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I'm having something of an unexpected problem recently with my romantic life...

russelwhiterusselwhite Registered User regular
edited November 2007 in Help / Advice Forum
Ok, so I just recently got back on the horse and have been successfully dating for about a year now. The problem is that when we get in the sack they are getting off and becoming genuinely sore before I have a chance to finish. I'm an average size in most respects (according to various internet sources such as askallice etc) but after about an hour or so I still haven't finished and they need a break.

I've tried taking extra time doing sort of reverse keigel exercises with them, using toys to help stretch them out a little more, and all sorts of other stuff but I still can't finish quickly enough. It's probably a sensitivity thing on my part more than anything else and so I'm wondering whether or not there's a condom or something that would help out (I've tried all the ultra-thin and other stuff readily available at shoppers drug mart etc...)?

It's happened with the last two girlfriends I've had and I'm starting to get a little frustrated, any help/advice would be appreciated...

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    meekermeeker Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    Stop masturbating? You don't have a "death grip" do you?

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    TrowizillaTrowizilla Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    Just in case you're not posting this to brag...

    Anyone's going to be sore after an hour. It makes my girly bits sore just to think about it. Chafing and bruising and friction burns, owwww. The max I'd ever want of straight in-and-out sex is half an hour, and that's a marathon session with gallons of lube, and even then I would need a couple days to heal.

    You're probably masturbating with a death grip. Loosen your grip and retrain your dick to respond to more subtle sensations, use lube to reduce friction and imitate partnersex, etc. If this doesn't work, have sex with the girl until she's tired, then pull out and get yourself off manually.

    (Jeez, really an hour? And they let you back into bed? Those must've been either very forgiving or very masochistic ladies.)

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    ShogunShogun Hair long; money long; me and broke wizards we don't get along Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    Try a Beyond7 condom. Gotta get them in sexshops or online. Also stop masturbating. Penis death-grip is a male's greatest sexual downfall, mostly because they don't figure it out until much later.

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    russelwhiterusselwhite Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    Ah, wonderful. I do believe we have found the problem then. I wasn't aware that this 'Death Grip' business caused that much lost sensitivity (ignorance is anything but bliss). We were using crazy amounts of lube before so I think this adjustment should save me a bunch of money on that at least...

    Thanks

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    Matt!Matt! Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    Ah, wonderful. I do believe we have found the problem then. I wasn't aware that this 'Death Grip' business caused that much lost sensitivity (ignorance is anything but bliss). We were using crazy amounts of lube before so I think this adjustment should save me a bunch of money on that at least...

    Thanks

    Also, if you are using condoms when doing the deed, try tossing the dog with a condom on. It helps train your wang to perform properly when needed.

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    VisionOfClarityVisionOfClarity Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    Are you bigger than you think? I had an ex with a similar problem and it's because he was a bit too modest about his size and should have been using larger condoms.

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    russelwhiterusselwhite Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    Are you bigger than you think? I had an ex with a similar problem and it's because he was a bit too modest about his size and should have been using larger condoms.

    6" long and 5.1" circumference seems to be about average, at least according to most of the internet sources I can find.

    I'm seeing her in Alberta next week, so we'll see how the lack of a 'death grip' between now and then helps.

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    Bionic MonkeyBionic Monkey Registered User, ClubPA regular
    edited November 2007
    Ok, so I just recently got back on the horse and have been successfully dating for about a year now. The problem is that when we get in the sack they are getting off and becoming genuinely sore before I have a chance to finish. I'm an average size in most respects (according to various internet sources such as askallice etc) but after about an hour or so I still haven't finished and they need a break.

    I've tried taking extra time doing sort of reverse keigel exercises with them, using toys to help stretch them out a little more, and all sorts of other stuff but I still can't finish quickly enough. It's probably a sensitivity thing on my part more than anything else and so I'm wondering whether or not there's a condom or something that would help out (I've tried all the ultra-thin and other stuff readily available at shoppers drug mart etc...)?

    It's happened with the last two girlfriends I've had and I'm starting to get a little frustrated, any help/advice would be appreciated...

    Are you taking any medications, like antidepressants? First time I tried Prozac, I think it was, I had the same problem, with the added bonus of an increased libido.

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    Blake TBlake T Do you have enemies then? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    Also stop choking the lizzard in general.

    You can get yourself off easily because you are quite familure with your wang, it's far harder for someone because they can't adjust on the fly like you can. If your nuts are bustin to blow you'll get off a hell of alot quicker than if you just went the tug before you head off to see her.

    Also consider discussing a different form of contreception, I have trouble going if I have a cover on my wang as well.

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    russelwhiterusselwhite Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    Thanks for the advice guys, my girlfriend and I managed to spend the weekend sorting out the issue with great success. I'm still lasting a little too long for her comfort but since ridding myself of the "Death Grip" it's decidedly improved and she lets me know alot earlier now that there's no guilt issue on her part over it (this despite my past repeated insistances that she was doing nothing wrong). For two solid hours she couldn't stop laughing once I told her about this and has now become a running joke (not a bad thing to my mind).

    Kudos to all, you managed to help me salvage our intimicy in no small way.

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    Durandal InfinityDurandal Infinity Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    I also have a size issue with my girl, Eros Body-glide silicone personal lubricant. Its a tad pricier then KY but 10000% better. we cant have sex without it otherwise I threaten thermal breakdown.

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    PeekingDuckPeekingDuck __BANNED USERS regular
    edited November 2007
    Sometimes too much lube is a bad thing as well because you don't get much friction. Basically the opposite of the aforementioned "death grip." :)

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    Al_watAl_wat Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    Do you have a habit being under the influence of drugs or alcohol while having sex?

    If so, that could have something to do with it.

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    JohnnyCacheJohnnyCache Starting Defense Place at the tableRegistered User regular
    edited November 2007
    put 1 tiny, tiny drop of lube in the tip of the condom.

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    LifeVirusZEROLifeVirusZERO Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    I just bookmark'd this topic. I wish I could put the whole thing in my sig.

    *EDIT* I know it's a real problem and all, I'm not trying to make a joke out of it or anything, but that little immature part of my brain caused me to start cracking up when i read it. I'm sorry, lol.

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    poshnialloposhniallo Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    Actually I kind of have this problem too. Not using condoms, though - we're married and trying for a baby.

    Stopping masturbating is important, I'm sure. I also wonder whether circumcision (I'm not) plays a part.

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    ShogunShogun Hair long; money long; me and broke wizards we don't get along Registered User regular
    edited November 2007
    poshniallo wrote: »
    Actually I kind of have this problem too. Not using condoms, though - we're married and trying for a baby.

    Stopping masturbating is important, I'm sure. I also wonder whether circumcision (I'm not) plays a part.

    Can of worms mate. Half the room says circumcision makes you feel less, and the other half says it makes you feel more. There was a big bitchfest about it in D&D a while back.

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