your agonies to strangers.
Until it turned into "so when are you working so you can lend me your employee discount" after 10 minutes.
I was pissed.
This seemed to work for me, I actually set up an email filter so that any messages from my ex went straight to the trash.