Losing My "Gusto"

brandotheninjamaster

So I'm 24, going to school, married (happily), have one child and another on the way in May, work fulltime and while not in a desperate financial situation I squeak by paycheck to paycheck. All this can be a recipe for a tremendous amount of stress. Normally I would be able to handle all of these things quite gracefully. But it seems that recently as the title implies I am losing my gusto. Handling all these things seems to take a tremendous amount of effort and eventually becomes an impossible task. School is by far the biggest issue. I will have assignments due and procrastinate until the last possible second and wind up doing a poor job or the assignments wind up being late. For some odd reason I just can't muster the energy to work continuously as I used to.

I listed the biggest things going on right now in my life above because I know they all play a role. I just feel completely burned out. So how can I recharge my batteries, regain my gusto, etc etc?

Daemonion

How much longer are you in school for?

brandotheninjamaster

2 more years.

Daemonion

I don't know if there's any one thing I can recommend (maybe someone else has something to say) to recharge your batteries, but I will say this:

All this work, all of this stress goes beyond just you. You've got a partner who loves you. You've got a healthy kid and another on the way. They need you and love you.

If I was in your shoes, every time I felt burnt out, I'd set my kid on my lap and remember who all this work is for. Hopefully, they'll thank you for it when they get older, and maybe carry on your work ethic into their own lives.


Hope that helps in some way.

Shark_MegaByte

brandotheninjamaster wrote: »

So I'm 24, going to school, married (happily), have one child and another on the way in May, work fulltime and while not in a desperate financial situation I squeak by paycheck to paycheck.

Not much more needs to be said; we almost could've figured out the rest on our own

Just the school + working full time would be enough to give a lot of people trouble.

Suggestions:
You're not in this alone. Make sure your partner and maybe also the inlaws and your family know that you're feeling the pinch, and see what they can do to help out without draining themselves too. Things like watching the kid(s) for a weekend so you can have some study and together time.. could help a lot.

Also, see if any of the offices/orgs at your school offer workshops on time management. If it's well-done, you might pick up a few helpful tricks that can make a difference.

Limp moose

work out. It helps. Takes your mind off stressors and gives you endorphins. Also keeps you healthy so you dont get stress sick.

6_Vitium_6_Concubine_6

Well being a heavy procrastinator myself, I have have to start using a daily planner to get shit done. I would recommend getting a planner and using it to manage your time. Make space in there for things like rest and relaxation etc. But this might help you feel more motivated to do hw etc if u know you have just had or will have rest time.

supabeast

Limp moose wrote: »

work out. It helps. Takes your mind off stressors and gives you endorphins. Also keeps you healthy so you dont get stress sick.

I second the motion.

Also, if you can afford it, take a nice vacation. I was pretty strung out at the end of last semester; a week sipping daiquiris and eating ceviché at a private beach in Acapulco did wonders.