Quick Bar tips! (Specially concerning women)

Kyougu

So I'm going out to the local bar street tonight in a couple of hours. This is my first time going out since I lost tons of weight/gained more confidence. So I definately don't want to waste this opportunity, not only to have fun, but try to meet girls. So help me out guys!

JohnnyCache

Work on meeting groups of PEOPLE do not go over to a group and focus just on the women/a particular woman. That comes across really creepy. Everybody's at the bar to meet people, particularly people of the opposite sex, yes, but don't act like its assumed.

Decide what you want to drink before you bother the bartender. Bartenders HATE "Surprise me" and "I don't know, what's good?" type questions and you will get slow, shitty drinks that way.

Wear some shit that matches.

Remember that martinis are like tits: one's not enough, two is just right, three's a little weird and if you've got four or more in front of you, you'd better be Dean Martin.

tachyon

JohnnyCache wrote: »

Remember that martinis are like tits: one's not enough, two is just right, three's a little weird and if you've got four or more in front of you, you'd better be Dean Martin.

Excellent,

Speaking of tits, make sure you look the lady in the eyes when talking...

Oh, this is a place where you can carry on a conversation right? (Noise level?) Otherwise might as well not bother.

amateurhour

Just be funny, but not overly annoying. Come up and introduce yourself, make conversation, stay away from quoting movies, dont say "I'm a professional race car driver". Also, you're getting back in the game, don't stay in one place too long. It would be amazing and awesome if the first girl you met in a bar was the perfect girl for you, but chances are there's at least a few more in there worth talking too. Talk for a little bit, mingle, then say "nice meeting you, hope to see you again soon" in a very polite way, and make your exit.

Note: when doing this, don't just turn around with your back facing the girl you just talked to and start talking to another one. Actually go to another location of the bar.

If you're still a little nervous for any reason, carry a wingman.

JohnnyCache

amateurhour wrote: »

Just be funny, but not overly annoying. Come up and introduce yourself, make conversation, stay away from quoting movies, dont say "I'm a professional race car driver". Also, you're getting back in the game, don't stay in one place too long. It would be amazing and awesome if the first girl you met in a bar was the perfect girl for you, but chances are there's at least a few more in there worth talking too. Talk for a little bit, mingle, then say "nice meeting you, hope to see you again soon" in a very polite way, and make your exit.

Note: when doing this, don't just turn around with your back facing the girl you just talked to and start talking to another one. Actually go to another location of the bar.

If you're still a little nervous for any reason, carry a wingman.

OK, this deserves SERIOUS requoting

If the girl is not a giant nerd, DO NOT TALK TO HER in a horrible amalgam of Simpson/family guy/tarantino/anime/south park/adult swim quotes. You may not realize just how much terrible nerd-speak has made it into your daily language. I'm not saying change your whole personality and like rugby and the OC, but curb that shit.

Nrthstar

Ok, seriously, no offense to the previous posters, but just go out and have fun. If you're out having fun, and people see that, that's all you really need. Just introduce yourself to people, make basic small talk and have fun. Besides, if you go out and focus too hard on meeting new people, you're going to leave with a bad perception of the bar scene. The most natural way to meet people is if you're having fun. People will pick up on that and gravitate toward you, rather than have any creepy doubts about you.

Uncle Long

Man, "just have fun," doesn't help anyone do anything. I see your point, that he needs to just relax, go with the flow and enjoy the night, not focus purely on meeting people; but just having fun isn't always that simple for everyone, a lot of us have to shut off some major brain functions to just have fun.

That being said, go with a friend or two, the proverbial 'wingman.' Just do it, you're back on the scene and you're going to be rusty and the wingman helps you keep your cool and perspective.

Don't force the conversation. Sometimes you can get lucky at bars with the girl who has had one too many but then, the next morning, you feel like a sleaze and you're lying in bed with someone you cannot for the life of you relate to.

If the conversation is good, then don't be afraid to keep it up for the sake of meeting more people.

Don't be afraid to take a risk. Go right up to the girl you want to talk to and talk to her. Staring from across the bar trying to appear smoldering or deep or whatever is just creepy and denotes a lack of confidence; which no one of either sex finds appealing.

Be ready for failure and success; it's like someone just broke open a pinata and everyone is rushing in to get a piece.

Limp moose

I use this all the time to excellent success

walk up to target.

Um hi excuse me can i ask you something? We are sort of having a debate.
They go sure.
How much does a polar bear weigh?
They laugh and are like um I don't know or they say some random number
you reply. Enough to break the ice! Hi my name is....


Sounds retarded but 9 out of 10 ladies laughs and will start talking to you. The 10th one is usually a raging bitch anyway.

Nrthstar

Limp moose wrote: »

Sounds retarded but 9 out of 10 ladies laughs and will start talking to you. The 10th one is usually a raging bitch anyway.

They needs to be like a naturally law for this. Like Barman's law of raging bitch ratio.