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Pheezer

I'd suggest taking a good long break from any sort of communication with her for at least a few weeks.

Chop Logic

Of couse. Most likely for a LOT longer than that. A lot longer.

Thanatos

Enjoy the rest of your senior year. Stay away from serious relationships. Get over her, and have fun being single.

Obviously, this is much more easily said than done.

Icemopper

Exactly what the Dr. and Thantos already said, but to add:

You're already really busy, and while it might have hurt your relationship before, it can only help now. Keep busy, keep your mind off her, and don't think you'll never find another girl as "perfect" as she was, because you will. And if you don't, hey, that's not life-threatening anyway.

Good luck.

SoonerMan

This is from a person that kind of went/is going through the same sort of situation in some ways.

I loved my girlfriend to death, but she was always just so preoccupied with whatever. It sucked, really. She ALWAYS had something to do, always somewhere to be. I was the same way, I had things to do as well. But we did always make time for each other. Yet, where our problem was she would make her things more important than showing that she loved me (ironically, this thread and the other one about the girl forgetting to do this combined would be my relationship problems in a thread.) Graduation, she's not down on the field with me and enjoying the moments (she's a junior at the time), she's in the stands picking up trash for one of the organizations she's in... ouch.

You're not obligated to do any of that man. Obviously you're artistic and you enjoy that stuff, but you've got to find time for yourself and your sweetheart. My view is that you've got to worry about the people around you, sometimes, more than yourself. Don't become a pushover by any means. Yet, you still have to be able to make those important to you satisfied. I know I'm not conveying this well by any means with my words, but hopefully some of what I'm trying to say will seep through this cluster fuck of words.

mooshoepork

Jeez, this seems like a no-brainer to me. You do all this stuff during the week but don't devote any time to the relationship. No wonder it had to end. I understand you may enjoy those things, but you should enjoy time with her too. I would sacrifice some hobbies.

Speakeasy

DrDizaster wrote: »

I'd suggest taking a good long break from any sort of communication with her for at least a few weeks.

So fucking true.

Like others said, you were already busy enough to end the relationship, so it should keep your mind off of it.

Mykonos

look at this way: your in your senior year of highschool and very rarely to hs relationships last long beyond graduation. I know people who have dated since middle school and still couldn't make it last six months once they went off to college. Besides, at that age, the level of maturaty required for a seriouse relationship usually isn't met by both parties, as lust and temporary infatuation are the main foundations in which hs relationships are usually built on. I remember an old friend whose studying psychology told me, infatuation can last up to two years. It also doesn't help that at that age, girls have absolutely no f'ing idea what the hell they want (which, I may add, be wary of the non virgin who can't get over her first)

Anyways, not sure if what i said helped much, but the best thing i can recomend is to look long term and prep up for all the girls your gonna meet in the future.

GoodOmens

Chop Logic wrote: »

I just don;t know what to do. This is going to fucking suck for a really long time.

Yes, unfortunately you're right. Especially if this is your first serious relationship. Not much to do except wait for the Earth to turn enough. Time, brother.

Keeping busy will help, avoiding her will help, hanging with friends will help. I would normally recommend that this is a great opportunity to try something new (learn a new skill, for example), but you've got alot on your plate already.

Just try to remember...she might be the first girl you ever loved, but she won't be the only girl you ever love. It's probably best to keep single through the rest of the year, though.

Good luck.

corcorigan

It'll be a good experience, you'll be happier with things in the future when they go well and take them less for granted.

Be miserable too of course, but so are lots of things.

RocketSauce

So you're confused on why the girl you "love" didn't like seeing you one day a week, and how you're going to go hang out w/your friends on a date night instead of being with her? A senior in high school seems a little old to be all "what did I do" about this situation. I don't know if I'd call this a "serious" relationship if you've devoted so little time and effort to it. You know what you did, you didn't spend any time on her. What did you think would happen? Having something to do every single night seems like overkill, especially if you want to have a relationship. Ditch some of the hobbies (swing dancing, a capella), spend more time with the girl you "love" and still have time to hang w/your buddies.

xThanatoSx

Time, time, and more time.

Unfortunately, there is no other cure :-/

It does get better - it really does.