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I'm in need of some advice. No one I know has a good enough understanding of relationships and girls for me to ask. Any help would be appreciated and I'll try to keep this short. Just a little back story first.
So 3 months ago i met a girl at work. She has lived in Canada for 2 years. She had a long distance boyfriend for 5 years who still lived back in her country and they both knew he would never come to Canada. So eventually she started showing interest in me. I did the same. I never made the first move (not right with her having a boyfriend). But after she kissed me for the first time, she phoned her boyfriend and told him she had met someone else. So after that we began to date but they remained friends. Phoning each other sometimes and emailing. I'll admit it bothered me but she assured me it was nothing and that he was her bestfriend and nothing more. As just as a side note I never learned the guys name.
Now back to the present. So sunday night her ex called. And as she talked to him i watched TV. This happened for about 15 minutes. She even talked to him in english so i could understand everything. So after they talked we both went to bed. We had sex twice then fell asleep (she initiated). Then next morning we woke up pretty early around 8am. And she initiated sex again. So as we were having sex i heard her yell something that sounded weird. It sounded like "fuck christian". So i stopped and asked her what she said. She said nothing and that it was something stupid. So she refuse to tell me for about 10 minutes until she said " I said fuck christian, like the religion". Now it made no sense to me at all. SO i asked her what her exboyfriends name was and she said "tom". This was without any pause AT ALL. So i dropped the subject .
2 hours later she was checking her email with me and there was an email from her ex and she quickly grabbed the laptop from me and refused let me see it. So i walked away into my room without saying a word. She finally came into my room and told me her exs name was Christian but that her saying it ment nothing at all. So it hurt me so bad that she said that. She apologized over and over again saying she loved me and it didnt mean anything, and she wasn't sure why she said it and she was sorry she lied to me. So i finally forgave her and told her it was going to be ok.
Now I think i made a big mistake. I cannot stop thinking about what happened. It obviously ment something. She was in a "relationship" with this guy for 5 years and she was talking to him the night before. I love this girl but I just feel like I'm forgetting why I ever did. She outright lied to me. She even told me she had planned to get all her friends and family to never mention her exs name around me so i would never find out. Now I feel she might even be lying to me about breaking up with him. Is this worth breaking up with someone over? Is she still in love with her ex? Or was it actually just a mistake? Thanks in advance for any help.